The document presents an agenda for a workshop on self-improvement and goal achievement. It includes topics such as self-created adversity, the S.M.A.R.T. goal principle, attitude adjustments, time management, and getting started and staying motivated. Various quotes and exercises are provided to encourage positive thinking and goal-oriented behavior.
6. Have a big enough WHY?
And you’ll find a big enough
HOW!
7. Why do you really want it?
What’s the worst that can happen?
Who are your 5 people?
Where can you start today?
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W h en w ill you h ave h ad enou gh ?
36. • Feel Fear – Do It Anyway
Take Risks
Positive
• Believe
37. What To Do?
- Forgive the past
- Eulogy
- 777 Exercise (worksheet)
- S.M.A.R.T. (goal worksheet)
38. What To Do?
- Choose your words carefully
- Mind Mapping
- Vision Boards – Everywhere!!
- Google/YouTube
- Like Minded People / Ask For Help!
- Small chunks
63. You Can Have Anything You
Want – Just Not Everything
64. “Every Day Is A New Day…
What Doesn’t Kill Me Makes Me Stronger”
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73. Understanding Communication
Love
Honesty Dependability Appreciatio
Acceptance n
Compromise
Effort Trust
Openness
Support
Respect
Manners
Patience
Humor Sincerity
ATTITUDE
74. HOME
Your Mini
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(new slide) Introduce Myself Homeless 7 th grade dropout Masters degree in Org Management Director at PADI for 18yrs Own two houses My own business = I KNOW what it takes to set and achieve goals We’re going to pack A LOT into this short time of 45mins so hang on!!!
It’s ALLLLL about attitude!!! Victor Frankl – Attitude…what he focused on….got him through the concentration camps!
POLLING QUESTION: What three reasons you haven’t achieved your goals? In no particular order Throughout todays presentation we’ll talk about the top reasons why we don’t achieve our goals
(new slide) The real key to success in goal setting is having a big enough WHY – that translates into finding the HOW Know your REAL motivation Where there’s a will…there’s a way
What do you want? Be specific and peel back the onion What’s the worst that can happen? Figure it out, solve it, and move on
Everything we believe up until this moment is based on our conditioning – from outsiders and from within. In order to change what we’ve been doing that’s not necessarily working, we MUST reprogram how we look at life and the future. We MUST harness our fear for good energy We MUST quit the excuses and get on with living life!!!!
(new slide) The past does NOT equal the present. What most of us face is: PAST Conditioning Judgments Love withdrawn FEAR of rejection PRESENT Comfort zone Ignorance Lazy Excuses Assumptions Take for granted Beliefs FUTURE Uncertainty What if???? TODAY, we’re going to break through some of this nonsense!!!
Life is full of vicious circles…both negative and positive. If you feel good…that builds on itself (confidence) and vice versa TODAY we’re going to break that cycle! How you react/respond to a given situation will result in your attitude You come to group and have a bad attitude People sense it and push your buttons (BTW – there will always be button pushers in your life) You react You get into trouble You get even madder Get into more trouble Do drugs to escape More trouble Addictions You feel bad Short term escape (feel good) Feel worse for having done it Do it again to escape feeling bad, but need a little more Feel even worse Do it again Repeat Seen it with food, drugs, alcohol,
Self-Fulfilling prophecies Limiting beliefs What you focus on you get more of
False Expectations Appearing Real Of failure Of judgment Of Success Uncertainty Not enough skills All boils down to fear we won’t survive. “Feel The Fear & Do It Anyway!” – Susan Jeffers 98% of all fears never materialize…they only live in our own minds!!!!
Our choice how we respond to the event To find how we can grow and learn OR become a victim of the situation and mire in our crap! You’re here today for a reason so, that’s the first step! Now, let’s take some more
Most of our issues are because we crave the quick fix…the gratification of spending money, eating, watching a show to escape… But what we’re escaping we’ll have to face eventually. Take care of the long-term, then reward yourself with the short-term gratifications
When one over powers the other…. Today, my goal is create more pain for what you’ve been doing so you truly get passionate about making changes TODAY!
Get up earlier Use your lunch hour Use your commute time! Podcasts are FREE! Watch less TV – sports All the time you invest WILL add up!
(new slide) POLLING QUESTION: If someone gave you $1,440 per day and the only caveat was you spent it WISELY or you had to give what was left back, would you spend all of it? Time is the ONE thing we can’t save! Time is the one thing no amount of money can buy back!! Either way, the time will go – it’s the one thing we can’t save!
One of the most common statements I hear is “But I don’t know where to start or what I want to do with my life!!!” Self-Fulfilling prophecies Limiting beliefs What you focus on you get more of When do you want to retire? How much will you need to live on? How much do you have now?
(new slide) POLLING QUESTION How many of you are REALLY living versus just simply existing?
Story of how I started Master Motivators Attending a funeral Going back to thinking with the end in mind, write your eulogy and live to make it a reality every single day!!! Spend those minutes wisely!!!!
(new slide) Story of being in convalescent hospitals and just talking to older people…. “ If I knew then what I know now…” “ If I had it all to do over again I would…” “ I always thought I would….after….”
POLLING QUESTION: “What sets successful people apart from the rest?” What’s the difference? We have to plan…make painful decisions…sacrifice Story: People who put off going to the dentist….MORE PAIN and MORE MONEY!!!! Life is like the dentist!!! Ghost of Christmas past Crystal ball We often take life and time for granted
The sad truth is if we knew, without a doubt, how much time we had left, we’d spend it a LOT more wisely right? Reactive versus proactive? We could have a few more hours, days, etc. No guarantees.
