Self-Esteem

1. SELF ESTEEM
& YOU

2. Self-Esteem…What is it?
 Self-esteem refers to
the way we see and
think about
ourselves.

3. Self-Esteem…What’s it made of?
 Your self-esteem is
made up of all the
experiences and
interpersonal
relationships you’ve
had in your life.
Everyone you’ve ever
met has added to or
taken away from
how you see
yourself!

4. The Effects of High Self-Esteem
 People with high self-esteem possess the
following characteristics:
-They like to meet new people.
-They don’t worry about how others will
judge them.
-They have the courage to express
themselves.
-Their lives are enriched with each new
encounter.

5. -They are nicer to be around.
-Their ideas are met with interest because
others want to hear what they have to say.
-They are magnets to positive opportunities!

6. People with high self-esteem have an “I think I
can” attitude!

7. The Effects of Low Self-Esteem
 People with low self-esteem possess the
following characteristics:
-They don’t believe in themselves.
-They see themselves failing before they
begin.
-They have a hard time forgiving their
mistakes and make themselves pay the price
forever.
-They believe they can never be as good as
they should be or as others.

8. -They are afraid to show their creativity
because they will be ridiculed.
-They are dissatisfied with their lives.
-They spend most of their time alone.
-They complain and criticize.
-They worry about everything and do nothing.

9. People with low self-esteem have an
“I can’t do it” attitude.

10. 12 Steps to High Self-Esteem
 Step 1
-Forgive yourself for past mistakes.
 Step 2
-Focus on your positive attributes.
 Step 3
-Follow the example of successful people.
 Step 4
-Become a self talker.

11. Step 5
-Exhibit a good attitude.
Step 6
-Get plenty of rest.
Step 7
-Make your work skills your own
Step 8
-Practice your talents

12. Step 9
-Become physically fit.
Step 10
-Learn new things.
Step 11
-Improve your personal relationships.
Step 12
-Dress well!

13. Lets Review
 Self-esteem comes from every experience of
your life.
 How you view yourself affects everything you
do in life.
 High self-esteem gives you a GOOD feeling
about yourself.
 Low self-esteem distorts your view of
yourself.
 Self-esteem can me improved!

14. Final Thought
 You are a unique individual. No one else
is like you in the whole world. This
makes you special already!
 Our time in this world is limited. Make it
happen for you so you leave your mark
in history!

15. Write an obituary of yours.
Write as a reporter.
Start with She/he was a ….

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Two Major Components
• Self-efficacy
– Belief you can achieve what you set out to
do
– Developed though experience of mastery
• success builds confidence to succeed in other
areas
• Self-respect
– What you think and feel about yourself
– Self-respect likely earns respect from
others

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Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-Respect
• One’s appreciation of own worth and
importance
• Experience of being capable of meeting
life’s challenges and being worthy of
happiness

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Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-Respect
• Character to be accountable for
behaviors
• Acting responsibly toward others
• Confidence in ability to
– think
– understand
– make decisions

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Total Person Insight
How many times do we pay for one mistake? The
answer is thousands of times. The human is the only
animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the
same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for
every mistake they make. But not us. We have
powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge
ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and punish
ourselves….Every time we remember, we judge
ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish
ourselves again, and again, and again.
Don Miguel Ruiz
Author, The Four Agreements

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Locus of Control
• Internal locus of control
– Belief that self is largely responsible for
what happens
• External locus of control
– Belief that life is almost totally controlled by
outside forces
– Success is luck
– Often rely on approval from others

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Characteristics - Low Self-Esteem
• Tendency toward
– External locus of control
– Self-destructive behaviors
– Poor human relations skills
– Failure syndrome
– Trouble with relationships
– Being less productive

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How to Build Self-Esteem
• Seek the support and guidance of
mentors:
– A mentor helps you learn something that you
would otherwise not have learned as well or
as quickly
– Effective tool used in organizations

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How to Build Self-Esteem
• Tips for building a mentor relationship:
– Having multiple mentors is best
– A mentor should have the qualities of a
good coach
– Market yourself to prospective mentors

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How to Build Self-Esteem
• Set goals:
– People who set goals maintain high self-
esteem
– Make your goals realistic.
– Picture yourself reaching the goal

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How to Build Self-Esteem
• Use positive self-talk:
– Self-talk takes place silently in the privacy
of your mind
– It is the personal conversations you have
with yourself
– Your self-talk can dramatically affect your
behavior

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Figure 4.1
Figure 4.1
Self-Esteem Cycles

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Factors That Enhance
The Self-Esteem of
Employees