No Games. No Fuss. No Hassle. Discover The
Secret Of Success With Foreign Women.
Get the inside story on everything you need to know about meeting exciting exotic foreign women through online dating and international dating.
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2. Introduction
Imagine a woman who knows how to prepare and light a fire. Imagine it is 6’oclock in
the evening and the night is nearly pitch black. You’re up high in the mountains at a
cabin lodge with nothing but the stars to light the sky. Your girl is stoking the cabin’s old
brick chimney. You are both getting away for a weekend during the cold season. How
nice does this feel?
I’ll tell you something here I have never mentioned before. My wife does this for me all
the time. I do know how to light a fire that is not the point; the point is she enjoys
preparing the fire from the wood I chop. Then she begins preparing a small nest of
blankets in front of the fire. To her soul as a woman the ritual bares significance. We lay
there naked (or nearly naked) letting our bodies’ heat up. Eventually she falls into my
arms and we make love on a transcending level. Somehow the spiritual significance of
sexual union with a woman you love becomes clearer in front of a fire.
However this book is not about me. It is about you and your successful adventures in
dating, loving and marrying foreign women. If this book had a second title it would be,
Be Honest With Yourself. It is the best piece of advice any man can receive on foreign
women and you will hear me say this time and again as you discover the secrets to
getting your own knockout foreign girl or girls (however you prefer it). Being honest
with yourself will thrust you up from wherever you are now in your love life right in to
the rarely experienced peaks of ecstasy!
Dating in your country is probably not what it used to be when your parents or
grandparents first met. Today men from “developed” nations have their heads spinning
trying to figure out what is gentlemanly versus chauvinist. When to give her space or
when to be supportive, when to have a family and what role in the family does the
woman play? Things are not the same and the so called feminist movement has done
more to eradicate femininity than to foster its growth. Men and women are not equals, we
are not the same! Social laws, civil laws and rights should be the same for all people, this
does not mean women should become men and men should start behaving like weak
gelatin kneed mommy’s boys. But alas it has happened and you have decided or are on
the fence to deciding that you have had enough and you want what a woman is supposed
to be not what the television tells you a woman is.
If you’re looking for a sweet relationship in which you are happy to be the man and she is
happy to be the woman this book will help you do just that. You are about to join an elite
club of men who found their ideal love in the moist lips and tender embrace of a foreign
woman.
Everyday is not perfect and no relationship is either. But you already know what is
waiting for you at home this is why I recommend you take the time to experience the
difference. The affection, the caring, the detail foreign women give. It is off the charts
crazy how these women get down for their man.
This book has been written with you in mind. With the success of your quest to
understand, explore and love foreign women. May it serve you well, may the hundreds of
hours of research bring you clear understanding and ultimately may it help you discover
what you most seek in a relationship.
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3. About The Author
Carlos Duran is a professional writer and social researcher. His parents are
Cuban immigrants who met in the United States. He was raised on the banks of
the River Hudson where he lived between New York and New Jersey during the
Crack Era of the late 80’s and early 90’s. Nearly all his time in the United States
has been spent in immigrant communities.
For over 17 years Carlos has traveled the world visiting, living, working and
loving in Europe, Latin America and the Caribbean. He has had a rainbow
assortment of relationships ranging from marriage to one night stands with well
over 200 foreign women. Only one of them was a Caucasian American girl.
Because of his travels and vast connections to foreign women, Carlos has
accumulated a virtual warehouse of information, resources, tips, tricks and
techniques on how these ladies work and what they really want from a man.
He currently lives in Costa Rica with his Costa Rican wife and their family. Unless
you are ready to experience the ultimate thrill ride the author (against the
publisher’s wishes) advises you not buy this book. He said it could lead to
irrevocable changes in your love life and that not all men are equipped to handle
the surge of women coming at them contacting foreign ladies can create.
Carlos Duran has worked closely with dating and marriage sites over the years
and has gone undercover to learn and expose their dirty scams and secrets. A lot
of what he learned is revealed here in this book for your benefit.
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4. This Book Is Dedicated To
The Great Creator who makes all things possible. To my mother and father for all
their support and no bullshit style of parenting. To my wife and children for all
their love, with a special dedication to Mika, that this work may bring us closer.
