1. PRESENTED BY: JACQUELINE L. DeVITO
Bereaved Parents of the USA 2015 National Gathering
July 24-26, 2015 Hartford, Connecticut
2. Do not regret growing older.
It is a privilege denied to many.
-Unknown
3. Agenda
• About Me
• About My Sister, Jennifer
• My Journey Through Grief
• Why We Write During Grief
• Blogging vs. Journaling
• Getting Started
4. Agenda
• Creating Your Blog
• Setting Up Your Blog
• Logging Into Your Blog
• The Dashboard
• Post vs. Page
5. Agenda
• Adding a New Post or Page
• Categories and Tags
• Adding Images
• Editing an Image
• Managing Comments
• Publicizing Your Blog Posts
6. Agenda
• What To Blog About
• Site Stats
• What’s Next
• Learn More
• Keep In Touch
7. About Jacqueline
• From Westchester, New York
• Application Support Specialist for a digital
marketing agency
• Graduate of UAlbany; Sister of Alpha Xi
Delta (AΞΔ)
• Published in The Quill of Alpha Xi Delta
• Wanted to go to law school, but found myself
working as a Project Manager for a small
start-up
• Have always been web savvy
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9. About Jennifer
• My younger and only sister
• Passed away at 18; I was 22
• Loss was sudden
• Beautiful, charismatic, always happy
• Was a coach for The Silver Starlites, a
traveling baton twirling team
• Won 13 medals, 2 gold, at Junior Olympics
• Survived by my parents, my brother and
myself
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11. My Journey Through Grief
• Siblings are the forgotten mourners
• Constantly told to stay strong for my
family
• Tried two different support groups, but did
not feel they worked for me
• Gave journaling a try, but spent more time
decorating it then writing in it
12.
13. My Journey Through Grief
• Started my blog because I would rather
type my thoughts, than write them
• Started my blog on October 1, 2010, less
than two months after Jenn’s passing
• As of last week, I have 205 Posts, 358
comments, and 73,961 all-time views
14. Why We Write During Grief
• There are several similarities between the
writing process and the grief process. The
creative element of the writing process
may allow the bereaved to move on during
the grief process because writing may
become a tool for the expression of his or
her thoughts and feelings, new insights,
clarification, and reorganization. 1
15. Why We Write During Grief
• The benefits of writing are first and
foremost associated with exploratory and
expressive forms of communication. 1
• Writing is an aid to reflection, a way to
explore and discover one’s own thoughts
and feelings. 2, 3, 5, 6
• Writing and forming a story involve
reflection on events and contribute to self-
understanding and new insight. 6-8
16. Why We Write During Grief
• According to process-oriented writing theory,
language is related to thought. Writing is
described as a creative process wherein the
writer may experience new thoughts,
increased awareness, and knowledge. 1,2,3,4
• Writing down one’s own ideas opens a
channel that allows a person to become
acquainted with his or her own thinking
potential. 2,3,6,7,9
17. Blogging vs. Journaling
• Journaling requires paper and a pen,
where blogging requires a computer,
tablet, or smart phone
• When journaling, one must think quite
precisely of what they want to write
• Once it is written down, it is permanent
• When blogging, have the ability to delete
text, add more content, or delete entire
Post
18. Blogging vs. Journaling
• There is a danger of losing or damaging
your journal; with blogging you can
backup and save your Posts
• More security with blogging
• Have the ability to keep blog 100% private,
so only you can read it or add a secure
password to share with close family and
friends
19. Blogging vs. Journaling
• Can add images, YouTube videos, and
hyperlinks into Posts to enhance the
content
• Ability to go back and add additional
thoughts or updates to already posted blog
entries
• Read comments from people who have
found your blog, and how it has helped
them; become a virtual mentor
20. Getting Started
• All you need is an e-mail address
• Many free blog options, as well as paid
memberships
• WordPress, Blogger, Blog.com, Blogspot, to
name a few
• Ability to blog from a computer, laptop, tablet,
e-mail, and smart phone
• Preferred CMS: WordPress
21. Creating Your Blog
• On your PC or Laptop, go to
wordpress.com
• Click the blue [Create Website] button
22. Creating Your Blog
• Type in your site name
• Example: bpoftheusa.wordpress.com
• Click the blue [Create your Site and
Continue] button
23.
24. Creating Your Blog
• Add your Email address
• Create a Username
• Set a Password
• Click the blue [Next Step] button
25.
26. • For Step 3 of 5, you have the option to
create a custom URL
• You’re welcome to do so, but this would
require additional costs
• To skip this step, and proceed with the free
version, click the white [No Thanks]
button
Creating Your Blog
27.
28. • Next, you can select your theme
• Your theme is the design to your new blog
• Choose a theme that fits your style
• Can always change it
• Some themes are free, while others are
Premium and require a purchase
• Once you have picked a theme, click on
the arrow below the thumbnail
Creating Your Blog
29. Set Up Your Blog
• After you pick your theme, you will see a
message to Please Verify Your Email
Address
30. Set Up Your Blog
• In your email, click the [Activate Account]
button
31. Set Up Your Blog
• You will get a green message that your
email has been verified.
