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- 1. BLOOM!
How to Escape the Doom Cycle and Start to Bloom
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- 2. There is
Good News and
there is Bad News
for All Marriages
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- 3. Bad News
Marriages were built to Fail
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- 4. Good News
Marriages were designed for
your fullness of life and for
God’s glory
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- 5. Whether you are fully aware of it or not, you
are in one cycle or the other
Doom Vs.
Bloom
Cycle Cycle
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- 6. The Challenge:
Most people don’t know how to
effectively assess whether they are in
Doom or Bloom….why?
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- 7. Trusts in the LORD
Delights in the law of the LORD
On his law meditates day and night
Leaves are always green
Never fails to bear fruit
Does not wither in the heat
Does not walk in the counsel of the
wicked
Heart is deceitful above all things
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- 9. Brian Rhen:
Rhen:
• Pastor
• Marriage Coach
• Married
• Kids
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- 11. Myth #1: Wedding vows are the
most important commitment you
make
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- 12. Myth #2: Most spouses know the
other’s needs
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- 16. Myth #1: Wedding vows are the
most important commitment you
make (The Uncertain Couple)
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- 17. COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
This is my command: Love (agape) each other. John 15:17
DAILY
YEARLY
SEASONALLY
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- 18. COMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVE
5 Love Languages
-WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
-QUALITY TIME
-GIFTS
-ACTS OF SERVICE
-PHYSICAL TOUCH
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- 20. complete
Committed to love?
wife
room to improve
room to improve complete
husband
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- 21. Myth #2: Most spouses know the
other’s needs (The Card Carrying
Couple)
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- 22. CHERISH & RESPECT
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband. Eph. 5:33
with
cherish
he she
responds responds without
respect
with
respect he she
reacts reacts
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without
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cherish
- 23. CHECKUP QUESTION #2
What is the degree you are
currently cherishing (your
wife) and respecting (your
husband?)
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- 24. respecting
Cherished and
wife
Respected?
room to improve
room to improve cherishing
husband
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- 25. Myth #3: Certain things cannot
be forgiven (The Startup Couple)
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- 26. BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you
may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Colossians 3:13
Grace leaves Forgiveness
space for releases
error
“an attitude” “a process”
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- 27. CHECKUP QUESTION #3
How capable are you of being
gracious and of forgiving?
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- 28. complete
Gracious and Forgiving?
wife
room to improve
room to improve complete
husband
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- 30. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
James 1:19
Argument REACTING the other
Destructive offensive, names, sarcasm, violent = scarring
Disagreement REACTING issue
Harsh defensive, personalities arise = separating
Normal dialogue RESPONDING each other
Kind attentive, encouraging = supporting
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- 31. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
CIRCUMSTANCE
THOUGHTS
EMOTIONS
Hurt, Fear, Want, Joy
3 sec.
with self with God
REACT RESPOND
“FLESH” “SPIRIT”
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- 32. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF”
RESPOND
“GRACE
&
TRUTH”
REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”
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- 33. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF”
Listen
Clarify Thoughts
Identify Feelings
Right Tone, Time, Words
Find Compromise
REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”
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- 34. CHECKUP QUESTION #4
Are you using the right words
in your communication?
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- 35. Myth #5: God’s purposes will
naturally evolve (The Chaotic
Churchgoing Couple)
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- 36. SEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
People
seldom hit
what they
do not
aim at.”
Thoreau
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- 37. SEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
•Marriage Purpose Statement
•Marriage Verse
•Values (being)
•Goals (doing)
•Dreams
•Prayer
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- 39. BLOOM!
Where are you?
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- 40. FINAL CHECKUP
Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) - 5(strong)
___Commit to Love
___
___Cherish & Respect
___
___Be
___ Gracious & Forgive
___Choose the Right Words
___
___Seek a Greater Purpose
___
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- 41. Do you want to grow in
any of these five areas?
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- 42. Bloom!
A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
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- 43. • 5-weeks of live webinars (1 per week)
• 1-year of group tele-coaching (1 per month)
tele-
• Lifetime access to recorded materials
(including updated materials)
• 5-weeks of follow-up e-course (1 per
week)
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- 44. • Convenient – take from home
• Repeatable – review anytime
• Normally $625 for 5-weeks
• Only $249 for signing up today
• < $50 per session per couple
• 30-day money-back guarantee
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- 45. • 15% of proceeds donated
• Wings of Hope – radio-based marriage
ministry in Malawi
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- 46. When is Bloom?
5 Wednesdays
Time: 7:30 PM – 9:00 PST
Starts February 2, 2011
February 9, February 16
March 2, March 9
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