To Gary for all of his teachings. And to the Foreign Women of the World because
without them I would not know true bliss and there would be nothing to write
about!
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5. Table of Contents
Introduction _______________________________________________________________ 3
About The Author __________________________________________________________ 4
Dedication_________________________________________________________________ 5
Table of Contents ___________________________________________________________ 6
Chapter One Basic Training __________________________________________________ 9
Prepare Yourself _______________________________________________________________ 10
Drill Training: The Basics On Knowing Yourself ____________________________________ 11
The 7-Early Essential Questions ________________________________________________ 16
How To Achieve Victory ______________________________________________________ 17
Drill Training: The Basics On Knowing Foreign Women _________________________ 19
Making It Count ______________________________________________________________ 20
Drill Training: The Last Mile ___________________________________________________ 22
Chapter Two Getting What You Most Want _____________________________________ 25
Those That Don’t & Why ______________________________________________________ 26
Selecting Your Town & Country _______________________________________________ 27
Search Super Shortcuts _______________________________________________________ 28
Top 9-Destinations For The World’s Best Women _______________________________ 29
More Reasons Why Men Fail- Don’t Become A Statistic __________________________ 30
Ratio of Available Men to Available Women ____________________________________ 32
Chapter Three Becoming Bullet Proof _________________________________________ 33
Sugar Daddy _________________________________________________________________ 34
Scams of The Heart & Wallet __________________________________________________ 34
Online Dating Sites & Marriage Agency Scams __________________________________ 36
The Low-Down On The Down-And-Dirty _______________________________________ 37
Show Me The Money __________________________________________________________ 37
Chapter Four
How To Meet Foreign Women While Sitting At Home In Your Underwear ___________ 40
Going Global _________________________________________________________________ 41
Free Meeting Places ___________________________________________________________ 42
Paying Members Only ________________________________________________________ 42
Now Boarding ________________________________________________________________ 45
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How To Meet Foreign Women While Traveling Wearing More Than Your Underwear__ 47
Using The Law of Attraction ___________________________________________________ 48
Be In The Know ______________________________________________________________ 49
Setting Your Sexual Expectations (Sex-pectations) _______________________________ 49
Chapter Six Hitting Your Target ______________________________________________ 50
Hitting Where It Hurts__________________________________________________________ 51
Writing So She Notices You______________________________________________________ 52
Getting Cleared For Contact _____________________________________________________ 52
7-Steps To A Successful First Impression With Foreign Women___________________ 53
First Encounters With A Foreign Woman _______________________________________ 54
Chapter Seven Marriage & Monogamy ________________________________________ 56
Cyber Dating _________________________________________________________________ 57
All In The Family _____________________________________________________________ 58
Chapter Eight Face-to-Face Dating Strategies __________________________________ 59
The Good The Bad & The Ugly ___________________________________________________ 60
Maximum Dates In Minimum Time _______________________________________________ 61
Ground Rules ________________________________________________________________ 61
I Love You ___________________________________________________________________ 61
Chapter Nine Breaking Through The Language Barrier __________________________ 62
Chapter Ten The Kids ______________________________________________________ 64
How To Address The Issues______________________________________________________ 65
When To Avoid Women With Kids _______________________________________________ 66
Finding A Woman Without Children ______________________________________________ 66
Chapter Eleven The Hooker With A Heart Of Gold_______________________________ 68
11- Signs She Is A Working Girl _______________________________________________ 71
Chapter Tweleve Count Down To Take Off _____________________________________ 72
Get Over Yourself______________________________________________________________ 74
Chapter Threeteen Moving To A Foreign Land__________________________________ 75
Your Piece Of Paradise ________________________________________________________ 76
Setting Up Shop ______________________________________________________________ 77
Privileges Of Paradise _________________________________________________________ 77
Talking About Finances With Your Fiancé ______________________________________ 78
Chapter Fourteen Brining Your Baby Home ____________________________________ 80
Booster Shots _________________________________________________________________ 81
Getting The Nest Ready _______________________________________________________ 82
Home Sweet Home _____________________________________________________________ 83
