GetBullish.com on how to level up your communication and negotiation skills – while smashing the patriarchy.
Slides from a live webinar. New webinars and a recording of this webinar are available on shop.getbullish.com
Hyderabad 💫✅💃 24×7 BEST GENUINE PERSON LOW PRICE CALL GIRL SERVICE FULL SATIS...
Get Bullish: How To Communicate, Negotiate, and Take No Bull in Your Career
1. (WITHOUT EMULATING THE WORST DUDE BEHAVIOR)
GET BULLISH: HOW TO
COMMUNICATE, NEGOTIATE, AND
TAKE NO BULL IN YOUR CAREER
JENNIFER DZIURA
GETBULLISH.COM
@GETBULLISH
6. Screw advice that blames women for not
being confident enough.
Where do privileged white men get their
confidence? Not from mantras and vision
boards – they get it from a power structure
that artificially inflates their importance at
every turn.
7. “Power poses”? If it works for you. But don’t
kill yourself trying to act like an MMA fighter.
8. “Power poses”? If it works for you. But don’t
kill yourself trying to act like an MMA fighter.
Instead, let’s point out overconfidence. (Try
“hubris.”)
9. “Power poses”? If it works for you. But don’t
kill yourself trying to act like an MMA fighter.
Instead, let’s point out overconfidence. (Try
“hubris.”)
The truth of the matter is that pretty much anywhere in the world men
tend to think that they that are much smarter than women. Yet
arrogance and overconfidence are inversely related to leadership talent.
- Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, Harvard Business Review
12. Language matters:
“direct” vs. “missing some important nuance”
“a natural leader” vs. “charging ahead without a
logical and data-driven comparison of the
alternatives”
13. Language matters:
“Too quiet?” Are the quiet people really the
ones ruining the discussion by interrupting
before anyone can express a fully-formed
idea?
15. Change the dialogue:
“Bill, I hear you loud and clear!”
“Allison, you’ve been quiet so far, but you’re
always insightful about these things. What’s your
take?”
16. Change the dialogue:
“Bill, I hear you loud and clear!”
“Allison, you’ve been quiet so far, but you’re always
insightful about these things. What’s your take?”
“One of my favorite things about working for Tamika is that
she avoids the overconfidence a lot of managers give in to –
it’s refreshing to work for someone so rational.”
22. Don’t be dependent on your job.
Easier said than done, but dependence sets
you up for exploitation – same as in any
relationship.
23. Don’t be dependent on your job.
Easier said than done, but dependence sets you
up for exploitation – same as in any relationship.
-savings, multiple income streams
-huge and strong network
-renown in your field
24. It’s like a doomsday machine – it doesn’t work
unless other people know about it.
25. It’s like a doomsday machine – it doesn’t work
unless other people know about it.
-Let it be known you could go anywhere, while
still being committed to the team and your
coworkers
26. It’s like a doomsday machine – it doesn’t work
unless other people know about it.
-Let it be known you could go anywhere, while
still being committed to the team and your
coworkers
-You are a professional with a practice; you
choose to practice with a company, so long as
it is mutually beneficial
27. It’s like a doomsday machine – it doesn’t work
unless other people know about it.
-Let it be known you could go anywhere, while
still being committed to the team and your
coworkers
-You are a professional with a practice; you
choose to practice with a company, so long as it is
mutually beneficial
-You can be gracious, genial, and committed –
and still ready to quit or jump ship, as needed
29. Entrepreneurship is part of the modern career
life cycle.
Are you really going to work for 40-50 years …
for someone else?
30. Entrepreneurship is part of the modern career
life cycle.
Are you really going to work for 40-50 years …
for someone else?
Entrepreneurship is a skill like any other.
Learn, practice. Imagine you know you’re
going to Japan some day… you learn Japanese.
34. Go there first – men love it when you call
them “emotional.”
35. Go there first – men love it when you call
them “emotional.”
