MEN NEED TO CHANGE THEIR IDEOLOGY TOO by Dr. Narendra Malhotra

1. MEN NEED TO change THEIR
IDEOLOGY TOO
THE PROBLEM OF GENDER BIAS IN INDIA
WHERE HAVE ALL THE DAUGHTERS GONE?

2. “Women are not dying because of the
diseases we cannot treat, they are dying
because societies have yet to make the
decision that their lives are worth saving”
“Prof Fathallah”.
INDIA IS THE 125TH HAPPIEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD WHY ?
WHY NOT NO 1 OR NO 2 OR 3 ?
BECOS WE HAVE NO WOMEN EMPOWERMENT
WOMEN PROBLEM IS “WEEEEP”
MEN DON’T UNDERSTAND YET AND ARE NOT WILLING TO CHANGE THEIR
IDEOLOGY

3. SURVEY ON PREFERENCE OF SON IN THE
WORLD
(WEB SEARCH)
• Only Major Son Preference:
India,Bangladesh,Jordon,Nepal,
Pakistan,South Korea,Syria
• Moderate Preference:
Egypt,Mexico,Senegal,
Turkey,Tunesia, Yemen
• GIRL PREFERENCE:
Jamaica,Venezuala
• One of each gender :
Other countries usa uk europe
singapore etc

4. HOW AND WHY SEX RATIO CHANGES ?
• MALES OUT NUMBER FEMALES AT BIRTH
• MALES HAVE A HIGHER MORTALITY AT BIRTH THAN EARLY NEONATAL
PERIOD
• IN INDIA FEMALE MORTALITY AS INFANT AND CHILD IS MUCH
HIGHER(AS SEEN IN INFANT AND CHILD SEX RATIO AND FEW EXILE SEX
RATIO)
• THE LEVEL OF EDUCATION IN INDIAN WOMEN IS LOWEST IN THE WORLD
• LEVELS OF MATERNAL MORTALITY IS THE HIGH AS COMAPRED IN THE
WORLD
• BIG GENDER BIAS IN INDIAN WOMAN AND NO POWER OF MAKING
DECISION
• GIRLS AND WOMEN HAVE LESS ACCESS TO FOOD AND HEALTH CARE
THAN BOYS AND MEN
• SATI AND DOWRY DEATHS WERE AND IN SOME AREAS STILL A MAJOR
SOCIAL HAZARD
• PURDAH AND CHILD MARRAIGES AND NO CHOICE TO WOMEN TO
REGULATE THEIR OWN FERTILITY
• MALE CHILD IS DESIGNATED AS HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD
• PREFERENCE FOR A SON
• ONLY SONS CAN PRAY FOR RELEASE OF SOULS OF DEAD PARENTS

5. EFFECTS OF SON PREFERENCE IN INDIA
most families keep having children till
they get a son
benefits of sons in indian society
1.ECONOMIC UTILITY
2.SOCIO-CULTURAL UTILITY
3.RELIGIOUS UTILITY
4.DAUGHTERS ARE CONSIDERED
ECONOMIC LIABILITY,DOWRY AND
SYSTEM OF HEAVY COSTS WEDDINGS

6. WEEEEP
ENVIORNMENT
EDUCATION
EMPLOYMENT
EMPOWERMENT

7. WHO WILL TACKLE “WEEEEP”
• GOVT OF INDIA
• MEDIA
• NGO’S
• DOCTORS
• SOCIETY
• SCHOOLS AND COLLEGES
• FOGSI
• OTHER PROFESSIONAL
ORGANISATIONS
•MEN
• YOU AND ME

8. EDUCATION Government of India, NGO’s and all are working overtime on the
projects of educating women in India, primary school education is free, Secondary
school education is free for girls or highly subsidized and lots of scholarships are
available, yet we appear to have failed –She is educated now even in village but
she still does not matter and she still cannot decide and HER problems of
W.E.E.E.E.P are still the same in 2018.
All HER problems are being improved these days but yet below par
FOGSI in 2008 realized that just academics updating is not enough to bring about
a change in MMR hence the slogan
BETI BACHAO BETI PADHAO was coined and was FOGSI ‘ s theme with the FOGSI
daughter parked with 7 ribbons to highlight the problems of girls and women in
India.
Today we FOGSIANS feel it is a great pride that government of India under a very
progressive forward looking dynamic leader Shri Narendra Modiji adopted this
slogan as a national movement,
So yes EDUCATE (first E ) the girls we must.

