Dating Courtship and Marriage 2021

5. Learning Targets In this lesson, you should be able to: ● identify the difference between dating, courtship, and marriage; ● express thoughts on courtship in the Philippines Then and Now ; and ● describe what dating, courtship, and marriage is.

9. What isDating? - two people who are interested in each other - will give time and exert effort to pursue a romantic relationship

10. Benefitsof Dating ● It helps us understand not only our potential partners but also ourselves. ● It gives us a better idea of what we want and expects in a relationship. 10

11. 11 What iscourtship? - two possible long-life partners already established a mutual romantic relationship. - consider each other as a girlfriend and boyfriend.

12. Benefitsof Courtship - slowly gain maturity - enjoy the gift of discovering love. 12

13. White Is the color of milk and fresh snow, the color produced by the combination of all the colors of the visible spectrum. You canalsosplit yourcontent Black Is the color of ebony and of outer space. It has been the symbolic color of elegance, solemnity and authority. 13 Marriage

14. What isMarriage? - TO SETTLE DOWN - TO START A FAMILY - DEEP COMMITMENT - DONE THROUGH RELIGIOUS OTH OR LEGAL CONTRACT

15. Benefitsof Marriage - boosts confidence to live a wonderful life - affirmation of your existence as a person with worth and value

16. MULTICULTURALISM 16

17. Multicultural marriagesof Americans and Asians are common these days.

18. Differences we need to cross if we find a partner from a different culture: 1. Language Barrier 2. Food Differences 3. Religion 4. Cultural and Moral values

19. Andtablesto comparedata 19 Behavior and Attitudes of a Healthy Marriage and Family Life: ● Respect ● Mutual Support ● Open Communication ● Compromise ● Respect for Privacy

20. Maps ouroffice 20 Factorsthat Contribute to a Successful Marriage

21. 21 “Courtship is not just until you get married, it is forever.”

22. Product, Performance, and Purpose: Interview at least three couples that have been married for more than five years. Follow the guide below and make a conclusion based on their answers. 22 Ask the couple about the following: 1. How long have you known each other? 2. What activities do you usually do when you dated? 3. How long did the husband court the wife until they got engaged? 4. Do you have differences as a couple? How did you overcome these differences? 5. What are your tips and secret to long-lasting healthy family life? 6. Can you give any advice for me on how to find a partner?