Chapter Fifteen How A Foreign Borders-All Rights ReservedMake More Money _____________ 84
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7. Feminine Faces In History _____________________________________________________ 85
Dollars & Sex ________________________________________________________________ 87
The Bottom Line______________________________________________________________ 88
Chapter Sixteen Penny Wise & Pound Foolish __________________________________ 89
The Real Score On The Perfect 10 ________________________________________________ 90
Chapter Seventeen
15 Secret Tips From Legendary Lovers To Help You Build The Relationship Of
Your Dreams _____________________________________________________________ 91
Chapter Eighteen Visa… Can’t Bring Her Home Without It _______________________ 94
Please Wait While Your Visa Is Processed__________________________________________ 95
K-1 Fiance Visa Prep Kit ________________________________________________________ 96
Chapter Nineteen Finding Foreign Girls In Your Neighborhood____________________ 97
Chapter Twenty Other Experts Speak Out ______________________________________ 99
Scams & Scammers Continued ________________________________________________ 101
More On Mail Order Brides __________________________________________________ 114
From The Attorney’s Mouth __________________________________________________ 123
Chapter Twenty-One Conquering A Foreign Affair Resources ____________________ 135
Chapter Twenety-Two Templates ____________________________________________ 140
Common Phrases ____________________________________________________________ 144
Characteristics ______________________________________________________________ 148
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9. Basic Training
Dear Friend,
Long before you get on a plane to head to what guys in the know call SOTB (South of
The Border) or out across the Atlantic… long before you log on to the Internet to find
sizzling foreign women for dating, sex and marriage…you need to do one critical thing.
If you fail to do this you will blow thousands of dollars out the window and right with it
your chance to change your life forever! The most critical step you need to take is…
You Must Know
What You Want!
Listen closely. I do not mean know you want a pretty girl, with a nice smile, who is a
Gemini and likes long walks on the beach. You better drill down the specifics and know
what you are searching for in terms of character, body, attitude, heart, soul, mind and
type of relationship you are after.
In the military basic training is what saves lives, this basic training will save your life,
your feelings and your money. We are going to run you like a ragged dog, morphing you
into a highly tuned foreign woman loving machine. You will be able to pick out your
optimal targets at 800 yards distance and hit the bull’s-eye without ever putting down
your beer or putting anyone’s sentiments at risk.
Prepare Yourself
There are a lot of explanations for why guys search for foreign women but only 3
Reasons:
1) You want to get married and know a woman from your country is just not for you.
2) You are looking to meet really interesting girls from other countries for
friendship, dating and sex because you plan on traveling abroad sometime in the
near future.
3) You cannot get dates at home, you have no plans to ever get off your ass and
travel but you like the fantasy and sensations which accompany chatting with,
flirting and leading on various foreign women, usually over the internet and
sometimes by phone or postal mail.
If you are number three, put this book down now, delete it if you downloaded it, burn it
or trash it if you have the printed version and call me up for a refund. No I am not
kidding. Take your money back I don’t want it. This book is only for guys who have a
real interest in foreign women along with the balls to actually make their dreams happen.
If you are still reading this then…
Welcome to the beginning of the end of what
you know… and… think you know about foreign women.
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10. Drill Training: The Basics On Knowing Yourself
Figuring out what you want is for your own safety and the safety of any girl who may
mistakenly get caught up in your libidos path, as you scourge through the hearts of
angels, in an attempt to “discover” what you want.
WARNING!
Carelessly breaking the
hearts of wonderful girls is
bad Karma for you.
Avoid This At All Costs.
Getting straight on what you really want and are able to handle (before you can really
begin to discover the absolute most perfect women for you) requires little effort and the
investment is guaranteed to save you boat loads of time and money. The information
below will help you quickly define your desires and abilities and match them to your
satisfaction making sure you don’t burn through wads of cash or months worth of writing
and communication with women who don’t meet your needs.
Let’s start by looking at the 5 types of relationships available to you with foreign women.
5-Types of Relationships
Travel Partner (*Important note about this in scammer chapter)
This is a girl you meet, usually online, who you go on a travel vacation with. She
should in most cases pay her own way, and you should never send her money for
the trip. Some travel partners do share an intimate encounter along with their
travel adventure and many do not. Don’t despair if your travel partner is not going
to sleep with you. So long as you are traveling somewhere there are attractive
women, she will be a valuable asset to your meeting those attractive women.
