To whom should we love..?

1. TO WHOM SHOULD WE LOVE..?

2. HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR LIFE PARTNER
• W.A.D.M. Wickramasinghe
• U.P.D. De Silva

3. THE 4 CATEGORIES
THESE CATEGORIES ARE SUGGESTIONS OF WHAT MAY BE IDEAL
 When
 Where
 How
 Expectations

4. WHEN
 An ideal time would be towards the end of your college
career
- Before that age, opposite gender attraction is
usually general
 By law: over 18 years old
-Before that age,

5. WHERE
Work
place
Could be
anywhere
Marriage
proposal
A/L
tuition
class

6. EXPECTATIONS
 Some people will form unreal expectations of what
they are looking for in a partner.
“Beauty is fading and charm is deceitful”
 My partner should be very close to me in terms of my:
 Affectionately
 Financially
 Academically
This will generally minimize many problems later on.

7. HOW
 Through facial expressions
-Eye contacts
- Winking
 Through social networks
- Face book
- My space
- Skype
 Different occasions

8. FACTORS AFFECTING THE DECISION
 Family
 love and respect between parents,
 how they deal with relatives,
 Culture
 Communication
 Dialogue
 Ability to express feelings
 Responsibility (Level of success in life)
 Financial Status
 Diseases (hepatitis, Cancer, infertility, psychological disorders,
etc.)

9. QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF AFTER YOU FIND YOUR
POTENTIAL PARTNER
 Q1: Life
 Q2: Culture
 Q3: Personality

10. Q1: LIFE
 How do they spend money?
 Do they love to serve others?
 Do they respect other people?
 Do they respect the lowly?
 Is there any kind of addiction present in their lives?
 Is the person stubborn or heard-headed?
 Are they able to keep a private life with their spouse?
 Are they quick to lose friends?
 How long does it take to forgive someone? A moment, day, year,
forever?
 Ambition, greediness, laziness…

11. Q2: CULTURE
 Who are their friends?
 What books do they read?
 What websites do they go on?
 What shows/ movies do they watch?
 How do they spend their free time?
 Hobbies?
 Music?

12. Q3: PERSONALITY
 The dangers of comparing?
 Are they hesitant in making decisions?
 Punctuality in time?
 Do they like to own everything they see?
 Are they able to say sorry when they are wrong?
 Are they suspicious/ paranoid about people around
them?
 Humility?

13. GOALS FOR MARRIAGE
 Happiness
 To become one unity
 Love
 Sharing
 Protection

14. WHAT CAN LEAD A MARRIAGE TO A DIVORCE?
 Infidelity
 Finances
 Addictions
 Lack Commitment
 High Expectations
 Adultery
 Compatibility
 Family Preasures

15. ACCORDING TO THE OUR RESEARCH
Love
45%
Care
20%
Money
5%
Protection
0%
Appearanc
e
30%
Boys
Appearanc
e
10%
Love
40%
Protection
20%
Care
10%
Money
20%
Girls

16. ACCORDING TO THE OUR RESEARCH
70
90
100
40
60
100
120
100
80
60
40
20
0
Issues of priveres love
affiares
Dowry or Savings Education level and
ocupation
Girls Boys