Success Sabotaging Lies By Mel Feller, MPA, MHR Offices in Texas and Utah Let me start by asking a couple of questions, what beliefs do you have about success and personal excellence? What programs do you have downloaded in the massive computer that is known as your brain? Are they a plus in your pursuit for self-help motivation and personal growth development? On the other hand, are they holding you back and controlling what you will be able to achieve? We have heard the opposite of the terms I have listed. Replace the opposite thoughts of these with these success belief builders. I wanted to point out the positive and not the negative. There Is No Such Thing as Failure The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing and succeed. Lloyd Jones Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, “I have failed three times,” and what happens when he says, “I am a failure.” ~S.I. Hayakawa There is a man who failed in business at age 21. He was defeated in a legislative race at age 22. He failed again in business at age 24. He overcame the death of his girlfriend at age 26. He had a nervous breakdown at age 27. He lost a congressional race at age 34. He lost a congressional race at age 36. He lost a senatorial race at age 45. He failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47. He lost a senatorial race at age 49. He was elected president of the United States at age 52. The man’s name was Abraham Lincoln. He would not have accomplished becoming president if he had believed that failure was something to avoid. Thomas Edison thought the same way about failure when going through his 9,999 attempts to invent the light bulb.

1. Success Sabotaging Lies
By Mel Feller, MPA, MHR Offices in Texas and Utah
Coaching For Success 360 Inc. /Mel Feller Coaching
Let me start by asking a couple of questions, what beliefs do you have about success and
personal excellence? What programs do you have downloaded in the massive computer that is
known as your brain? Are they a plus in your pursuit for self-help motivation and personal
growth development? On the other hand, are they holding you back and controlling what you
will be able to achieve?
We have heard the opposite of
the terms I have listed. Replace
the opposite thoughts of these
with these success belief
builders. I wanted to point out
the positive and not the
negative.
There Is No Such Thing as Failure
The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do
nothing and succeed. Lloyd Jones
Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, “I have failed three
times,” and what happens when he says, “I am a failure.” ~S.I. Hayakawa
There is a man who failed in business at age 21.
He was defeated in a legislative race at age 22.
He failed again in business at age 24.
He overcame the death of his girlfriend at age 26.
He had a nervous breakdown at age 27.
He lost a congressional race at age 34.
Success Sabotaging Lies by Mel Feller

2. He lost a congressional race at age 36.
He lost a senatorial race at age 45.
He failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47.
He lost a senatorial race at age 49.
He was elected president of the United States at age 52.
The man’s name was Abraham Lincoln.
He would not have accomplished becoming president if he had believed that failure was
something to avoid. Thomas Edison thought the same way about failure when going through
his 9,999 attempts to invent the light bulb.
Whatever Happens, Take Responsibility
The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-
respect springs. Joan Didion
It is not always pleasant to take responsibility for our life and circumstances, especially when
those circumstances are unfavorable or completely out of our direct control. However, when
you fail to take responsibility you put yourself at a clear disadvantage. You are disadvantaged
because you are approaching the situation from a source of weakness where you become the
victim of circumstance. Moreover, from this weakened position there is nothing you can do to
improve your situation. In other words, you are resigned to the fate that you are powerless and
incapable of making things better.
Obviously, this is not an ideal way to live. Life will always present us with problems, and things
will not always go as we had planned or imagined. To shun responsibility in such circumstances
weakens our resolve and certainly does not help us improve the situation. Taking responsibility
is, therefore, the only answer; however, this is rarely easy. It is certainly not easy when we
resist life and all it brings to the table.
The key to gaining personal power and strength is to take full responsibility for your life and
circumstances no matter what kind of predicament you face. To do so you must openly
acknowledge and accept how things are without an ounce of resistance.

3. The truth is that life is not always fair and certainly does not play favorites. It does not
necessarily punish bad work, behavior and/or intentions. Equally as much, it does not
necessarily reward good behavior, hard work, and/or sincere intentions. Life is simply life. It has
no agenda and will surprise you with something new around every corner.
In order to live a more responsible life, we must fully accept the fact that we always get what
we deserve. Yes, this might often be exactly the opposite of what we may want, but it is
something that we must take full responsibility for.
It is Not Necessary to Understand Everything to Be Able to Use Everything
Inspirations never go in for long engagements; they demand immediate marriage to action.
Brendan Francis
Truly successful people have a tendency toward action. There are many of us who wish to
know all the facts prior to taking action. By the time we have done so, someone else has
already taken that action and capitalized on it. This does not mean taking foolhardy and
impulsive actions without effective planning.
However, once you have a strong plan, and once you have absorbed the facts before you, do
not be afraid to Take Action. Consistently, daily, one small step after one small step.
Successful people balance knowledge with action. There were probably plenty of scientists and
engineers at Stanford and Cal Tech who knew more about computer circuitry than Steve Jobs or
Steve Wozniack, but Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniack were the ones who were most effective in
using what they had to get Big Results.
Work Is Play
“When I work, I relax; doing nothing or entertaining strangers makes me tired.” Pablo
Picasso

4. The key to finding work you love is to monitor your attitude and bring passion to what you do,
while also discovering your passions and strengths. By designing your life mission statement,
goals, and values, you can move ever forward toward bringing what you love together with
what you do.
There are no dead-end jobs. The only dead-end jobs are those jobs in which a person who is
performing the job has lost the sense of possibility, has refused to take responsibility for their
life, and who has come to believe that failure is the only consequence of everything they try.
Here is your challenge: bring the same curiosity and vitality to your job and your work as you do
to your play. Pay attention to your strengths, and grow them. Pay attention to your
weaknesses, and come up with a self-development plan of action to minimize your weaknesses
and maximize your strengths. Give it 110% all the time!
There is No Abiding Success Without Commitment
The drops of rain make a hole in the stone not by violence but by oft falling. Lucretius
Larry Bird was one of the best basketball players from the 1980′s. Nevertheless, he was
seemingly slow, could not jump, and often seemed like he was playing in slow motion in
comparison to some of the more fluid players around him.
Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players of all time, was cut from his high school
basketball team.
Steve Jobs was fired from the very same company that he founded!
In addition, you read about all of Abraham Lincoln’s failed attempts before he became
President of the United States.
What was the difference all of these people had in common versus thousands of others who
have never gone anywhere in their lives, and are living lives of quiet desperation and
mediocrity?

5. One word: Commitment.
It means practicing harder.
It means playing harder.
It means having more mental toughness.
It means getting more out of what you have than others around you.
It means taking more action than those around you.
It means developing a support group of others who support and inspire you, versus bringing
you down.
It means studying the lives and key beliefs of those who have succeeded, and of those who are
succeeding.
In the words of Erma Bombeck, columnist, author, and comedian: When I stand before God at
the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say,
“I used everything you gave me.”
Mel Feller, MPA, MHR, is a well-known real estate, business consultant, personal development
consultant and speaker, specializing in performance, productivity, and profits. Mel is the
president of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching For Success, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching, a real
estate and business specific coaching company. His three books for real estate professionals are
systems on how to become an exceptional sales performer. His four books in Business and
Government Grants are ways to leverage and increase your business Success in both time and
money! His book on Personal Development “Lies that Will Sabotage You Success”. Mel Feller is
in Texas and In Utah.