Be honest with her, foreign women love playing matchmaker. Ask her to help you
find a nice girl you can share a loving night of passion with. She will jump right
into action, who knows she may even decide to share some loving passion with
you, instead of letting some other woman have you. Either way just keep in mind
you are traveling, she is not your girlfriend and will probably not be falling in
love with you. If you are looking for something more than a travel partner I
suggest you keeping reading down this list.
Friends With Benefits
You know you don’t want to get married anytime soon and you know you don’t
want a girlfriend either. You are single and looking to mingle as one wild and
crazy guy. But when you go abroad, unless there is a carnival or mass festive
event taking place…do yourself a favor and keep the wild-man inside. We will
discuss this in more detail later, for now just keep in mind guys who travel abroad
and let the wild-man run loose, stand out, are easy targets, highly obnoxious and
worse of all… if this is how you act you will definitely miss out on all the ultra
high quality women. Party as hard as the party goes not more, but you are best
served by being at least a few notches under on your first visit.
You can meet nice foreign women who are looking to meet nice foreign guys
without any major commitment. They are not looking for a relationship, there is
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11. no guarantee they will be making love with you. However there are many benefits
to having girl-friends.
You see, when you are a genuinely nice guy, girls will want to be your friend. It
goes without saying but it is worth repeating, drop dead gorgeous women from
outside the U.S. are far more approachable than their equal or even lesser
counterpart in the U.S. In some foreign countries it is harder than others to
approach women, but in all foreign countries it is way easier than in the U.S. So
when you have a foreign lady friend, if she is not interested in sleeping with you,
she will know friends who are. Sex is a fantastic thing and highly celebrated in
other cultures. This does not mean you will be sleeping with a different woman
every night or any woman at all. What it does mean is…
There are woman of all shapes and sizes, flavors, tastes, colors, fetishes, hopes,
dreams and desires who are not looking for a committed relationship but they love
to make friends. When you travel abroad, they will take you out everywhere, they
will invite their friends to come, you will be introduced to women who make you
speechless yet they themselves are pleased to meet you and have no thought of
“being out of your league”. It is a fantastic experience and if you are a decent guy
who really does care about women you will find yourself in paradise.
A kept lover
I would like to clear up a misconception which came up in the pre-release edition
of this book:
This is not for men who are married or in a committed relationship where
your partner is not open to you having other relationships. And this is the one
choice that will require true money. It does not mean the relationship itself is only
about the money. But you must be honest with yourself.
You can find a marvelous woman who you make an arrangement with according
to your specifications, where you agree to help her with specific needs and she
offers you her intimacy and affection. Usually this is an exclusive agreement
where she does not date or sleep with anyone else.
The general idea is the guy helps the girl with her bills and the girl only shares a
bed with him. There are girls who will of course abuse this, so finding the right
woman is possible but should not be rushed. There are a lot of nice girls in this
world who are financially struggling and that is really fucked up. Don’t you think?
There are guys in this world who have decided to use their money in a different
way than most guys do. They have decided what they truly enjoy is the company
of special women. These men are not looking for a girlfriend or fiancée; they do
not want one night stands and opt-out of even the most high-priced professional
services available. Instead of spending their finances on toys like classic cars,
expensive electronics or hobbies, they invest in romance.
There are all sorts of arrangements made between a man and his kept women. At
the end of the day what matters most is people coming together to share in their
needs and wants. Most of these couples are honest and caring with one another.
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12. For the relationship to be successful it requires the same basic ingredients of other
relationships- honesty, respect, trust and dependability.
This is also a common relationship for couples who enjoy the company of a third
woman but do not want to have random affairs. They prefer a steady girlfriend,
who only plays with them and in exchange they help her with some of her own
needs. The best kept women I have met are women with life goals, who have one
or two children and are already working to succeed.
They are usually not interested in dating and will have not dated anyone for
sometime before you meet her. The children’s father is the same if she has more
than one child and he either passed away or abandoned the family.
