Icons of black cats with arched backs are appearing everywhere, to be followed soon by turkeys in all stages, from on-the-hoof to lying down, legs in air wearing a golden brown crust. Can wreaths, holly and jolly fat men in red suits surrounded by elves be far behind?

1. What’s in your Holiday Bucket?
Icons of black cats with arched backs are appearing
everywhere, to be followed soon by turkeys in all
stages, from on-the-hoof to lying down, legs in air
wearing a golden brown crust. Can wreaths, holly
and jolly fat men in red suits surrounded by elves be
far behind?
Your memory bucket is filled with all kinds of
associations with these icons, and every year you try to revive the pleasant ones – all of them.
Not just for yourself, but for your loved ones, too. And your to-do list is overflowing.
Does this sound like you? Already fatigued, maybe even exhausted, as you contemplate the
(anticipated) demands on you?
The hardest thing to do when faced with too much to do is this: pause, breathe, choose. Take the
time to contemplate who you really are right now, and what would most bring you joy. Then do
those things and throw the others out of your holiday bucket. Horrified at not fulfilling every
“tradition” you have set up over the years? Here are some suggestions for, well, coming to your
senses.
Enlist the aid of family members to select their favorite memories from the Holiday Bucket, and
implement them as best they can. Why is it your job?
Oppressed by the thought of selecting (and paying for) too many gifts? Anyone you know well
enough to exchange gifts with is someone you know well enough to hold a frank conversation
with – about finances, time, health and waste. (If you buy somebody a gift because it’s expected,
will it really be used, or just add to the enormous pile of waste we seem to generate every year in
the U.S.?) How about a pleasant shared experience instead, such as going to hear a concert or see
a show?
Do you think you must send out Christmas cards? Send New Year’s cards instead, connecting
warmly with old friends and wishing them an inspired year. Your card (and wishes) won’t be lost
in the stack on someone else’s mantel or desk. It may cheer someone up in the dark, cold days
that typically follow Christmas.
Determined to decorate your home just like the magazines? But wait, first you have to clean it.
Don’t you? Elaborate decorations may delight the eye, but you can use the power of other senses
to evoke warm and wonderful memories. A few candles contribute a warm, soft glow. A pan of
mulling spices on the stove, pine-scented candles or spray evoke powerful memories. These
tasks don’t take much effort, and in dim light, the house doesn’t have to be perfectly clean. No
one will notice dust bunnies under furniture when they are soaking up the nostalgic atmosphere.

2. When you’re handling too many tasks, you may be feeling more and more irritable – hardly
something your loved ones want to experience. Too, you’re setting yourself up for illness, either
spoiling your holidays or leaving you with a crushing post-holiday let-down.
Christine Carter, Ph.D., with the Center for Greater Good, was given an assignment by a mentor
– imagine you had been told you were going to die. What’s on your bucket list? She found to her
surprise, that she gave up ambitious but unrealized projects to opt for the simplest of pleasures.
Lynette Crane, M.A.(Psychology) and Certified Life Coach, has more than 30 years' experience in the field of stress
management. She currently works to provide stress and time pressure solutions to harried women, those women who
seek "Islands of Peace" in their overly-busy lives. Visit her website at http://www.creativelifechanges.com/ to see
more in-depth articles and to view her programs.