1. Bloom!
A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
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2. Whether you are fully aware of it or not,
you are in one cycle or the other
Doom Vs.
Bloom
Cycle Cycle
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3. WHY WE DOOM
“ONENESS BROKEN”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family Health
Kids Career
Loss Addictions
Friends Culture
Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over
3 you…through painful toil…all the days… Gen. 3

4. HOW WE BLOOM
“ONENESS SUSTAINED”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family
Health
Kids
Career
Loss
Addictions
Friends Culture
…they will become one flesh Gen. 2:24
4 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph. 5:21

5. WHY WE MUST BLOOM
God patterned them after Himself. Gen. 1:27
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…so that we can be mirrors that reflect His glory 2Cor. 3:18

6. HOMEWORK:
A COMMITMENT PLAN
-to sacrificially love daily, yearly, & seasonally
1. Find your vows and verses. Decide what to do with them.
2. Clarify your top 2 love languages and list 5 ways it can be met
3. Determine what are the top 3 threats to your oneness
4. List the top 5 reasons you married the other
5. Discuss how you will handle your future anniversaries
Bonus:
Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment
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7. HOMEWORK:
CHERISH & RESPECT
1. Husband asks the following:
What have I done or failed to do to make you feel uncherished?
What are some things I can do to make you feel cherished?
2. Wives ask the following:
What have I done or failed to do to make you feel disrespected?
What are some things I can do to make you feel respected?
3. Together reflect back on your love language lists
to see how the cherish and respect needs relate.
4. Pray daily asking God’s help to cherish/respect your spouse.
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8. What it takes to BLOOM!
The 5 key nutrients:
•Commit to Love
•Cherish & Respect
•Be Gracious & Forgive
•Choose the Right Words
•Seek a Greater Purpose
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9. DOOMING Myth #3:
Certain things cannot be forgiven
BLOOMING Truth #3:
Grace and forgiveness is possible
in all situations and vital
to sustain a healthy marriage
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10. Without G&F With G&F
“oneness lost” “oneness gained”
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11. WHY WE NEED G&F?
Each of us are imperfect people
who make mistakes (sin) and need
grace and forgiveness
Otherwise, our
self-worth is
destroyed by guilt
and/or shame.
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12. BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you
may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Colossians 3:13
Grace leaves Forgiveness
space releases
for error
“an attitude” “a process”
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13. BE GRACIOUS
But where sin increased, grace increased all the more. Rom. 5:20
Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt. Col 4:6
…the one and only Son…full of grace and truth. John 1:14
• To show unmerited favor
• To bear with one another
• To give what is undeserved
• Grace = Gift
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14. AM I GRACIOUS?
REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF”
RESPOND
“GRACE
&
TRUTH”
REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”
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15. FORGIVE
Bear with one another and forgive whatever grievances you may have
against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
• An act of mercy
• To give up resentment
• To release another
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16. RECONCILIATION
Past PROCESS
Ownership Present
“I am sorry
for…” Forgiveness Future
Takes one “Would you please Trust
forgive me?”
“How are we
Takes two doing?”
Takes time
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17. 5 LANGUAGES OF
APOLOGY
What is yours?
-Regret “I am sorry”
-Responsibility “I was wrong”
-Restitution “What can I do?”
-Repentance “I will try not do that again.”
-Requesting Forgiveness “Will you forgive me”
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18. G&F IS LINKED TO THE CROSS
Only graced people
give grace.
Only forgiven people
forgive.
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19. Bitter Better
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20. HOMEWORK:
BE GRACIOUS AND FORGIVE
-assess and get a plan of action (see attached)
1. 4 key questions on Grace
2. 6 key questions on Forgiveness
Bonus:
Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment
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