You can also have hot young wild things as kept lovers. But I would not expect
her to be loyal to me. Even if you have Tom Cruise good looks and ‘Bill Gate’s
Kind of Money’ the odds are still against her being loyal to you. Just think of
when you were 18, think of what the girls around you were interested in. These
young girls are endearing friends they will teach you all you want to know about
Myspace, Facebook, text messages, music and what is in and what is out. If you
let them, they will dress you in the latest cloth and happily help you get complete
makeovers.
Of course she will be getting one too; you will be paying for both. Young girls are
not particularly good in bed; they just have boundless amounts of energy and
sensually delicious bodies. But in technique, you have to be honest, this is a
whole new world to her, a brand-new 5.7-liter HEMI Magnum V-8 engine just
wants—NO IT NEEDS—to burn off immense amounts of raw power or it swears
to herself and all her friends she is going to explode!
Yes sex with 18-22 year old women can be exhilarating, but how many times can
you ride the same rollercoaster and still be exhilarated? The point is if you want a
kept woman who is only allowing you knowledge of her most intimate sweetness,
you are best off with a woman who has matured beyond the non-stop drive of her
late teens early twenties.
BE ADVISED: I would not recommend this option unless you are a seasoned
pro when it comes to foreign women and the culture of the country where
your potential kept lover lives. Or the woman you are making an
arrangement with is someone you really know and trust. A lot of first time
guys who seek a kept lover do get taken for their money and ultimately their
feelings as well.
Girlfriend For Casual Romance
You know you are looking for a steady girl but you are not ready to get married.
The important thing here is upfront honesty with yourself and the girls you meet.
If you want to have several girlfriends, then you are likely better off with
romantic friendships instead. Most foreign women see a girlfriend/boyfriend
relationship as a monogamous deal. While neither of you may be looking to walk
down to the wedding alter anytime soon, she will usually expect you to only be
with her.
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13. If you are looking for a one woman affair, without the responsibility of courtship
then this is probably your best choice.
If you want a steady girlfriend and also would like to have flings on the side, be
upfront about your desires and intentions. You will be surprised how mature and
understanding foreign women can be when you are upfront and honest with them.
A great percentage of foreign women are either aware of their own bi-sexuality or
have a dormant desire to experience intimacy with other women. These desires
are perfectly natural and are usually hindered by repressive social and religious
taboos. If you are honest with your woman about your wants, you may find that
you have not only a girlfriend who doesn’t judge you but will actually be a
wingman when you go out to pick-up girls.
This does not mean every foreign woman wants to explore her sexuality with
another woman or that every foreign woman will allow you to be with other girls
and she only with you. What I am saying is, there’s a high percentage of foreign
women who are interested in occasional sexual play with other women. You can
explore this and use it to your advantage if you are upfront with yourself about
what you really want.
Girlfriend With Goal Towards Marriage
If you know you want to tie the knot and are ready for marriage, then don’t waste
a minute of your time. Be brutally honest with yourself and the women you meet.
You are not here to humor the dogs you are here to catch the foxes.
When searching for your future bride the first thing you need to get a firm handle
on is patience. Be laid back in your search, Zen like to be exact. Let your life-
mate come to you, DO NOT FORCE A MARRIAGE. You will live to remember
this warning and even worse you will live to regret not having heeded it.
Don’t be a stubborn ass… open yourself up to allowing it to happen on its own
time.
In order to find your future bride you will need laser focus. And you will need to
be very specific in your search criteria. This will help when the scorching hot
young girls come bouncing along in all their glory. Young foreign girls have an
oddly high level of estrogen and can easily make the most able bodied man fold
flat at the knees. They make excellent friends, party companions, travel buddies
and ideally fit for a host of other adventure roles. However, hardly any of them
are ready for or looking to get married. Unless you specifically want an 18-22
year old wife, then do not invest your time into dating these budding Eves. Keep
your eye on your prize!
Now that we are clear on the different relationships available to you with a foreign
woman, we need to get clear on the differences between what you want and what you are
actually ready for at this moment in your life.
