personal development

1. Week 9-10
EZRA DG. DE JESUS
San Mateo Senior High School
Personal Development

2. o Develop a Personal Plan to Enhance Brain Functions
o Emotional Intelligence
o Positive and Negative Emotions
o Demonstrate and Create Ways to Manage Various Emotions
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3. Lesson 17:
Teenage Relationships:
Acceptable and Unacceptable
Expressions of Attractions

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6. Relationship
It is said that every kind of relationship is a two-way
traffic which means that all parties should learn how to
give and take. There are different forms of relationships
and each of us has a clear description for each of these
forms.

7. personal
relationships
romantic
relationship
impersonal
relationships

9. Understanding the Acceptable and
Unacceptable Means of Expressing
Attractions toward the Opposite Sex
RA 7877: Anti-Harassment Act of 1995. This law
recognizes that sexual harassment occurs in the
workplace, education, and training environments, and
penalizes persons who have authority, influence, and
moral status in those institutions who commit
prohibited acts of sexual harassment. A good example
of this are: a subordinate to a superior, a student to a
teacher, or a trainee to a trainer.
RA11313: Safe Space Act. This RA broadens the
scope of RA 7877 by addressing the gaps in our legal
framework by recognizing that sexual harassment can
also be committed between peers.

10. What Makes a Healthy and
Acceptable Expression of
Attractions?
As you are happy to see and spend
time with your partner, you know that
you are in a stable relationship. No
partnership is ever perfect, and when
basic conflicts arise, causing tension
with others, you will certainly feel that
the relationship is unstable for a
moment.

11. There are many factors that lead to the growth and
maintenance of healthy and acceptable
relationships, including:
1. Mutual respect
2. Trust
3. Honesty
4. Support
5. Fairness/Equality
6. Separate identities
7. Good Communication

12. 10 Things That Are Unacceptable in
Any Relationship
Every relationship has its ups
and downs, and we all have to
compromise a little to make
them work. But if your partner
consistently does the following,
it might be time to think twice.

13. 1. Cheating
2. Putting you down
3. Not supporting your dreams
4. Controlling
5. Lack of communication
6. Unnecessary sacrifices
7. Unreliability
8. Forgetting the memorable day
9. Self-destruction
10. Not caring about friends and family
10 Things That Are Unacceptable
in Any Relationship

14. Lesson 18:
Attraction, Love,
and Commitment

15. “Being deeply loved by
someone gives you strength,
while loving someone deeply
gives you courage.”
-Lao Tzu

16. ATTRACTION
The action or power of
evoking interest,
pleasure, or liking for
someone or something;
and a quality or feature
that evokes interest,
liking, or desire.
(Merriam-Webster
dictionary)
Having this definition, it could be said
that attraction is a positive connection
between two or more people that share
something in common, like interests,
likes/dislikes, or desires. Some
qualities may catch your attention and
which could spark a certain kind of
relationship.

17. Physical Attractiveness
Attractive people draw out a more positive first
impression. Initially, people tend to be
influenced by what they see. Our perception
of beauty, though, differs from one another
since it can be influenced by culture,
educational background, social status, etc.
Similarity
When you are tasked by your teacher to
select a partner for an activity, who do you
usually choose? Why? The common answer
might be a friend who used to be with you,
perhaps, because there is a connection
between the two of you that you do not have
with others. We can say that you are “on the
same wavelength” that is why you find it easy
to get along with him/her.
Proximity
One of the important aspects of any relationship is
distance. Proximity pertains to physical distance
with other people and it is related to functional
distance (how often people interact or
communicate with each other). The more you
encounter or interact with the person, the more
you allow yourself to get to know him/her better.
Reciprocity
We tend to get along with people or with someone
whom we have the same feelings toward. It is
when feelings with someone are being
reciprocated or returned in the same way as you
do. According to Brannan and Mohr, “Another way
to think of it is that relationships are built on a give
and take; if one side is not reciprocating, then the
relationship is doomed”.

18. LOVE
It appears that the word Love has
many meanings.
1. According to Meriam-
Webster dictionary:
(a) strong affection for another
arising out of kinship or personal
ties;
(b) attraction based on sexual
desire: affection and tenderness
felt by lovers;
(c) affection based on admiration,
benevolence, or common
interests
2. One of the important
components of a complex
neurochemical system that
allows the body to adapt to
highly emotional situations”.

19. Some elements are
responsible for the deep and
strong bonds of a person
with others that resulted to
love.
One of the accountable
chemicals for the connection
of two individuals like
between mother and child
inside her womb and even
after giving birth is
Oxytocin.
It is a peptide also known as the
love hormone, a female
reproduction hormone, which
helps to deepen the connection
between mother and child
through breastfeeding. It is
transmitted to the brain tissue of
the child that allows and creates
a strong bond between them
and is considered as the first
form of love.

20. Together with Oxytocin, Endorphin,
Serotonin, and Dopamine are so-
called “feel good” chemicals that
promote strong connections/bonds
between people since it releases
during happy moments.
Another element that promotes love
is Vasopressin. It is also a peptide
that conveys the behavior of an
individual’s social engagement
(Kenkel et al, 2012). One of its roles
is to produce a behavior of
developing stable, loving, and long-
term relationship with others.
The studies of Cohen 2007;
Fisher et. al, 2009 explained
that the serotonin
production of newly-in-love
individuals increases up to
40% just like with the brain of
a drug addict. And, when a
person experiences
heartbreak, the brain
processes just like an addict
quitting a heroin habit.