Okay, with that, we’ll move into our first step in planning out our goals
POLLING QUESTION: How many of you have had bad dreams? Dreams/Nightmares you thought were real? Body doesn’t know real reality versus perceived reality Dreams – remember as a kid we’d dream anything was possible? Vision boards WORK! (Pool, pool table, house)
Be RESOURCEFULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL No time….get up earlier…don’t watch tv….listen to audio books No money….mow lawns…night job….make stuff…services to people….sell stuff No knowledge….GOOGLE and YOUTUBE! And if you’re still stuck….ask someone!
(new stuff) “ Try”, “maybe”, “if”, “someday” “ Try” is a tough one. It can be a start, but also an excuse. People forgive you if you “tried” but how hard did you? The words you use will make you right! Words don’t have meaning – we give meaning to the words Negative words used repeatedly will negatively program our subconscious They are excuses Protection systems so they don’t get hurt or disappointed Everything in life depends on how you look at it “ I just can’t work with so and so…” “ I won’t ever get through to so and so…” “ I am never going to make so and so understand…” “ We just have so many problems” versus “We just have so many opportunities” – Which one sounds like you can overcome? Belief Inspires Reality!
It’s all in how you look at the event and details!
Most people do nothing because they think it’s safer that way!
The minute you settle for less than you deserve you get even less than you settled for!
Open up the phones
(new slide) I do one on one coaching, keynote speeches, workshops
Here’s a word no one likes to hear. Why? Because it feels painful just to say it. BUT, if it’s YOUR choice to invest in something more important than the guilty pleasure you’re indulging in…wasting precious time, then it doesn’t hurt so bad does it? When I talked to seniors who do the shoulda/coulda game…I ask them if the hours spent watching the football games etc. could have been better spent? The answer? Without fail, yes! If you spend more time watching tv or anything else non-productive than you do that’s investing in your future, then you’re wasting life!!! “ Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at begin to change” – Dr Wayne Dyer
Know the difference and focus on the needs first
Of the of the MAIN reasons we fail to achieve our goals!!! Tomas Edison You HAVE to stay the course, keep trying, change what’s not working, and keep on doing what is Accountability is key…get a partner to hold you accountable or hire a life coach
Another MAIN reason people don’t achieve their goals…. “ Oh…I’ll do it tomorrow” “ Oh…now’s not a good time” Is it easy? NO! That’s why some people are successful and some aren’t!!!
If you do drugs etc., then chances are your results will show negatively If you feed your mind with bullshit and listen to the negativity in the news and all around us…then your attitude will show it
Don’t blame other people…. Don’t say “I didn’t HAVE time” instead take responsibility and say “I didn’t make time”
“ If you don’t first succeed…try, try, try again” Wayne Gretzy said “I miss 100% of the shots I don’t take” I tried so many times and took a bit of what I learned and kept on going Failing is not the falling down, staying down –
We MUST be open to change! Adapting ourselves to changing environments is key to longevity and success
To let people get the best of you To react or respond To surround yourself with positive people To read books and listen to audio programs
To quit stealing To get a job To try and fit in and be normal Finally leave the motel To not do cocaine and ecstasy To workout – get rid of my aggressions To take everyone's advice and go back to school To keep going back to despite the financial hardship Not to kill Rick and my wife after they cheated on me To learn what other successful people have done to listen to those with more experience To change my behavior and my attitude about people - they're all the same and to respect what makes us unique To take constructive criticism instead of rebel against it To try and take medication for depression and ADHD To have safe sex To quit fighting and being so angry To keep learning To always try new things To never be lazy and to blame others
If you do drugs etc., then chances are your results will show negatively If you feed your mind with bullshit and listen to the negativity in the news and all around us…then your attitude will show it
What’s your legacy? Build on that Eulogy writing
Life is like driving a car – if you continually look in the rear view mirror you’re gonna crash! Motorcycle riders are trained “look where you want to go…not at the tree!!!” Technique: Visualization
Don’t assume people are going to do what YOU think they should Don’t assume someone will magically appear and teach you Don’t assume it will all just work out Don’t assume it will only take a lot less time than it actually will
Books read? Podcasts listened to? Exercise done? Research done? You HAVE to invest in YOURSELF! Sacrifice the sports games…the reality shows…or better…reward yourself AFTER you’ve done the work! How long is your daily commute?
Quit focusing on the past!!!! Too often we play this game with ourselves. The point is, we need to accept the past is in the past and focus on what we can learn about our decision making skills and move forward The honesty is we didn’t for whatever reason
(new slide) Focus Focus Focus….we tend to lose focus when we are inundated with choices. Are you ever amazed when you see a laser cut through steel? Basically a light is cutting steel! If we use our brains like lasers, we’ll be amazed at how much we can really accomplish if we focus OUR light beams. Before we can begin the steps to achieving our goals, we must first have a refresher course in goal setting. Who knows the acronym for SMART?
With ourselves (most importantly) and others….even if it hurts Prolonging the honesty and accepting it and moving forward is true AGONY. What bad habits do we use to hide and ignore the honesty we feel truly in our hearts, but deny to say in fear of hurting somone?
Slide: Discuss each of these in detail Trust: Jealousy will ruin a relationship faster than anything. You can’t hold someone in your present accountable for something that happened in your past Self-confidence People need to be individuals ATTITUDE: You have to be happy and deal with your attitude before you can think about having successful relationships!
The Family Vacation Prepare Map Food, money, car fixed Pack Pace Can’t do 11MPH Burnout the car and you Patience Take breaks to refuel Get off track? Ask directions Get back as soon as you can Find a way Detour? Enjoy the scenery Everything happens for a reason Ironman One stroke, step, cycle and REPEAT Driving around corners in dark You keep going…trusting you’ll make it…you’ll never see what’s around the corner, but you keep going (driving in fog)