The document provides information on managing depression. It discusses recognizing the symptoms of depression in body language and children. It recommends tackling manageable problems, setting goals, expressing yourself through writing or art, spending time outside, eating antidepressant foods, and seeing a therapist. Maintaining responsibilities and exercising can help while avoiding isolation, alcohol, and drugs.

1. It is wise to know how to stay with depression-know the steps of
MANAGEMENT
Dr Rupa Talukdar, chief Executive Counsellor Of Mind’s Eye
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2.  Depression is
like a war,
you either
win or die
trying
 Life is not
about waiting
for the storm
to pass, it’s
about
learning how
to dance in
the rain
 Worthless,
pointless,
useless
,pathetic and
depressed-
that is me.

3. Body becomes squeezed
and bent forward- totally
loosened depending on
the degree of depression;
typical gesture head
down and rest on the
folded knee. In the
morning before leaving
the bed the person sits
on the bed being
hopeless and
nothingness; no
enthusiasms has been
found in his eyes/motion
rather he becomes
motionless –in any case
head is always down-
this is the first
symptoms of depression-
head seems to be
weighty to the depressed
soul-they try to find any
kind of resting place for
it: shoulder of friends,
own knee or if not
anything is there, it is
jutted forward with a
downward leaning.

4.  It is not usual that you will be always in happy emotion
throughout your life; if a person expects so s/he will be
immediately advised to come out from this way of thinking
because it has no justification; look out in the nature-if there is
birth, there is death also-if birth brings happiness, death obviously
brings sorrow-if sunrise exists sunsets must be there-it’s simply a
calculation- happiness is so attractive only because the other part
of it is depression-so people needs not to be very serious of it-
rather they should know how to stay when there is depression
 Irrespective of nature of human being depression happens to be
there in emotion –it does not depends whether you expect or not-it
is a cyclic process-like seasonal change of climate-if summer
represents happiness, winter represents depression in country
where cold persists in most of months in a year. In our land
(India) winter represents the joy of the life-it is the festival,
summer/rainy day is for usual way of living: continuous work,
study and sometimes expanded existence of any season directs an
emotion towards depression.

5. If you failed in doing something, cannot succeed/crack exam or
face some unexpected heart breaking result either you became
depressed or felt something unusual which is not like
depression: you can take it as challenge or may become more
powerful for the next attempt, start working hard for achieving
expected outcome being more confident and determined. One’s
depression is other’s way to reach the goal being more oriented
towards the target. No’ sounds differently:
 No = negative, brings hopelessness
 No = makes some one more oriented
 No = in disguise ‘yes’-it’s a courtesy
 No = danger= makes people cautious
So, it’s not the event, it’s the personality, which makes you
depressed, so it is essential to know your nature-that will
help you lifelong to step out in outer world.

6. to spot the depression s/he can able to find it in a happiest
person of the world also- because it is natural- no one is
above the feelings of depression at least once in his/her life.
So it is wise not to be worried about it, rather,
 Spot the cause of it
 Analyses it
 Try to tackle the source of depression
 Know the techniques how to manage the depression
 Once you know the causes , try to either fight with it or stay along
with it as it is the inevitable part of your nature being attentive to
other part of your life step by step

7. If they are the perpetrator, what to do-nothing! But only due
to this no one can ruin him/herself, depressive emotion
needs regular life coaching on how to lead an assertive way
of living.
If family members find it early in any child during boyhood
s/he must make alert call to the well wishers
(parents/teacher/close members of family/siblings) of the
child - early detection always develops better coping skill in the
child.

8. The symptoms of depression in children vary. It is often
undiagnosed and untreated because they are passed off as
normal emotional and psychological changes that occur
during growth. Early medical studies focused on "masked"
depression, where a child's depressed mood was evidenced
by acting out or angry behavior. While this does occur,
particularly in younger children, many children display
sadness or low mood similar to adults who are depressed.
Parents are the first vigilant for spotting the signs that may
indicate that their child is at risk only because of
depression

9.  Irritability or anger
 Continuous feelings of sadness and
hopelessness
 Social withdrawal
 Increased sensitivity to rejection
 Changes in appetite -- either
increased or decreased
 Changes in sleep -- sleeplessness or
excessive sleep (“insomnia” or
“hypersomnia”)
 Vocal outbursts or crying
 Difficulty concentrating
 Fatigue and low energy
 Physical complaints (such as
stomachaches, headaches) that
don't respond to treatment
 Reduced ability to function during
events and activities at home or
with friends, in school,
extracurricular activities, and in
other hobbies or interests
 Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
 Impaired thinking or concentration
 Increased acting-out of undesirable
behaviors (sexual/behavioral)
 Increased risk-taking behaviors
 Frequent accidents
 Substance abuse
 Focus on morbid and negative
themes
 Talk about death and dying
 Increased crying or reduced
emotional expression
 Giving away possessions

10. Treatment options for children with depression are
similar to those for adults,
including psychotherapy(counseling) and medication.
The role that family and the child's environment play
in the treatment process is different from that of
adults. Child’s doctor may suggest psychotherapy
first, and consider antidepressant medicine as an
additional option if there is no significant
improvement. The best studies to date indicate that a
combination of psychotherapy and medication is most
effective at treating depression.
Other medications may be chosen if there are other
coexisting illnesses contributing to the depression.

