Unveiling the impostor
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Life in academia can be very fulfilling: On the path from being a master student to a senior professor, we achieve mastery, we have a lot of autonomy in our work, and we have the nice purpose of improving human knowledge. However, we are often struggling. Because life in academia is very competitive and sometimes isolating, a difficulty that a lot of us face is the lack of confidence in our own capabilities, work, and achievements. This can lead, for example, to procrastination, to the fear of asking questions, or of applying to a high-level position... I hope this talk will be the occasion to discuss how we can manage to turn these difficulties you (or your colleagues) face into advantages.
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- 1. Unveiling the impostor: How to deal with lack of self-confidence in academia? Loïc Le Tiran @astroloic IAG – Universidade de São Paulo October 1st 2014
- 2. Disclaimer I am not a psychologist. All this is documented, but necessarily quite subjective. Feel free to ask anything during the talk
- 3. Academia: a fulfilling life… • Mastery • Autonomy • Purpose About Mastery, Autonomy , Purpose: See www.ted.com/talks/dan_pink_on_motivation
- 6. "We need to start recognizing that mental health is not a matter of crazy vs. sane. It's a matter of happy vs. unhappy, productive vs. destructive, and no different than physical well-being.“ from http://mahalonottrash.blogspot.com.br/2013/04/compilation-of-mental-health-posts.html
- 7. Why is this subject is important for ALL of us?
- 8. Why is confidence important? To feel good about yourself. To apply to a high-level position To ask questions To discuss To go to (and enjoy!) conferences It helps to avoid procrastination Can lead to success, by helping you to step out from your comfort zone
- 9. The impostor phenomenon Lack of confidence in academia (also called impostor feelings or often impostor syndrome) Let’s put a name on this.
- 10. Psychotherapy Theory, Research and Practice Volume 15, #3, Fall 1978
- 11. Some (redundant) definitions “A distorted, unrealistic, unsustainable definition of competence” “An overwhelming sense of being a fraud, a phony, of not being good enough for your job, despite much evidence to the contrary” “Believing that one’s accomplishments came about not through genuine ability, but as a result of having been lucky, having worked harder than others, and having manipulated other people’s impressions.”
- 13. I thought it was a fluke, It was the same way when I walked on the campus at Yale. I thought everybody would find out, and they'd take the Oscar back. They'd come to my house, knocking on the door, “Excuse me, we meant to give that to someone else. That was going to Meryl Streep.”
- 15. Why would anyone want to see me again in a movie? And I don't know how to act anyway, so why am I doing this?
- 17. I have written eleven books, but each time I think, “uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.”
- 18. Feel like an impostor? Take the Do you chalk your success up to luck, timing, or computer error? Do you believe “If I can do it, anybody can”? Do you agonize over even the smallest flaws in your work? Are you crushed by even constructive criticism, seeing it as evidence of your “ineptness?” When you do succeed, do you secretly feel like you fooled them again? Do you worry that it’s just a matter of time before you’re “found out?” Credits:
- 19. How you explain a success: • “I got lucky” • “I was in the right place at the right time” • “It’s because they like me” • “If I can do it, anyone can” • “They must let anybody in” • “Someone made a mistake” • “I had a lot of help” • “They are just being nice” • “They feel sorry for me” Credits:
- 20. How you explain a success: • “I got lucky” • “I was in the right place at the right time” • “It’s because they like me” • “If I can do it, anyone can” • “They must let anybody in” • “Someone made a mistake” • “I had a lot of help” • “They are just being nice” • “They feel sorry for me” Credits: Where are you?
- 21. Credits for this slide: Prof. Meghan Grey
- 22. Credits for this slide: Prof. Meghan Grey
- 23. How to be confident “When I lack confidence, I stop lacking confidence and be awesome instead”. Doesn’t work in real life (except for Barney Stinson*) (*who is not a real life caracter, by the way)
- 24. How to be confident Having someone shouting at you: “be confident!” Seriously, Barney Stinson’s method is way better.