As a man you certainly have sexual appetites, emotional needs and goals for your
relationship. A big secret to your personal success is your own emotional health. If you
like to beat women, degrade them, if you are hyper-sensitive, controlling or demanding,
if you have low self-esteem, or are still pissed your mom never breast fed you, YOU
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14. WILL FAIL AT EVERY RELATIONSHIP NO MATTER WHAT COUNTRY
YOU GO TO!
You must have a relatively smooth grip on your own emotions. Next think about what
you want now, versus what you may want a few years from now. Compare your desires
for a woman with your own life goals and plans. If you think you want a foreign bride
who will come back and live with you in your country, but you still live at home with
your parents, or worse you live on someone else’s couch, you are not ready for the
responsibility of marriage. Be honest with yourself. If you don’t know what you will
want 5 or 10 years from now, if you are not sure of who you are, then do not push
yourself towards marriage or allow anyone else to push you there.
If you fancy the idea of a steady woman in your life but you also have the run-and-gun
desire to bask in an ocean of delight with multiple women, then you are not ready for a
monogamous relationship and you should not pretend to be.
Get your internal facts straight, know your appetites will change with time and plan
according to your own pursuit of life. When you know where you are coming from with a
relative idea of where you are headed, the right women for you will materialize on your
path and trot right along side you. Be sure to brush your teeth, comb your hair and for
God’s sake…bathe!
We will discuss the number one reason some men never find true love later in the book.
Right now we are going to discuss the number two reason: finances or the perception
thereof. I said do not marry if you cannot afford it, I did not say let your entire love life
hang on you bank account. There is no greater treasure than to be given a woman’s heart.
Do what you have to do (within legal means) to get out of your house, on a plane and in
her face. Stop going out with your buddies if you have to. Why bother?
You are not going to find what you are looking for in a nearby bar, night club or grocery
store. If it were so you would not be here reading this. Do not buy the latest video game,
cell phone or electronic thing-a-ma-jig. Save your dollars, cut your costs, with less than
2 grand you can have a roaring time for a month, in just about any foreign country
where the hot women live! And don’t be afraid to charge it, the time of your life is
priceless.
Below are the 7- Early Essential Questions I recommend you answer first for yourself
and then with the women you meet. They are by no means the end-all-and-be-all of key
questions you need to address but they are an excellent starting point. They will also help
weed out over 95% of the girls you will not succeed with because they are not what you
are looking for.
The questions are on a single page for your convenience to print out and keep with you
while you examine what it is you want. I do not suggest you take it with you on dates and
check them off as part of your dinner conversation.
The 7-Early Essential Questions
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15. Do you prefer if she has a child, no child or
you don’t care?
Do you want children/Does she want children?
What economic background would you prefer
her from?
What is your economic status/What is her
economic status?
Do you mind if she is divorced or widowed?
Are you willing to learn her language?
What type of relationship do you want/ does
she want?
How To Achieve Victory
You going off to a foreign land to find love, fun and romance without knowing a little bit
about the language, the culture and the women you are going to meet is a recipe for
disaster. If all you know about your chosen destination is from pictures on a website, you
will need to roll your sleeves up and get neck deep in a crash course about where it is you
are thinking of heading to and why you are headed there in the first place. Fortunately
for you I will make sure you have all the information and resources you need to
successfully find, meet and love all the foreign women you want, even if it is just one.
Keep reading, because this is not the only material you will want to get familiar with in
order to fully stack the deck in you favor. As we get more specific about where you want
to go, the reasons for going and the personal goals you want to achieve once you get
there, this book will take you beyond its pages and into the world of elite foreign
romance, if you chose to allow it.
Before you graduate Basic Training, there are some more serious questions you need to
answer. As you answer these questions remember you will be the one most affected by
your truthfulness or lack thereof. I strongly recommend you respond with your mind
instead of with your penis.
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16. you know what country you would like your lady friends to be from?
Do
you actually interested in their culture and the women?
Are
you just hoping to score some easy sex?
Are
you have not decided on a country you want to visit and meet women in, do not
If
worry we will cover this in detail later on. But if you already have one or two
countries in mind how did you decide on these countries?
it start off as a shot in the dark?
Did
you meet a woman or women from these regions and knew you just had to go
Did
there?
you have a friend who told you stories about his own adventure?
Do
Just what is it that draws you to this foreign country other than its women?
