This document provides a guide to kicking fear and toxicity out of the workplace. It first discusses identifying a fear-based workplace versus a healthy workplace where trust is predominant. It then covers sources of fear and toxicity within ourselves, such as impostor syndrome, doubt, and gossip. The document also discusses fostering a diverse and inclusive workplace culture through embracing diversity, promoting a sense of belonging, and sharing personal stories. It encourages leaders to focus on purpose and meaning over specific goals and tasks.
4. Identification of your workplace
A fear-based workplace is a place where fear
is the predominant energy.
A healthy workplace is one where trust is the
predominant energy.
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8. Impostor syndrome is a psychological
pattern in which people doubt their
accomplishments and have a persistent,
often internalized fear of being exposed as
a "fraud".
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9. The lizard brain is the wee
part of your brain responsible for
fear, anger and negativity. It is
the flight or fight trigger.
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10. Doubt language is using words
that lead to uncertainty or to lead
something to believe that
something may not be true.
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11. Cover you’re a$s Emails why we
write them and how we can stop
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20. Diversity is the range of human
differences, including but not limited to
race, ethnicity, gender, gender identity,
sexual orientation, age, social class,
physical ability or attributes, religious or
ethical values system, national origin,
and political beliefs.
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21. Belonging is what allows
people to feel like they
can be their authentic
selves without fear of
different treatment or
punishment.
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The opposite of
fear is joy and toxicity is good health. This presentation was born out of something I saw, I channel disappointment and anger in to learning moment, blog posts and presentations.
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A fearful team member is likely to be scared of:
Losing their job
Suffering damage to their reputation
Being made to look bad in front of their colleagues; and
Feeling worthless and bad at their job.
Fear stops teamwork, fear creates workplace gangs, fear stops people from speaking up, fear kills confidence, creativity and innovation
Amy G. Dala or the am-ig-da-la – the wee part of your brain responsible for fear, anger and negativity
Resistance is an active, intelligent, protean, malign, force — tireless, relentless and inextinguishable — whose sole object is to stop us from becoming our best selves and from achieving our higher goals.”
This resistance is the reaction of your mind every time you want to create something new or do something different. A reaction that has the same strength than you desire, but goes in the opposite direction. You can never completely eliminate resistance, but you can learn to live with it and be stronger than it.
Keep it very simple and differentiate yourself quickly. You have about 30 seconds or less to really simplify your message but also explain clearly what is in it for the audience, you to explain ‘the why’ part of plans.”
“Also it’s important to show personality and smile — smiling is really an inexpensive asset, people are drawn to enthusiasm and confidence. It’s about saying things like ‘I know this is going to be a great solution’ rather than ‘I think this is going to be good solution’.”
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Simon Oliver Sinek is a British-American author, motivational speaker and organisational consultant. He is the author of five books, including Start With Why.
“We want to be around people and organizations who are like us and share our beliefs. When companies talk about WHAT they do and how advanced their products are, they may have appeal, but they do not necessarily represent something to which we want to belong. But when a company clearly communicates their WHY, what they believe, and we believe what they believe, then we will sometimes go to extraordinary lengths to include those products or brands in our lives.”Starting with WHY gives your followers and customers a way to identify with you on a personal level. If your WHY matches their WHY, they are willing to stand with you through thick and thin. Without a clear WHY, people default to the WHAT. Then you are always caught in this struggle to differentiate yourself in the sea of WHAT. And you are forced to differentiate yourself with features, or worse, with price
PhD MSW is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation – Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. I’m the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and Dare to Lead.
Theodore Roosevelt Jr. was an American statesman, politician, conservationist, naturalist, and writer who served as the 26th president of the United States from 1901 to 1909. His face is depicted on Mount Rushmore, alongside those of George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, and Abraham Lincoln. In polls of historians and political scientists, Roosevelt is generally ranked as one of the five best presidents
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
Marianne Deborah Williamson is an American author, lecturer and activist. She has written 13 books, including four New York Times number one bestsellers. She is the founder of Project Angel Food, a volunteer food delivery program that serves home-bound people with AIDS and other life-threatening illnesses. She is also put in her bid to run for President.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darknessThat most frightens us.
We ask ourselvesWho am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small Does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking So that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, As children do. We were born to make manifest The glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; It's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others.
Tarana is a civil rights activist from The Bronx, New York who founded the Me Too movement. In 2006, Burke began using the phrase "Me Too" to raise awareness of the pervasiveness of sexual abuse and assault in society, and the phrase developed into a broader movement, following the 2017 use of #MeToo as a hashtag following the Harvey Weinstein sexual abuse allegations. Time named Burke, among a group of other prominent activists dubbed "the silence breakers", as the Time Person of the Year for 2017. Burke attends public speaking events across the country and is currently Senior Director at Girls for Gender Equity in Brooklyn.
Diversity, Equality and Inclusion are all part of kicking fear and toxicity out of the workplace and is a way we are learning to talk to each other about these issues – mental health, well being, work/life balance, confidence, being supported are all under the banner of Diversity and Inclusions – give a look at work to see what programs are available, are there any, if not maybe its time to start one?
This is an inscription on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop in Westminster Abbey:
When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country.But, it too, seemed immovable.As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize: If I had only changed my self first, then by example I would have changed my family.From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.
Do you want to live in fear and toxicity or do you want thrive in joy and positivity? We choose how we show up in the world and it is a choice, how do you want to show up.
I am very lucky to have many communities that I call home. And in each sharing story is the one of the ways we feel belonging or not so alone, it is one of the drivers of why I write and feel compelled to share personal stories about my life, the times I’ve been fired, my brokenheart at times, what makes me angry, hurts my feelings to the core, when I’m exhausted, and the moments that take my breath away and what fills me with pure unadulterated joy.
It is one of the reasons I started my Mavens Do It Better podcast, because I believe that each of us is and can be the expert of our own lives and we all bring a unique spark to the world.
The thing is, that being left out happens to all of us whether you are shy and introverted or the most popular person or connected person. You are shunned sometimes because you maybe don’t speak up or don’t ask to be included, some times people simply aren’t aware or looking out for those cues, or giant egos, jealousy of who you are and what you bring to the table and just straight up toxic behavior get in the way. It happens to everyone. It happens to me. And I know it happens to each of you.
My point is that we all, me included can be better about this. Its about awareness of self and awareness of others. Things are heightened on the playa, at events, and in the office, what we do is stressful and has high stakes. The thing is, is that all of us are seeking to fit in, to feel wanted, to be cared for, to be liked, to be noticed just as I was on that playground, being the new kid, hoping that someone would see me, truly see me and say, “hey, what’s your name, want to come along?”
Nothing like it, to feel that belonging. It is magic. And something we all need to do for each other. Full stop.
And that is what Burning Man Taught Me About Belonging, And it is what all of you in this community teach me and we can teach each other, everyday, so thank you for making me feel like I belong and I hope you feel from me too. The Man Burns in XXX days. Thank you.