9. After the parents of the male and the male have chosen a female, the parents of the male, together with close relatives,gather(isun) to the female's house to ask for the hand of the girl in behalf of the male. Then, the two parties will decide for the brideswealth (ungsud).
10. An arranged marriage can also proceed through the institution of "surrendering to the parents of the woman" (maglillah pa maas sing babai).
11. Marriage by Abduction and Elopement Man with kalis (kris). While guns have replaced swords as practical weapons, bladed weapons still have importance as symbols of masculinity and bravery.
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13. In spite of their seriousness, abductions are a game, and appeal to young men precisely because of the risk.
14. In Tausug belief an abduction is due to the desire of the boy, while an elopement implies desire on the part of the girl.
16. There is also a symbolic form of elopement called "going home to obtain a husband" (muuy magbana) in which a woman presents herself to the man or his parents announcing her desire to marry him. Marriage by Abduction and Elopement
19. In some cases, usually second marriage, the formal marriage ceremony may proceed a few days later.
20. It is longest when the girl is under age and has not yet menstruated
21. Although it is possible to "marry in a handkerchief" (kawin ha saputangan) in which the ceremony with the underage girl proceeds, the boy goes to live with his parents-in-law but does not have intercourse with the girl until she has come of age.
22. During the engagement period, the man may render, although not obligatory, services to his bride’s parents in the form of performing household chores.