Anger is an emotion.
36. Go there first – men love it when you call
them “emotional.”
Anger is an emotion.
Arrogance? Emotion!
37. Go there first – men love it when you call
them “emotional.”
Anger is an emotion.
Arrogance? Emotion!
Irrational need for control and superiority?
EMOTIONS.
38. Call it out directly – but from a place of being
on the same team
39. Call it out directly – but from a place of being
on the same team
“I’m glad you didn’t say that in front of the
team! Kind of a morale-killer. Maybe instead
we should say something like...”
41. Language matters – maybe don’t say “sexist”
(You’re right, but people get defensive.)
42. Language matters – maybe don’t say “sexist”
(You’re right, but people get defensive.)
Instead:
“unprofessional,”
43. Language matters – maybe don’t say “sexist”
(You’re right, but people get defensive.)
Instead:
“unprofessional,”
“insulting”
44. Language matters – maybe don’t say “sexist”
(You’re right, but people get defensive.)
Instead:
“unprofessional,”
“insulting”
“cruel”
45. Language matters – maybe don’t say “sexist”
(You’re right, but people get defensive.)
Instead:
“unprofessional,”
“insulting”
“cruel”
“morale-killing”
48. Support parents, including male parents.
82% of women will become mothers, and
younger women with no plans to do so are
still discriminated against in hiring because
of their “potential” for having children.
49. Support parents, including male parents.
82% of women will become mothers, and
younger women with no plans to do so are
still discriminated against in hiring because
of their “potential” for having children.
Use gender-neutral parenting language. Try
to mention/praise male and female parents
in exactly the same way – see how
countercultural it is!
51. Coworkers with partners at home (or not at
home) –
“Oh, so you have a partner who does most
of your domestic work for you?”
Say it like this is a crazy idea from a foreign
culture. Make him explain it.
52. Coworkers with partners at home (or not at
home) –
“Oh, so you have a partner who does most
of your domestic work for you?”
Say it like this is a crazy idea from a foreign
culture. Make him explain it.
Say “partner,” at least in a younger crowd.
Don’t normalize worker/”wife.” Talk about
male and female partners the same way.
54. Get involved in hiring in whatever way you
can.
-Blind resume review
55. Get involved in hiring in whatever way you
can.
-Blind resume review
-Even sitting in on interviews where you
have no decisionmaking power – you’ll at
least get asked for an opinion
56. Get involved in hiring in whatever way you
can.
-Blind resume review
-Even sitting in on interviews where you
have no decisionmaking power – you’ll at
least get asked for an opinion
-Reach earlier down the pipeline so you can
make genuine personal recommendations
57. Provide positive reports of other women’s
work (to managers, to the team at large) at
random intervals, with no agenda.
58. Provide positive reports of other women’s
work (to managers, to the team at large) at
random intervals, with no agenda.
This doesn’t just build up the careers of
those women – continual conditioning (that
women do things) is needed to combat a
lifetime of misogynistic brainwashing.
59. Provide positive reports of other women’s
work (to managers, to the team at large) at
random intervals, with no agenda.
This doesn’t just build up the careers of
those women – continual conditioning (that
women do things) is needed to combat a
lifetime of misogynistic brainwashing.
Constantly give women credit. You have to
say it many times before it will be heard.
61. -Favors by women are not noticed or paid
back
-Women’s contributions are chalked up to
“helping” (the “glue” that holds the team
together!)
62. -Favors by women are not noticed or paid
back
-Women’s contributions are chalked up to
“helping” (the “glue” that holds the team
together!)
-Combat that with words like “driving the
project,” “strong leadership,” “vision,”
“stamina”
64. Obtain power. Given a choice, take the path
that leads to more power.
Moral arguments need enforcement.
65. Obtain power. Given a choice, take the path
that leads to more power.
Moral arguments need enforcement.
Don’t be unethical, but you don’t have to be
“nice.” It’s better to be good than nice.