9. EMPLOYMENT After education what !
These girls of India even from rural backgrounds are now
clearing graduation and pursuing post-graduation courses,
but, BUT! A very small percentage of these girls are
working or get employment worth their education so the
Govt. of India has to provide ample jobs and equal
opportunity to girls and women on all post. Yes Indian air
force now has women fighter pilot but only a handful
(2-3to be exact), why not 30% at least.
So the 2nd “E” of WEEEEP has to be addressed on a war
footing if we want to be near S.D.Gs till 2030.

10. ENVIROMENT the 3rd “E” of women‘s WEEEEP problems is
the environment. India still struggles for potable water,
hunger, clean air, toilets: the list is endless. yes we have
started on many fronts and Swach Bharat and Toilets
India are two great initiatives BUT! It’s the people of
India who need to be educated on civic sense, clean water
,hand hygiene ,menstrual hygiene and food hygiene ,toilet
hygiene and environmental hygiene.
Living CLEAN is our only hope of living HEALTHY
Diseases need to be prevented not treated so tackling 3rd
“E” of WEEEEP is very -very Important.

11. EMPOWERMENT The 4th “E” of
WEEEEP is empowerment itself
what is empowerment is the question and how can we
empower our women .Broadly women empowerment
means there should be no discrimination between men
and women .Women when they are born in India should
be able to enjoy the same social rights
H.E.R( Health Empowerment Respect)
which is the FOGSI THEME OF 2018 depicting that a
professional organization is so sensitive to women’s need
and will go all out to work with all stake holders to
empower women so that she remains healthy and can
work and live with respect.

12. The points for tackling the 4th E’ …….one BIG WISH LIST
1.There should be respect and dignity towards woman.
2.Woman should have independence of their lives inside and
outside their home and at work.
3.They should be able to make their own decision by their own
choice. SHE DECIDES and HE HELPS
4.Society and MEN should hold woman in high social respect.
5. Equal rights in society and legally.
6. No discrimination of any type of education.
7.Should be able to select their own economic and financial choices
on their own.
8.No discrimination in jobs and equal pay.
9. Safe and secure working location and environment with proper
privacy.
10.Should be able to freely live their life with a sense of self worth,
respect and dignity.

13. How do we empower women?
1.Change the prespective towards women.
2.Overcome the patriarchate bottlenecks.
3.Implement the GAP`s.
4.Block the loopholes in legal structure.
5.Have a strong political will.
SENSITISE AND EDUCATE MEN TO RESPECT WOMEN
BOYS IN SCHOOL TO BE EDUCATED ABOUT GIRLS

14. 202008

17. NATIONAL WALK FOR HER ON 2ND JAN 2019…FOGSI WILL WALK

18. Traditional Roles Are Changing
• All cultures promote a
set of behaviors for
boys and a set for girls
• Roles learned by age 5
• Reinforced throughout
life
– Teachers
– Parents
– Authority figures
– The media
Traditional roles can be harmful to
men and women due to biases in
expectations
Assumes men should be
aggressive and unemotional
impacts sensitivity and
creativity
Assumes women are emotional
and weak
impacts leadership
positions

19. Changes in the
Roles of Women
• Challenges still
exist
– Balancing career
with family
– When and for
how long to
leave the
workforce
– Reentering the
workplace
– Limited access to
top-level jobs
Changes in the
Roles of Men
Many boys have been conditioned to be
competitors and to win!
They have been urged to
Be tough and aggressive
Learn teamwork
Select traditional male pastimes
Enter masculine professions