What is it about the women that makes you want to go to their country?
If you don’t know what you want in a foreign woman, then make lots of friends with
benefits and go have the time of your life!
But do not decide as you lay under a cooling ceiling fan and between juicy wet thighs,
exhausted from a sexual marathon, you are now in love and ready for marriage. It is the
ecstasy of the moment talking and you would be best served by keeping your euphoric
notions to yourself. If she is feeling all warm and fuzzy, go along with her in a
compassionate and tender way, but do not commit and DO NOT mislead her. Read the
chapter on scams for signs to spotting less than honest acts and proclamations of love
made to you by a foreign woman.
Traveling to new places and meeting the local women is about long pauses where you
savor the softer side of life. It’s also about the friendships you make and nurture along the
way. If you visit other countries with a light heart and open mind, chances are a genuine
head-turner (however it is you define the term) will recognize your true assets and want
to get to know you.
What you are looking for may change with time. Be comfortable with adaptation. You
can go overseas with pre-conceived ideas of what you want and think. But leave yourself
flexible and roll with the experience.
Drill Training: The Basics On Knowing Foreign Women
Women are women no matter what city, country, continent or galaxy they are from. All
of them will reflect their childhood upbringing and social environment. Some are way
crazier and less bearable than others while others are as pure and virgin as a baby’s soul.
They all have hormones, they all have mood swings, they all get jealous (to varying
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17. degrees of course), they all get emotional, and they all have a lunar cycle for about 7 days
out of each month. They are all born with breasts, bottoms and legs.
All the well balanced ones deep down inside enjoy soft cuddly things, no matter how
bitter they act on the outside. So why go anywhere beyond your own city to find the one
that is right for you?
We go to foreign countries searching for a soul mate because the greater percentage of
foreign women have their thoughts in a place closer to our own. The number is far higher
than those of the United States, England and Canada making it easier to find like minded
girls to date. Their value set is more the flavor we seek. Most of them hold family life in
THE HIGHEST regard, they live to see their family grow stronger and healthier. They
work and study, and volunteer, and have dreams they want to accomplish and yet through
all that still remain the center of their family while remembering how to be a woman.
So what happened in the Industrial Nations? Why are the women in your country who
still believe and behave like foreign women do so rare a person to be found?
The really big reason, you don’t want to know and chances are you would not want to
believe me even if I did tell you.
Suffice it to say there is an organized attack (and there has been for sometime now)
against the Woman and her divine spirit. But this book is not about that, so we will go
A Word of Caution
It is a wise idea to make friends with foreign women online, who can in turn introduce
you to their friends. There is nothing stronger to attract a woman to you than
receiving an endorsement from a woman she knows. Do not try to impress the girls
who are just your friends. Don’t treat a foreign woman who is your friend like one of
the guys either; remember she is still a lady. Behave and it will reap huge rewards in
your favor.
with the second reason why women in “advanced” countries are being lost by the 1000’s
everyday.
We men, to a HUGE degree, have allowed it to be so. Phallic driven testosterone induced
power struggles have launched a fury of madness forcing an entire species to erase their
softness, warmth, caring nature and feminine divinity. Having it replaced with false
concepts of equality and liberation. In truth this crazy march led by the men of the
Industrial World has only created division, competition, more soldiers to fill body bags,
population control and more incomes to tax. It in no way has brought forth equality and it
certainly has not made families closer.
We have allowed our women to become Frankenstein versions of ourselves and now we
must face the facts. And let it be known, unless we stop and do a complete about face for
the better, soon the epidemic will infect every woman in every corner of the world,
leaving no foreign refuge to find delectable ladies for love and romance.
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18. When you travel to new territories you will be exposed to real women, probably for the
first time in your life. Do Not Believe The Hype… which tries to convince you foreign
women will sit at attention waiting to make… your every wish their command.
Foreign women are very much in touch with feminism and their individual God given
rights. They have elevated themselves to the next level without wasting energy, spitting
venom or loathing in hate. They recognize their feminine sexiness and all the power it
entails. Any ideas of dominance and rule over them should be ejected from your cerebral
cortex or you will find yourself at the business end of some serious whacks across the
face! Or worse, you may find yourself at the business end of her father’s machete.