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One goal of human existence is to find a life long partner that they could grow old with. Religion suggests that men and women are created for one another to bear children and build a family. While on the other hand biology explains that the union of a female egg and male sperm is essential for the survival of the human species. Both ideas agree that reproduction is essential to life. However, finding a life long partner is not that simple. In human society, there are certain customs and traditional standards that vary from different cultures. As human civilization progresses, the primary purpose of starting a family is not only limited to reproduction. In the Philippines, the majority of Filipinos follow a specific rule in finding a partner. We go through the process of courting and dating — this how we show our respect to our potential partner and their families. In fact, we have this historical tradition called “harana” where a male pursuer visits the house of a lady if they want to express their endearment through a song using their guitar. Dating and courtship in the Philippines might seem to be complex compared to liberated countries. But because of these practices, Filipinos became respectful and created a strong bond with the family they established.
The Courtship has been part of our society’s transformation. For the past few years we have seen how our society has gradually changed through technology just as technology become one of the center of our societies transformation. As a result of the changes and the evolution happens in our country which is the Philippines, courtship has been engaged into major changes. Lets see what changes happen before and now.
You may notice the big changes happen in our society. Technology has been upgrading day by day, Culture has evolve in so many ways, our infrastructure has advanced compared to what they are before and so as courtship. Courtship before and now has a big difference. You may notice those changes if you compare how Filipino people court now and then. The technology has become a great factor why courship has revolve around decades. As seen in the diagram above (Figure 1) we can elaborate what are those differences that courtship have including some similarities. You can find the meaning of those word above. The conclusion is that the technology is the major factor why courtship has been evolve through Filipino people. A lot of things happen and change because of technology and one of those things is courtship.
Finding a partner is a decision we make as part of our human sexuality. We are social beings, and most of us can find our lifelong partners in social gatherings: an acquaintance, a classmate, your neighbor, and even a childhood friend. We communicate with them frequently until you finally go out with them formally and call it dating. Dating is a period where two people who are interested in each other will give time and exert effort to pursue a romantic relationship depending on the result of knowing each other. Dating can be done in groups, some in pairs and call it a double date or you can enjoy the company of one another. This social interaction may evolve into a more serious level known as courtship. Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in Western societies whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others. The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time. While the term has several meanings, the most frequent usage refers to two people exploring whether they are romantically or sexually compatible by participating in dates with the other. With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or arrange to meet in person
Dating is an integral part of fulfilling your human sexuality. It helps us understand not only our potential partners but also ourselves. It gives us a better idea of what we want and expects in a relationship. Dating also provides us with the opportunity to be ourselves and to meet someone who will accept and even help us become a better person
Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other. Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage. The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner. Men and women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person. Maturity and readiness for marriage are not considerations in the decision to date. Instead, couples usually date with the selfish goals of having fun and enjoying romantic attachments. In contrast, courtship is undertaken only when both parties are prepared to make a commitment to marriage. Dating tries to answer the question, How can I find the one who will make me happy? Courtship strives to answer the question
But courtship is not yet the final step. There is another step that takes part in the courtship process. If the couple gets too comfortable enjoying spending time together, an engagement proposal might take place showing how serious they want to commit to one another. The traditional way is when a man spill the words “Will you marry me?” while offering an engagement ring and woman the woman would reply “Yes.” If everything goes in favor of the couple, marriage will seal and strengthen the beginning of their journey of a lifetime as husband and wife.
After the engagement, the couple will eventually decide on getting married to settle down and start a family. Marriage is a deep commitment we share with a partner under a religious oath or a legal contract. You will form a bond with your partner and swear it in front of witnesses. This bond is founded on love, respect, and fidelity that you will obey until the last day of your lives
Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally recognised union between people, called spouses, that establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.[1] It is considered a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time. Typically, it is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity. A marriage ceremony is called a wedding.
It’s not always true that you can easily find a lifelong partner from your city, province or even in your own country. Many couples found their partners from the other side of the world. Thanks to technology with such advanced communication, we can talk, or video chat people from different countries. Since there are many Overseas Filipino Workers (OFW), Filipinos get the chance to mingle with other nationalities.
Language Barrier Filipinos may be fluent in certain languages like English or Spanish, but what if we found a partner from India or France? Communication is key for a long-lasting relationship, and this is where most of the misunderstanding occurs. Both partners should enhance their communication skill. They can teach each other their language and make it as their bonding moment, or they could both communicate in the universal language which is English. 2. Food Differences - If you found someone from another country and they have unusual food preferences, what would you do? Food is always part of one's culture. You grew up from eating the same food from your country. So, it is better that we also need to try out our partner's cuisine and traditional food because once you're married, this food will be a part of your household with your future children. 3. Religion - Everyone is born with a belief. This is part of our culture and geographical location from the map. It will be hard if you both choose which religion should be followed. Especially if you already started a family and had children. It is a test as multicultural partners, no matter what religion you will follow, as long as you have love and respect for each other’s culture, a lifelong relationship is manageable. 4. Cultural and Moral values - The Philippines has a conservative culture especially those under Christianity. If you found a partner form liberated countries like those in the western region, your values and ideas may clash. But the key to this situation is a two-way understanding. As a couple, both of you should communicate properly your thoughts and what you think about a specific situation, and at the same time, understand where your partner is coming from with full of respect.
● Respect - Partners should consider each other’s feelings, know and value what your partner wishes because mutual respect is a big factor in a relationship. ● Mutual Support - When you both choose to be together for a lifetime, it is your role as a husband or as a wife to lift each other up. Encourage each other to become a better version of themselves. ● Open Communication - Speaking up for the things that they are not as comfortable as a couple will strengthen their relationship. Proper communication will always clear the line of misunderstanding. ● Compromise - The best way to settle two opposing ideas or decision between husband and wife is to meet halfway. They are no longer two people, but instead, they are a single unit of a family so they should decide on things consciously. ● Respect for Privacy - As husband and wife, you embrace each other’s differences while keeping your own individuality. Even though the family should always come first, but you as an individual should be respected with your private interests and needs.