20. Changes in the Roles of Men
• Girls could be tomboys, but a boy could not be
a “sissy”
• A man was under pressure to prove himself
and keep moving up the career ladder
Problems Facing Women
When women pursue careers, they often face three
challenges:
The Wage Gap
The Glass Ceiling
Balancing career and family(THE MOMMY TRACK)

21. As we enter the new millennium, we
believe that it is time for new
metaphors to capture the subtle,
systemic forms of discrimination that
still linger. It’s not the ceiling that’s
holding women back; it’s the whole
structure of the organizations in which
we work: the foundation, the beams,
the walls, the very air.
Debra E. Meyerson and Joyce K. Fletcher
Professors, Center for Gender in Organizations,
Simmons Graduate School of Management

22. Generalizations Concerning Gender-
Specific Communication
Men
• More direct
• Dominate discussions
• Interrupt to take turns
• Work our solutions
alone
Women
• Emphasize politeness
• Work out solutions
with others
• Speak with frequent
pauses which are used
for taking turns

23. Generalizations Concerning Gender-
Specific Communication
Men
• Speak in a steady
flow, free of
pauses
• Humor based on
banter, teasing,
witty exchange
• Minimize doubts
Women
• Humor based on
anecdotes
• More likely to
make fun of self
than others
• Downplay their
certainty

24. Men and women should learn from one
another without abandoning successful
traits they already possess. Men can
learn to be more collaborative and
intuitive, yet remain result-oriented.
Women need not give up being
nurturing in order to learn to be
comfortable with power and conflict.
Alice Sargeant
Author, The Androgynous Manager

25. Summary
• Gender bias is discrimination based on beliefs
about men’s and women's
– Abilities
– Characteristics
– Behaviors
• Traditional roles assigned to both genders can
limit their opportunities to choose best career
or lifestyle

26. Summary
• Many men and women are breaking out of
traditional roles
• More women have entered the workplace and
in nontraditional jobs over the last few
decades

27. Summary
• Men and women have
a wider range of
options regarding
marriage and children
• Organizations are
responding by offering
more flexible
scheduling options
address family concerns

28. Summary
• Women are still subject
to
– The wage gap
– The glass ceiling
• Men are choosing new
roles for themselves

29. Summary
• Formerly rigid male roles
are recognized as
restrictive and perhaps
having adverse effects on
health
• Men are learning to make
conscious choices about
marriage, children, and
career paths

30. Summary
• Sexual harassment may be
a problem for men and
women
• There are two forms
– Quid pro quo
– Hostile work environment
• Most organizations have
taken steps to develop
guidelines to help
employees avoid
harassment or fight it
when it occurs

31. .
Summary
• Methods of coping with
gender-biased behavior
include
– Learning the
communication
differences between
men and women
– Observing new rules of
etiquette in the
workplace

32. It took a revolution to get women where they
are in business today. But now, to push
hard-won gains wider and deeper, a different
approach is necessary.
It is a strategy based on small wins—incremental
changes that have the power to transform
organizations positively for both men and
women.
Debra E. Meyerson and Joyce K. Fletcher
Professors, Center for Gender in Organizations, Simmons Graduate School of
Management

33. MEN NEED TO CHANGE
FROM CHILDHOOD TO ADULTS
BOYS NEED TO BE TAUGHT
Gender norms and behaviours are
taught and learned
How to Work
with Men & Boys

34. Men & Boys as
Agents of Change
• Dispel the “boys will be
boys” perspective
• Provide learning
opportunities that help them
resist the norms that
encourage violence (ie. TV,
movies, games)

35. “There is no chance for the welfare of the world
unless the condition of women is improved, it is
not possible for a bird to fly on one wing”.
“Swami Vivekanand”
MEN NEED TO BE THE SECOND WING

36. We are living at an important and fruitful
moment now, for it is clear to men that the
images of adult manhood given by the
popular culture are worn out; a man can no
longer depend on them. By the time a man is
thirty-five he knows that the images of the
right man, the tough man, the true man
which he received in high school do not work
in life.
Robert Bly
Author, Iron John

38. SHE DECIDES……and HE HELPS