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1. 7 Habits for Effective Recovery
Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes Executive Director, AllCEUs
Podcast Host: Counselor Toolbox & Happiness isn’t Brain Surgery
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2. Objectives
 Review the 7-Habits of Highly Effective People
and how they apply to recovery from mental
health and addiction issues
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3. Be Proactive
 Be response-able
 Your life (Vehicle)
What people things and activities are important to your
life? What is your destination / Good Orderly Direction?
What thoughts, attitudes and self talk will help you move
toward that destination? (Empowering, accepting,
compassionate)
What actions will help you move toward that destination?
(self-care, building support, therapy, new job…)
What challenges or adversities can you plan for and
mitigate? (Illness, financial stresses, bad days, deaths,
holidays…)
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4. Be Proactive
 Be response-able
 Your recovery (Engine)
What people things and activities are important to your
recovery? What do you need to do to maintain your
happiness?
How is your recovery important to your overall life goal
or destination? In what ways does it impact the people
and things that are important to you?
What challenges or adversities can you plan for and
mitigate?
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5. Be Proactive
 Focus on what is within your
control
 Imagine a blizzard or hurricane is
coming
 What is and is not within your
control?
 How can you minimize the distress
 How can you maximize the happy
and build your reserves
 Make a list of things (including
positive things) that are within
your control
My thoughts,
feelings,
reactions,
How I care
for myself
Other people’s thoughts,
reactions, behaviors,
mistakes
The weather, traffic
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6. Be Proactive
 Develop skills to help you regulate your emotions,
urges and actions and choose those that help you
move toward happiness.
 Admit and learn from mistakes
 Practice the 3 finger rule
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7. ACT
 Action
 Changes
 Things
 What action can you take right now to start
changing things for the better?
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8. Begin with the End in Mind
 Most failures result from failure to envision/plan
(within reason)
 Going to the gym
 Going to the grocery without a list
 Going on vacation without a destination
 Starting a project without a plan
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9. Begin with the End in Mind
 Envision in your mind what you cannot at present
see
 If you were happy, what would be same and different?
 What is your personal mission statement (revisable)?
What do you do?
How do you do it?
Why do you do it?
 What do I really want out of life?
What am I uniquely put on earth to achieve?
 What do I believe my purpose or mission is in life?
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10. Begin with the End in Mind
 Envision in your mind what you cannot at present
see
 If you were happy, what would be same and different?
 What is your personal mission statement (revisable)?
What do you do?
How do you do it?
Why do you do it?
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11. Begin with the End in Mind
 Plan ahead and set goals
 Specific
 Measurable
 Achievable
 Time Limited
 Realistic
 Rewarding
 Envision reaching your destination daily.
 Keep track of progress toward your destination.
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12. Put First Things First (Purposeful Action)
 Recognize that not doing everything is okay.
 Prioritize by practicing mindful discipline
Remind yourself why you do the things you do
For new opportunities, ask “Does X get you closer to the
things that are most important to you?”
 Organization reduces stress and energy
expenditure
 Do you have energy and time to do it over if you don’t
do it right the first time? (Outlining)
 It's all right to say no or ask for help when
necessary to focus on your highest priorities.
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13. Put First Things First (Purposeful Action)
 Practice Time Management
 List the “have tos” for a week
 Cross off anything that doesn’t get you closer to your
goals. (paying bills vs. social media)
 Prioritize what is left
 Delegate when possible
 Simplify when possible
 Make a plan to balance the tasks with the goals
Finishing a project vs. kids baseball game
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14. Put First Things First (Purposeful Action)
 Address procrastination
 Fear of success
 Fear of failure
 Lack of motivation
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15. Think Win-Win
 Four vital character traits:
 Self-Respect: Sticking with your true feelings, values, and
commitments
 Respect and compassion for others ideas and feelings of
others
 Abundance Mentality: Believing there is plenty for everyone
 Wisdom: Ability to walk the middle path both/and
 3 steps
 See the issue from the other person’s point of view and
identify key issues involved
 Determine what a successful resolution would look like
 Identify and effectively communicate options to achieve
those resolutions, including compromise
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16. Think Win-Win
 Your success doesn’t mean someone else’s failure
 Cooperation is less stressful than competition
 Surround yourself with people smarter than you
 Look for ways you can cooperate to achieve mutual
goals “How can this resolve to make us both happy?”
 Examine common areas of competition for
purposefulness and cooperation
Job promotion
Relationships
Attractiveness
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17. Problem Solving Paradigms
You
The Other
Person
Paradigm Example
Lose Lose Lose-Lose
Someone who doesn't try and
doesn't think anything can work
out for anyone
Lose Win Lose-Win
A martyr type who thinks that the
world is a competition, and
doesn't want anyone else to lose
Win Lose Win-Lose
The classic competitor: From
football player to salesman
Win Win Win-Win
An entrepreneur who succeeds by
delighting his customers
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18. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be
Understood
 Actually listen (diagnose, then prescribe)
 To yourself…shutting out the “should voices”
 To others…without trying to form a response
 Types of listening
Pretending: humming along while not really following.
Selective listening: hearing what you want to hear.
Attentive listening: paying attention to the words.
Empathic listening: intending to understand what the
other is trying to communicate.
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19. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be
Understood
 Look at the bigger picture
 Avoid only focusing on certain aspects
 Use factual, not emotional reasoning
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20. Synergize
 Have one common vision –
one common goal
 Have a sense of self
 Value differences and new
ideas – stay authentic
 Embrace trust and elicit
support
 Accept the better way will
likely not be their
way…100%
 Be respectful to everyone –
everything
 Be able and willing to
apologize and forgive
 Practice mindful listening
(listen with empathy)
 Maintain an open desire to
understand
 Control negative judgment
 Stay with Win / Win
• Job offer
• Moving
• Vacation plans
• Family
management
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21. Sharpen the Saw / Prevent Vulnerabilities
 Happiness requires rest and renewal…balance
 Which takes more time… sawing a tree with a completely dull
blade or taking the time to sharpen the blade before sawing the
tree?
 Time-limit problem focus
 Physical: Good nutrition, sleep, relaxation, exercise
 Social/Emotional: Making meaningful connections with
others and maintain a compassionate awareness of self
 Mental: Learning, hobbies, reading, writing, mindfulness
 Spiritual: Explore your interconnectedness with others and
everything
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22. Summary
 Proactivity helps people stay healthy and energized, effectively
plan for known stresses and prepare for the unknown reducing
fear of the unknown and last minute chaos.
 Beginning with the end and putting first things first helps
people identify what areas and tasks to use their limited energy
on
 Think win-win, seeking to understand and synergizing all help
reduce stress associated with competition and
misunderstandings to help all people move toward happiness
 Sharpening the saw helps people focus on preventing and
mitigating vulnerabilities.
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