This document discusses self-management and different aspects of understanding oneself. It defines four ways of understanding oneself: assumed self, manifest self, objective self, and requisite self. It explains that there are often gaps between these different selves that can be minimized through habits like being proactive, beginning with the end in mind, putting first things first, thinking win-win, seeking first to understand then to be understood, synergizing, and sharpening the saw. Developing these habits can help align one's different selves and understand oneself more fully.
2. MANAGEMENT OF SELF
• Self-management is a key skill needed in all facets of
life.
• The ultimate goal of self-management is to enable
you to achieve the life you want.
• Although many people relate self-management to
time management, it is actually a much broader
concept than mere time management.
3. Understanding Self
In order to understand oneself one should analyse their assets &
liabilities and try to maximise their assets and convert their
liabilities into assets.
There are four ways of understanding one self:-
• Assumed Self
• Manifest Self
• Objective Self
• Requisite Self
“Success doesn't come from self deprivation, it comes
from self management” ― Constance C. Friday
4. Ways of Understanding Self
Assumed Self – What I Think I
am
Manifest Self – World
Perceived, What others think I
am
Objective Self - Who really I
am
Requisite Self – Who I should
5. Assumed Self
Assumption of a person about
himself / herself is known as
the assumed self. In Order to
get a proof of our assumption
about our self we validate our
assumptions about our self
from others. We respond to
others on the thinking of
‘What I think I am’.
6. Manifest Self
The part of behaviour of
one’s self which one
projects to others ie. to the
world. This is the part of self
which is projected to the
world. It is represented by
the idea ‘What others think I
am’
7. Objective Self
Subconsciously a
person is aware what
he / she really is
(objective self) but
the conflict in our
mind makes us
assume a different
perception of our
self.
8. Requisite Self
The requisite self clearly defines about what one should have
been ie what behaviour and personality should have one
possessed. What is that is required of me.
9. Gaps in Types of Self
There always exists gaps between the Assumed self,
Manifest self, Objective self, Requisite self.
In an Organization one should try to minimize these gaps
other wise they will lead to distortion of one’s image and
others may doubt on one’s integrity.
10. Habits
These gaps as discussed can be filled by bring about a shift in
our paradigm. Thus our character, basically, is a composite of our
habits.
“Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow
a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.
A habit as the intersection of knowledge, skill, and desire.
“If you want to change the world start to change yourself first”
--- Swami Vikasananda
12. Be Proactive
Be Proactive is about taking
responsibility for your life. You be
reactive and can't keep blaming
everything on others.
Instead of reacting to or worrying
about conditions over which one has
little or no control, proactive people
focus their time and energy on things
they can control.
13. Begin with the end in mind
Envision what you want in the future so that you know concretely what to
make a reality.
This is the mental creation, It's about connecting with your own uniqueness
and then defining the personal, moral, and ethical guidelines within which
you can most happily express and fulfil yourself.
Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or project with a
clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by
flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen
14. Put first things first
It is about life management as well--your purpose, values, roles, and priorities.
What are "first things?" First things are those things you, personally, find of
most worth. If you put first things first, you are organizing and managing time
and events according to the personal priorities you established.
A manager must manage his own person. Personally and managers should
implement activities that aim to reach this habit.
15. Think Win Win
We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing--that is, if I win,
you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game.
Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a
frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human
interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial
and satisfying.
To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to
be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also
have to be brave. To do that--to achieve that balance between courage and
consideration--is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win-win.
16. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be
Understood
Like most people you pretend that you are listening and you may ignore
the other person completely, this happens because most people listen
with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you
prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are
going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life
experiences, your frame of reference
Use empathic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which
compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to
being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, and
positive problem solving.
17. Synergize
Synergize is the habit of creative
cooperation. It is teamwork,
open-mindedness, and the
adventure of finding new
solutions to old problems. It's a
process, and through that
process, people bring all their
personal experience and
expertise to the table. Together,
they can produce far better
results that they could
individually. Synergy lets us
discover jointly things we are
much less likely to discover by
18. Sharpen the Saw
Sharpen the Saw means preserving and
enhancing the greatest asset you have--
you. It means having a balanced program
for self-renewal in the four areas of your
life: physical, social/emotional, mental,
and spiritual.
As you renew yourself in each of the four
areas, you create growth and change in
your life. Sharpen the Saw keeps you
fresh so you can continue to practice the
other six habits.
All it takes is the desire, knowledge, and
19. “A person who refuses to manage himself and
discipline his flesh will be disciplined and taught
by life itself.”
― Sunday Adelaja