- 25. How to be confident There is no magic potions, but many tips.
- 26. Toolbox: First Tip Embrace your impostor! Talk about it! &
- 27. Toolbox: Second Tip Own your achievements. Make list of your achievements (pride list, +linkedin, CV…) Ask other people what you are good at. (+Mentorship) Learn to separate feelings from reality
- 28. Toolbox: Third Tip Listen (really!) & Watch your language! Own your compliments: Internalize external validation and stop minimizing your achievements Don’t diminish yourself! “Only”, “Just”, “I’m not a real…”
- 29. Toolbox: Others tips Teach! “I don’t know” is a valid answer Everyone has the right to make mistakes Failure is an option Happy folder List your typical impostor situations Down your armour Values AffirmationFake it till you make it!
- 31. A last one… but sometimes crucial Ask yourself: “is it me or the organizational structure is screwed up?”
- 32. For everyone, a general rule Feel bad, sad, depressed, unhappy? Whatever the reason, seek counseling.
- 33. Conclusion LEARN to enjoy your academic life NOW!
- 35. Please “helpful”, “stupid”, “a total waste of my time”, “best talk ever”, “I slept after slide 2”… Please give me some feedback! (even anonymously!) loic.le-tiran@obspm.fr Wanna discuss? Office C-312, my door is always open, at least metaphorically.
- 37. Bibliography Links, blogs, facebook groups, books, games, ideas, papers. Currently on: http://goo.gl/ZvIs2x
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- - french - title - AUDDAS - date - twitter - about sudent post doc terms - paper for what people think Thanks for the invitation and for the organization Who’s a prof here ? “post docs” Phds? Masters? Others ? Good place for freedom of speech, so please use it !
- - french - title - AUDDAS - date - twitter - about sudent post doc terms - paper for what people think Thanks for the invitation and for the organization Who’s a prof here ? “post docs” Phds? Masters? Others ? Good place for freedom of speech, so please use it !
- The talk I wish I had before. If you think I am saying sth wrong, correct me. --------------------------------- harmfull, please tell me.
- Mastery: state-of-the-art instruments, incredible simulations, create the best tools (eg at data Tuesday Brazil about astro labs) Maîtrise/domination techniques de pointe Autonomy: time and project Purpose: science, discoveries etc Intellectual challenges
- Seem to get judged at every stage: every paper, every proposal, every job application…. impacts sense of self (we invest so much of ourselves in our work) Ask who else experiences stress and other stuffs here The more you know, the more you feel you don’t know. Personal though: enjoy the fact that Brazil offers opportunities to not be stressed too much, and enjoy the science you are doing and not just think about doing science that will get you a job. That’s very personal.
- Social isolation by working all the time etc. Mental health difficulties : studies show they are usually frequent in academia Stress that mental health is not terrifying word. It is just something to take care of. After all, you take care of your physical health, no? Happy vs Unappy
- If you feel pain in your arm every morning when you wake up since a week, you go see a doctor. If you feel anxious, sad, depressed every morning when you wake up since a week, you go see a doctor. + In academia people don’t talk about it, as it is seen as a weakness. Also, it is a continuum.
- Your friends, your colleagues, your spouse, and in some years, somebody you’ll have to manage.
