4. Core Values
• This is demonstrated:
– In how you spend your time
– In those parts of you that are not negotiable
• Forms the foundation for your life
values, behaviors and traditions
7. Who a person is will ultimately
determine their success in life – more
than their brains, talents and
competencies
8. Three Essentials
• Competent – must be good at something
• Alliance Builder – build alliances or
coalitions with others who are better than
you at skills you need to reach win/win
relationships
• Character – must have the character not
to screw it up
9. Ask Yourself
Considering my brains, talents
and competencies, am I reaching
my full potential or is something
holding me back from being all
that I could be?
10. Character
• Much more than NOT lying, cheating or
stealing
• Courage, character and competencies to
meet the demands of reality
– Integrated personality and life
11. If we lack integrity…
• …then we’re unable to meet the demands
of reality
• No matter how talented, smart, educated
or affluent we are, our ability to capitalize
on our brains, talents and competencies
will be significantly, negatively affected by
our lack of integrity
12. Six areas of focus
• The ability to connect authentically
• The ability to be oriented toward the truth
• The ability to work in a way that gets results
and finishes well
• The ability to embrace, engage and deal with
the negative
• The ability to be oriented toward growth
• The ability to be transcendent
13. Six areas of focus
Six Personal Traits As Seen in Business
• Connect authentically • Leads to trust
• Oriented toward truth • Operate in reality
• Get results & finish well • Accomplish the mission
• Embrace the negative • End, resolve or transform
problems
• Oriented toward growth • Increase skills & persona
• Transcendence • Work within a larger
purpose
14. The “Wake”: what we leave behind
The wake doesn’t lie and doesn’t care about excuses
Tasks Relationships
• What did s/he • How did s/he treat other
accomplish? people?
15. The “Gap”
• Difference between our present level of
functioning in each of the six areas and
the ideal
• We’ll never achieve perfection, but we can
improve throughout life
16. Dysfunction: exertion of effort in a
gap that causes a greater gap – a
greater problem exists after than
before
Dysfunction ≠ Mistakes
19. What is a boundary?
• Boundaries define ownership
• Ownership leads to control
• Freedom to make choices
• Ability to set limits
• Right to protect what you own
• With all this comes
responsibility, accountability and
consequences
20. What Boundaries Do For Us
• Differentiation and Separateness
• Containment
• Definition of self
• Set limits on ourselves and others
• Build core values
21. Results:
• Live by the law of sowing and reaping
• Live by the law of responsibility to vs. for
• Live by the law of respect
• Live by the law of motivation
• Live by the law of hurt vs. harm
22. But My Boss is a Jerk!
• Rude
• Demeaning
• Demanding
• ADD
• Apathetic
• Unavailable
• Weird
• Sick
• Immature
23. How to Manage Up
• Put the problem where it should be
• Take responsibility for your own actions
• Communicate clearly, honestly, firmly &
calmly
• Embrace the negative & either
end, resolve or transform the problem
• Build alliances to get the project done –
but inform your boss of your activities
24. Other thoughts
• Don’t violate your values for a job
• Demand respect and give it – even if they
don’t deserve it
• Work on increasing the number of things
you can do as your grow older
• Have a transcendent purpose that is
outside of work
• Take the emotion out of business