Slides for the presentation I gave for Stanfords first ever kink club meeting (Kardinal Kink) 2013

1. More than Whips, Chains, and
50 Shades
Princess Kali
Erotication.com
CoachingByKali.com

2. People under 18 not permitted to attend, since
this is about sex
If you ever feel uncomfortable, you're free and
welcome to leave. Consent is important, and
consent is continuous.
Trigger warnings

3. Hosted by Sexual Health Peer Resource Center (SHPRC) for Kardinal
Kink
SHPRC is a student-run store on the second floor of Vaden that sells
heavily subsidized condoms, lubricants, and other sex-related
products. They're awesome and wonderful and badasses.
Kardinal Kink: new, anonymous student-run kink group. We're a twopronged group: a safe space and support network for kinky
Stanfordites and a public effort to encourage (non-kinky) students and
academics to learn about and even research kink. The lecture series is
a part of this effort, demonstrating what kink really is by exploring
various intellectual topics related to alternate sexualities, which
currently include this intro, a talk on November 20 about polyamoury
and a talk in December about the Psychobiology of S&M. We're also
helping connect students interested in researching kink with
resources, so if you are curious about these resources, don't hesitate
to email us.
Email us at kardinalkink@gmail.com for questions

4. Pop Culture

5. Misconceptions
Mentally Ill – Study in Australia proved the rate for
mental illness is the same in the kink community as it
is for the community at large
It’s about pedophilia! Violence! Abuse! Bestiality! Um No.
Kink is ALWAYS separated from sex (or sex is always included) No.
Kink is only for gay men in leather or angry people (also Nope!)

6. Kink does NOT equal abuse
Informed Consent – SSC, RACK
Ultimately the experiences should be
pleasurable
Aftercare

7. What IS kink?
B - bondage
D – discipline / dominance
S – submission / sado
M – masochism
The Term KINK
What is a fetish?
Sensation Play, D/s, bondage, fetishes,
There is a lot of cross over w/
poly, swing, pagan, feminism, tantra, genderqueer
communities

8. Some kinky activities
Popular:
Flogging, Whipping, Protocol, Bondage, Roleplay, Electrici
ty, Gags, Cross Dressing, Spanking, Tickling, CBT, Needle
Play, Chastity, Humiliation
Fetishes: Feet, breasts, role-play scenerios, ravishment,
Controversial: TPE, Breath Play, Scat, Age
Play, Feederism, Watersports
Exotic: Sploshing, Pony Play, Fire Play, ABDL, Hypnosis

9. How is kink experienced?
A relationship structure
A spiritual experience
As intense physical sensation
As a feeling emotional catharsis
As a spicy addition to sex
As a political & cultural identity
As a skill & an art
As a ‘safer sex’ way to play with others

10. Some possible obstacles
+ Taboo of talking about sex in general
+ We don’t have much language for healthy sex
+ Specific gender issues for men, women & trans
+ The ‘othering’ of kink – labels can be difficult
+ Dominance & submission is sexy, but it can be challenging

11. Tips for getting started
+ Learn what you like, fantasize, explore…
+ Start slow! Don’t eat the whole buffet!
+ Trust your gut when dealing with other players.
+ Educate yourself. Read, watch videos, go to classes.
+ Tell a friend if you’re playing with strangers!
+ Don’t let preconceived ideas stunt your experience

12. Resources