- 1/ Lack of conf makes us anxious, worried, stressed… You put the bar always higher (better faster stronger). It is difficult and it leads to the feeling of failure. 2/ Not applying for a post doc in a brilliant institution thinking “I am not good enough” + women Not asking a question “I don’t know enough to ask a question” Not sharing an interesting comment “my comment is not interesting enough” Not going to a conference (you have not made enough progress yet) Not publishing a paper (your work is not good enough) Nervousness about talking to others in their field, especially if those others are perceived as highly skilled/experienced You may choose a lower level job because you think it will be easier for you to manage. You take constructive criticism as condemnation: - When things go wrong, I automaticallky blame myself - When I make amistake, I have a really hard time forgiving myself - I often walk away from conversation obsessing over what I should have said, or failed ro say. - I remember every dumb thing I ever did or said. I take constructive criticism personnaly, seeing it as a proof of my ineptness. 3/ Procrastination (can also take the form of somebody who is always reading litterature, and/or missing its real work. esp staying in the comfort zone, the zone of no danger, no risk.) 4/ success in any career often requires stepping outside your comfort zone, so it's important not to let your fear of failure get in the way. Working too hard (over preparing) is good sometimes but bad for life balance...
- Felling that you don’t belong here. Somebody will realize it and kick you out. I don’t like the word syndrome: too clinic, looks like we are all sick. Not a syndrome + "I didn't want this to be one more way of pathologizing women," says Clance = ‘impostor phenomenon'
- Not a syndrome + "I didn't want this to be one more way of pathologizing women," says Clance = ‘impostor phenomenon' Studying high achieving women: pattern of feeling like a fraud, an impostor Stress women and minorities, + also men
- Internal bar absurdly high, we expect ourself to hit it 24/7. Also the definition of failure is distorted: failure = not being perfect all the time, not knowing something, asking for help, having to struggle Define the worry of being caught.
- Jodie Foster 2 oscars
- Meryl Streep 3 oscars
- Maya Angelou Nobel price, litterature
- Maya Angelou Nobel price, litterature
- Give examples Who recognizes the pattern of his thoughts ?
- Give examples
- You were lucky, but YOU took advantage of it. You got your PhD, degree
- Talk about M’s story.
- Some good, some bad. Take what you like!
- Put a word on it, identify it, understand it First step is understanding that this feeling is there, and that it won’t go away overnight. That’s the work I am trying to do here!
- approprier realisations Make list of your achievements, success, awards. Keep track of your accomplishments (linkedin, CV…) State the facts. Ask other people what you are good at. Find a mentor that can give you feedback on your work. Separate feelings from reality. Remind yourself that feeling like an imposter is different from being an imposter. Keep a written record of your accomplishments. Feel a sense of ownership for them. remind them to you. Discuss it with friends. - Learn to own your success. -1 Write down your different success, awards, things that you succeeded in doing. Only the facts. -2 Aknoledge the fact that luck, charm etc plays a role. They were here, but you took advantage of it. - ask other people what you are good at? find a mentor, a trusting friend, which can guide you, sometimes (constructively) criticize, or recognize your successes. = feedback -Keep track of your accomplishments (linkedin, CV…) Ask people to recommend you on linkedin. Ask advice for things to put on your CV from people that know you well. Separate feelings from reality. Remind yourself that feeling like an imposter is different from being an imposter. Keep a written record of your accomplishments. Feel a sense of ownership for them.
- When praised, really listen to it and internalize it. Say “thank you”, not “let me explain why I don’t deserve this compliment” “Only”, “Just” are diminishing! And you end up beleiving what you are saying. “I am not a REAL xxxx + “students” “post docs” should have a better name. In portuguese?
- teach what you know (and what you don’t know~) : it forces you to realize that you know things. + outreach Don’t be crushed by your mistakes Who do you blame when you fail? Story of the sport teams. Make a list of the situations in which “imposter” feelings are likely to strike. When you can warn yourself to expect these feelings, they’re easier to recognize and deal with. Be supportive : even if you don’t have Imp Feelings Try to break frightening tasks into several parts. If possible, start with the easiest part.
- We are also influenced by our non-verbals
- Brazil = different culture, more friendly Sometimes, it is not you who is incompetent, but your manager or your institute who sucks.
- What you feel is normal but don’t stay passive. LEARN: won’t go away just walking out this door. NOW: don’t think it will be better after the phd, the post doc, the professorship + examples Also : Who works better? The stressed PhD students or the one who have fun? Win-Win situation