32. Logging Into Your Blog
• Can access your blog from anywhere; not
specific to your own computer
• Open your browser, and go to your site:
http://www.blog.com
• At the end of your URL, add:
http://www.blog.com/wp-admin
33.
34. The Dashboard
• Overview of your entire blog
• Left sidebar allows you to configure
settings for your blog
• Quickly access areas where you create
Posts, Pages, manage comments, check
stats and change your blog’s appearance
35.
36. Post vs. Page
• A Post is comprised of the day-to-day
thoughts that make up a blog; allows for
comments and sharing
• Example: Surviving Our First Holiday
Season
• A Page is static content where you supply
information to your readers
• Example: About Me
• Both support images, links and videos
37. Post vs. Page
• Suggest first creating only a few Pages
• Will act as a preface to your blog, and
outline your individual experience
• After, create Posts as often as you
like/need to fill your blog
• No set schedule; blog when you want
38. Adding a New Post or Page
• On the left sidebar, click on Posts or Pages
• When you hover over the tab, select Add
New
• With WordPress, there are multiple ways
to create a new Post or Page
• Find which way works best for you
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40. Adding a New Post or Page
• If you can send an e-mail, you can create a
Page and a Post
• Ability to use the Visual setting, or HTML
code (depending on your preference)
• Can start a blog Post, save your work, and
continue at a later time
• Always have the ability to edit your Post,
even if you published it to your blog
41. Add New Post or Page
• Add your Post’s title
• Add the content of your blog Post
• Click Preview to see what your Post would
look like, without publishing it
• When you are ready to share your Post
with the world, click the blue Publish
button
42.
43.
44. Categories and Tags
• Used for your Posts
• Way to organize your Posts for
manageability
• Example: If you were blogging about your
first holiday season, your Category may be
“Family Milestones” and the Tags could
be: holiday, Christmas, Chanukah, family
dinner, spirit
45.
46. Adding Images
• I always try to add an image into my Posts
• Easy to add, and great way to enrich the
blog
• Helpful when sharing Posts on Facebook;
image will appear in friends’ timelines
• Can add images into both Posts and Pages
47. Adding Images
• Above the toolbar, click on the button Add
Media
• Browse your local computer for the image
you want to add
• Can also drag and drop files into Insert
Media modal
• Allowed file types: jpg, jpeg, png, gif, pdf,
doc, ppt, odt, pptx, docx, pps, ppsx, xls,
xlsx
48.
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50.
51. Adding Images
• After your image finishes uploading, you
can edit the image information as much or
as little as you like
• Give your image a title, alternative text,
caption and description
• Pick your alignment, and select the perfect
size
• Make sure you click Insert Into Post
52.
53.
54. Editing an Image
• After you have added the image to your
Page or Post, you have the ability to edit or
delete it
• While editing your Post, click on the image
you added
• A small toolbar will appear above the
image.
• Click on the pencil icon
55.
56. Editing an Image
• Under DISPLAY SETTINGS, you can
update the alignment of the image
• Use the drop-down menu to adjust the size
• You can update the link that the image
points to
• Under ADVANCED OPTIONS, you can use
CSS to edit the border and margins
• When done, click the blue [Update] button
57.
58. Managing Comments
• Can accept comments on Pages and Posts,
but traditionally used just on Posts
• Can moderate comments before they are
shared on your site
• Click Comments on the left sidebar of your
Dashboard
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61. Managing Comments
• When you approve a comment, it will
appear at the bottom of your blog for
others to read
• Can reply to comments
• Ability to trash comments, or mark as
spam
• Can edit comments to remove private or
personal information you don’t want to
share
62.
63. Publicizing Your Blog Posts
• Share your blog with friends and family
• Can automatically publish your new blog
Posts to Facebook, Google+, Twitter,
LinkedIn, Tumble, and Path.
• On the left sidebar, go to Settings >
Sharing
• Next to each social media icon, click the
[Connect] button to set up the connection
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66. Publicizing Your Blog Posts
• When you publicize, have the option to
add your own introduction before posting
• With Facebook, when you share your Post
and use an image, it will be featured in
your update
• Increase chances people will click link,
versus no image and just text
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68.
69. What To Blog About
• Anything you want; no right or wrong
answer
• Be cautious of using overly personal
information
• Write what you feel; not what you think
people want to read
70. What To Blog About
• A particularly difficult day and what may
have caused it
• Milestones in your life (birthdays,
weddings) and how you handled them
• Memories that popped into your head
• Grief surveys
• Lost dreams
• A letter to your loved one
71. Site Stats
• Keep track of how many people view your
blog
• See where visitors are coming from
• View what search terms people use to find
your blog
• Determine how most people find you
• On the left sidebar, click on Site Stats
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75. What’s Next?
• August 17th will be five years since Jenn’s
passing
• Would enjoy writing a book that shares my
personal grief story from the point of view
of a sibling
• Share my journey in hopes that readers
identifying with me, apply feelings and
emotions to their own journey
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