1. How to Win At Work
Louise Stanger Ed.D, LCSW, CDWF, CIP
2019

2. Welcome
How did you arrive
today?

5. Meet Dr. Louise
Clinician
Author
Educator
Daring Way Facillator
Women- Wife- Mother-
Grandmother
Adventurer

6. Objectives
Identify and describe resilience in general and resilience
in the workplace
Demonstrate 7 way bosses can boost resilience in the
workplace
Identify 5 Practices from Time Boxing-To Time Tracking

7. Objectives
Show How to Look & Feel like a
Winner at Work
How To Quit a Job
How to Break Up With a Bad Job
and Get Over It
Provide clinicians with cutting
edge interventions for clients

8. Every year an estimated 17 million
work days are loss to stress and
anxiety
Lost productivity due to staff
absence
Increased workloads for to
cover colleagues work
Higher staff turnover
1/4 of all workers report stress

9. Challenges in the workplace
Excessive workload
Lack of autonomy
Bullying
Organizational restructuring
Lack of managerial support or
teamwork
Job Loss

10. Globalism
Scope-Scale-Speed
Fixed working hours are a thing
of the past
‘Job for life’ people change jobs
frequently
New technologies demand
updated skills and expertise
24 hour availablity
Stress and burnout on the rise

11. 82% of of all emotional health cases in EAP across
locally were found to be depression, anxiety and strep
Longitude study of 1.5 million employees in 4500
companies across 185 countries as part of the Global
Corporate Challenge found 75% of employees had
moderate to high stress problems
“THERE IS A DIRECT AND ADVERSE RELATIONSHIP
BETWEEN NEGATIVE STRESS, WELLNESS AND
PRODUCTIVITY”
Global Workplace Stress

12. Good Stress and Bad Stress
Not all Stress is created equally

13. EUDAMONIA STRESS

14. CAUSES of
STRESS

16. Resilence
The process of adapting well in the face of adversity , trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of
stress , such as family and relationship, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors

17. Resilence
Make Connections
Avoid Catastrophizing
Accept Change is part of living
Move Towards your goals
Take Decisive Actions
Look for opportunities
Nurture positive viewpoint
Keep All in Perspective
Take Care of Yourself

18. 5 Ways to Boost Your
Resilience at Work

19. Mindfulness at work
Multimodal Learning
Mobile learning, onsite training,
webinars o, peer to peer
Integrating mindfulness into
core talent processes such as
on boarding, manager training

20. Aps
Headspace
Spire
Calm
Whil
Simple Habit

21. Compartmentalize your
Cognitive Load
We receive 11 million bits of
information every second but
the executive center can only
effectively process 40 bits.
Serial Mono-tasking-Create
specific time periods to do
specific work related activities
Time Boxing

22. Take Detachment Breaks
We have ultradian (hourly)
peaks as opposed to Cicadian
daily rhythms
Mental focus, clarity, energy
&creativity cycles are usually
90-120 minutes long so step
away to reset energy
Preserve energy

23. Develop Mental Agility
Decenter Stressors
Decenter Stressors-Cognitively
step back -do not react-
Response Flexibility
Step Back, Reflect, Shift
Perspectives, Create Options,
Choose wisely
Linda Graham Psyd.

24. 5 Things to do When Feel Overwhelmed
At Work

25. If You are Overwhelmed at work
Here are 5 Things you can do

26. Practice Healthy Self-Talk
Look at all you are doing right

27. Confidence
Be Good At What you do
Own The Confidence
Be Humble
Have integrity and Standards
Engage well with Others
Dress Appropriately - wear
Things that Fit You

28. Track your Time
(Single Week)
People often Over or
Underestimate
These is something many
people do
Actually tracking helps reduce
Stress
Linda Vanderkam, 168 Hours

29. Limit work -related activities
during non-work times
These can feel very time
consuming.objectively it may
not take long but feels like you
are scattered
Looking at my grandchild for a
few minutes gives me a sense
of quality relationships
Five minutes of uninterrupted
conversation feels more
meaningful then 10 minutes
scattered attention

30. Check your assumptions about
Other Peoples Expectations
Are your rules self generated?
Practice not responding to
emails after hours
Clarify Expectations with others
Let people know when you get
back with them
What is realistic for you?

31. Start Taking Time off instead
of waiting for the right time

32. Ask Yourself -“If I were more relaxed about
my workload, how would I act”
When I am less busy I create more meaningful work!