11. Teach kids problem-solving skills from a very
early age. If your child has developed problem
solving skills but lost access to them because
they are depressed periodically, you have to
help them regain access to those skills. Here are
some suggestions for ways to help you coach
your child through it.

12. When you ask a teen or pre-teen, “What are your coping
skills,” if he can say, “Oh, I go to my room. I listen to some
music, I count to ten,” that’s good because he understands that
coping is a skill, not an art or magic. And once you teach kids
behavior is a skill, the next step is to get them to identify
problems and develop the behavioral tools to deal with them.
And so it becomes, “You’re feeling sad, you’re feeling
depressed, what can we do about that problem? What would
you find helpful?” It gives you a place to stand where you can
both begin talking about how to solve the problem of feeling
sad.

13. When you ask a teen or pre-teen, “What are your coping
skills,” if he can say, “Oh, I go to my room. I listen to
some music, I count to ten,” that’s good because he
understands that coping is a skill, not an art or magic.
And once you teach kids that behavior is skill, the next
step is to get them to identify problems and develop the
behavioral tools to deal with them. And so it becomes,
“You’re feeling sad, you’re feeling depressed, what can
we do about that problem? What would you find
helpful?” It gives you a place to stand where you can
both begin talking about how to solve the problem of
feeling sad.

14. When people are depressed, kids as well as adults, they still
have to meet their responsibilities. Again, I’m not talking about
kids who are so clinically depressed they’re immobilized. For
everyone else, one of the most important treatments for
depression is to get the person up off their butt to do the
dishes, make the bed, and take a shower. It doesn’t have to be
done in a harsh manner, but you should be firm. If your child
can’t handle a complex task, give them simple ones, but keep
them busy. Depressed people should not be allowed to lie in
bed under the covers, because it just makes the situation worse.

15. As far as responsibilities go, I don’t think a lot of
special consideration should be given to kids who are
episodically depressed. Rather, maintain the same
expectations. They will probably need more support to
perform at the same level. Know that you have to give
them more opportunities to regroup. Be more
available to them when they start feeling
overwhelmed, but don’t let them avoid their
responsibilities. You can say, “We understand you’re
down, but you still have to do your homework.” You
may want to ease them into tasks by having them do
the dishes with you in the kitchen, do their homework
while you work nearby, or go to the store with you.
Again, get them out and moving about. Remember, a
good parenting style for kids who are depressed is
like a coaching style. Coach your child to learn new
skills. During a time of episodic depression in your
child’s life, I would recommend that you use more
coaching and less limit setting

16.  Children who are depressed often exhibit distractibility and
impaired concentration, so it’s important to get them in a soothing
environment. Don’t try to have a talk with them about
their behavior or about their coping skills when a lot of other
distractions are present. In a school setting, if you’re in a special
education class where there’s a lot of noise in the classroom, an
upset child will not be able to engage in a conversation in a way
that’s helpful. That’s why many schools have a “quiet room” where
kids can go to calm down. Once that happens, the adult in charge can
talk with them about whether or not they’re angry, whether or not
they’re depressed, what the problem is and how they can solve it. The
same goes for kids at home. If possible, take your child into a room
where there are no distractions and let them calm down before
opening a conversation about why they’re upset. And let your child
know that you’re willing to listen to them and talk with them about
what’s making them sad. You can say, “We won’t force you to talk if
you don’t want to, but we’re here.”

17. We all go through moods, adolescents especially, and
parents have to be understanding of that. The idea here
is, “Yes, we tolerate moods, but you still have to do
your homework.” You can say, “All right, so you can be
moody, you can feel irritable, you can be down, you
can be sad. We’ll talk with you about it if you want to,
but you’ve got to get your homework done either
way.” You can also do a bit more coaching with moody
kids around this. Try saying, “Hey, you seemed okay
yesterday, what happened? Did something happen in
school?” You can probe it a little bit more, but don’t let
your child avoid responsibilities through these mood
states.

18. Let your child know that we all have periods of
feeling down, that problems can seem overwhelming
to everyone at times. Feelings of sadness are a part of
depression, but they’re also very human. Even
intense feelings of sadness can be experienced
without it being considered unhealthy or abnormal.
And for most kids, the depression they go through
is a period of sadness, a period of being down; a
time when something’s going wrong and they don’t
know what to do about it. Parents can talk that
through with their kids. And they can use the
teaching style and a coaching style to help them
manage those feelings and learn more skills.

19. When a person has depression s/he develops some
psychosomatic symptoms:
 Sleep problems
 Chest pain
 Fatigue and exhaustion
 Muscle aches and joint pain
 Digestive problem
 Headaches
 Changes in appetite and weight gain
 Back pain
 Agitation and restlessness
 Sexual problem

20.  Tackle manageable problems
 Set solution-oriented goals.
 Keep track of your progress in a journal.
 Express yourself:
 Don’t spend too much time alone.
 Writing, dancing and visual art and other types of
art
 Don’t afraid to express
 Nourish your spiritual side
 Try meditation

21.  Spends extra time outside
 If it is either too hot or too cold to stay outside, let
the nature come inside by either organize your
curtain and light of room inside or natural light
flood your house.
 During the darker winter months or cloudy rainy
seasons light therapy products can help replace
the sun’s rays.
 Stay busy
 Make a list of the chores
 Take responsibilities
 Exercise everyday

22.  Eat food with antidepressant properties
 Try supplements.
 Green Tea.
 Cut alcohol and drugs.
 See a Therapist.