21. Triangular Model of Love
In the book of Principles of Social
Psychology 1st International
Edition by Dr. Charles Strangor,
he explained Robert Sternberg’s
proposed Triangular Model of
Love. It says that there are seven
(7) different types of love and
each type consists of the
combinations of variables
(Cognitive, Physiological and
Affective variables) that are
specified in Three (3) different
components/factors: Intimacy,
Passion, and Commitment.

22. Intimacy is consisting of
affective variables such as
closeness, caring, and
emotional support; Passion is
consist of physiological and
affective variables like physical
attraction, emotional responses
that promote physiological
changes, and sexual arousal;
and Commitment is a cognitive
process and decision to
dedicate love to another
individual with the willingness to
keep the relationship lasts.

23. There are different ways in showing love with our loved ones or partners and are emphasized
in Three (3) attachment styles we display when we interact with our parents, our friends, and
our romantic partners (Eastwick & Finkel, 2008). These styles have a big effect or impact on
how an individual perceived and expresses behavior with or towards others.
Secure Attachment Style
a healthy style wherein
the children used to
receive care and easily
communicate with the
parents since they feel
that they are always
available to listen and
keep them safe.
Anxious/ambivalent
Attachment Style
when children are
lacking or seeking
more affection from
parents because
they are too
dependent on them.
Avoidant Attachment
Style
it is when children
are distant to the
parent/s, sometimes
due to unpleasant
experiences.

24. COMMITMENT
A long-term relationship
between individuals. A more
complex relationship that
resulted to increasingly turn to
each other not only for social
support but also for help in
coordinating activities,
remembering dates and
appointments, and
accomplishing tasks (Wegner,
Erber, & Raymond, 1991).
According to Slotter, “commitment
refers to the feelings and action that
keep partners working together to
maintain the relationship”.
Commitment is a choice, a long and
not an easy process that needs to be
participated by you and your partner.

25. Below are some collected ideas on how
to exercise expressing affections and
developed into a commitment for any
kinds of relationship.
• Stay happy
• Be empathic
• Keep open communication
• Always trust
• Show respect
• Be a helping hand

26. Lesson 19:
Ways to Become
Responsible in a
Relationship

27. Relationships are the framework of our lives. All relationships
require love, nurturing, and efforts to survive and be successful.
Placing trust and commitment as the foundation of one’s
relationship is essential. However, for any relationship to flourish,
it is equally important for each of the individuals to be ready for
owning and accepting the responsibilities in their words and
actions.

28. Some of the common
responsibilities of a person in
a relationship.
1. Be responsible for what you
think and say to the other
person.
2. Ensure that the relationship is
mutually beneficial.
3. Be responsible for what you
promise to do or not to do.
4. Practice Respect at all times.
5. Be ready to provide support
when needed.
6. Determine and Respect
limits and values.
7. Allow room for space and
growth.
8. Be accountable with
actions and feelings.
9. Spend the right amount of
time together.
10. Communicate clearly and
honestly.

29. Output 9: Relationship Goals
List your expectations for your
current or future relationship
goals. It could be in the form of
a song, a quote, a hugot or
pick up line.

30. Lesson 20:
LESSON 20:
Various Roles of Different Individuals in Society and How They
Influence People Through their Leadership or Followership

31. Directions: Analyze the pictures below.
Explain what characteristics of a leader
and follower have been shown here
and how can those characteristics
influence people.
1
2
3

32. 2. What do you think
are the best role of a
good leader and
follower?

33. Leadership is a primary vehicle in fulfilling the goal of a team. It is a social
influence relationship between two or more persons. Becoming a good leader is
not an overnight process or just attending a one –day seminar workshop. It
requires willingness to devote your time wholeheartedly in managing, helping,
and coaching your team without compromising your family time. In short,
leadership is a two-way process; leaders and constituents may work together to
get things done easily and smoothly.

34. A Role defines a set of norms, values, behaviors,
and personality characteristics attached to a status
such as leader, follower, or club president. Every
leader assumes role in a society. They are
expected to behave a pattern usually determined by
individuals in the society.
To become a great leader, you must be a good
follower. This will give high impact to a society. you
must have the important leadership qualities that
can affect constituents and can be developed by
anyone.

35. Roles of an Efficient Leader that can influence people:
1. Set example
2. Assume and do responsibility
3. Show Initiative
4. Life-long learner
5. Show enthusiasm
6. Willing to serve
7. Active listener
8. Show empathy
9. Be sensitive to the need of others
10. Delegate work
11. Learn to appreciate
12. Be patient

36. Leadership qualities are not exclusive to leaders. Some
of these may found in the followership. A great leader
encourages teamwork.
Followership plays an essential part of the leadership
equation. Followers are team that can contribute
success in your leadership. Followership means when
people express words, actions, respect, and support to
a leader. But what are the role of a follower?

37. Role of an Effective Follower that Leaders
Need
1. Courage to do responsibility
2. Courage to challenge
3. Courage to participate in
4. A can-do attitude
5. A collaborative approach
6. Courage to serve and subservient
7. The passion to drive personal growth

38. Output 10:
Make a poster or slogan showing
different roles of a leader and
follower in a society that could
influence people.