33. Cultivate Compassion
Stanford Universitys Center For Compassion and Care

34. Cultivating Compassion
at work
Research has shown that
initiatives that foster reliant and
healthy workplaces returned
$2.30 for every dollar spent -
Lower health care costs, Higher
Productivity, lower absenteeism
and decreased turnover

35. How Can Employers help
Employess
Encourage Physical Well being- Gyms, Lunch rooms, Smoking Cession,
Sensible Drinking
Encourage Healthy Psychological environment- Trsuting management-
trainings, provide job security, train staff in new skills, offer coaching
dealing with stress, allow autonomy for doing job, fair treatment,
reward good work, flexible hours
Provide specialist support-Occupational health, HR, Counselingf,
Physiotherapy
Promote open communication , Encourage teamwork, empathetic
managers, team days and social events, reward just for being you.

36. How a Boss Can Help You
Push you Beyond Your Comfort
Zone an ally during a life
change
Look after Your Well being
Demonstrate How not to Lead
Reframe Your Mistakes

37. How a Boss Can Help You
Fire You forcing you to find a
better role
Leading by Compassion
Giving You Undivided Attention
Championing You when its time
to Grow

38. How your Boss can Help You
Be Happy for others Success
Brutal Honesty
Treat you Like you have
Potential to Be a Boss
Support You Through Difficult
Times

40. Postscripts
How to Break Up with a Bad Job ( US News and World Report)

42. Breaking Up with a Job
Updating your Linked in Account is not as Troublesome
as having a Tattoo removed!
Signs of a Bad Job-You can’t Make mistakes, Boss is a
narcissist , you are walking on eggshells
Can’t concentrate, excessive drama, gossip, bullying,
sexual harassment etc

43. Signs of a Bad Boss
Kissing Up & Kicking Down
Publicly Belittling Others
Lashing Out in Anger
Behaving Erratically
Using Employees as Pawns

44. Document
Document Your Problems
Try HR
Emotionally disengage from the
office
Seek Self-Validation Elsewhere

45. How to Quit Your Job With
Dignity
Assess Your reasons
Finances of Company are unstable
You are ready to retire
You seek a new position, Changing
careers
Company asks you to do something
unethical
You need more time for child or elder care
You are miserable
Do Not Bad mouth anyone to HR

46. Decide When to Quit
Most People have
another job before
they quit

47. Give Advance Notice

48. Tell Your Boss In Person
Know the Timing

49. Anticipate a Counter Offer

51. Exit Interviews
Always Find Positives

52. Tie Up Loose Ends
401 K -Unused vac -sick days -Save files and contacts

53. Say Good Bye to Co-Workers

54. Finish Strong

56. Louise Stanger ED.d, LCSW,
CDWF
For Workplace Coaching
Call 619-507-1699
DrStanger@me.com
www.allaboutinterventions.com

57. Resources
https://money.usnews.com/careers/company-culture/
articles/how-to-break-up-with-a-bad-job-and-get-over-
it
https://money.usnews.com/money/careers/applying-
for-a-job/slideshows/how-to-quit-your-job
https://thriveglobal.com/stories/losing-job-layoffs-
unemployment-expert-tips-overcoming/

58. Resources
Resilience - Fit For Work , Friday June 17, 2017
Bosses how they can help You- Thrive Global, 2017
5 Ways to Boost Resilience at Work- Rich Fernadez-June
2016
5 Things to do when Overwhelmed by Your Workload-
Alice Boyes August 6, 2018

59. Appendix
What Happens if you Lose Your Job ?

60. FEAR
Am I able to take care of my
family?
Am I going to a keep a roof over
my head?
Will I ever get another job ?

61. Grief
Grief is your internal private
response to loss
Mourning is your shared
response to the world around
you

62. Stillness
Take a moment to acknowledge and feel your loss

63. Express Gratitude
The Gift of Job Loss
Urge what you have
Start a Gratitude List
What did you learn, what can
you take away

64. Let Go Of Resentment
Let go of something that you no
longer need
Listen to your inner wisdom

65. You are more Then Your Job
Meditate

66. Just be Silent
13 minutes a day for 8 weeks
enhances memory, creativity
and innovation

67. Vision

68. Identify
What you are good at
Core Strengths

69. Be Open To Learn New Things
Linked in-Coursera _General Assembly

70. Discover a
Mentor

71. Network

72. Success
Success is how
high you
bounce when
you hit bottom
Dr. George Patton