There are women in all levels of power, including heads of state and C.E.O’s of Fortune
500 companies along with countless other high profile positions of enormous wealth and
influence. Do not eat the poop-cones scooped out by most marriage agencies to
unsuspecting foreign romance seekers that foreign women live in a black hole with no
dreams of their own.
Making It Count
You will be remembered and categorized by the women you meet based on your first
impression. While this whole affair is entirely new to you, Americans, Brits, Aussies and
many others have been going abroad and making complete asses of themselves for
sometime now. The majority of foreign girls have all seen countless tourist idiots play the
traveling clown bit. If you go out trying to make sure everyone knows “Da-Man” has
arrived, you too will be filed in the,
“Asshole Tourist Looking For
A Quick Lay Category”
Good luck climbing out of that one!
You impress foreign ladies by not bragging, boasting or playing Daddy Warbucks. The
shear fact you do not talk with your ego about who you are, what you do and what you
own will put you a country mile ahead of 99.9% of the “tourist types” who just show up
for the “easy sex,” and mistake every girl for a professional working girl.
Foreign girls are most impressed if you show up knowing at least a teaspoon’s worth of
their language. The less you speak about you and your great country and the more you
listen, watch and learn, the more she is going to want you!
When you care to take the time to discover who she is as a person, to find out more about
her home and her country, she will hunger to find out about you. Her curiosity will be
peaked and before you know it, you will be fighting to keep the women off you as you
desperately try to figure out which ones you really like and which ones are amazing but
just not for you, no exaggeration. Now you get to say, “I just want us to be friends.”
A unique dominant trait among foreign women is they know what they want and are
willing to take the risks needed to get it. Once they have it, they are willing to lay it all on
the line to keep it. This level of commitment is seriously lacking in both the men and
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19. Genuine women you meet will be deeply impacted by the small details. Not grand broad
strokes. Allow yourself a slower pace, longer quieter meals, endless nights of dancing
and graceful conversation mixed between clumsy moments when neither of you can find
the right words to express what you are feeling. The girls will mostly remember the self-
discoveries they experienced with you and the impression you created in their hearts.
If you ever find yourself caught on the fence about whether or not you want a foreign
woman as your life partner, think about your ideal woman. Take a few minutes to picture
in your mind’s eye, your perfect woman.
Describe to yourself how she behaves, what her hobbies are, what really captures her
interest. Now ask yourself if you would rather she be raised in a society where family
values are praised or in one where most life is taken for granted? Would you want her to
proudly and freely express love for her family or to repress her ideas of affection much
less have the confidence to discuss them openly?
Now, ask yourself where would you most likely find her?
Is she the girl you are with right now? Is she a girl you can run into relatively close to
where you live? Is she a girl you think you should just let chance bring to you or is she
worth you getting off your ass finding the confidence you need and making the journey
into the unknown. Man, if you want the most fulfilling relationships of your life running
over with tender affection, honest love and intoxicating sexual bliss then you will either
need to be EXTREMELY LUCKY or you will need to go to a foreign country.
The following scenario is a metaphor for making it all happen. But if you can really dig
it and get behind it then know in your heart it can really happen for you too…
One cloudy day you are traveling along in a new land going wherever the wind takes you
and you find a woman (or she finds you- however the Cosmic deck deals it out) who is
within your generation. She knows herself, what she wants and is highly intelligent. Her
affection is constant and she is as loyal as iron is strong. Her sexual drive is charged like
the energizer bunny. And she takes pleasure in intimacy with other women and should
you find a girl she is not particularly attracted too, you have her permission to go play.
She supports your business, takes care of the house, the kids and pampers you like a
spoiled brat. She stands by and shows with actions just how much she believes in you
even when there this only one dollar in the bank and the bills are past due. She inspires
you to create your dreams and become successful in life. She becomes your lover, best
friend and wife.
It sounds like a fantasy doesn’t it? But it is not, I know because it is the ultimate love
story of my own life. My purpose in revealing all this to you is not to brag or play the big
shot. I’m being this candid to demonstrate a real world example I live for myself, that if
you are clear about what you want with yourself and with the women you meet you will
find the right woman or women who make all your fantasies a reality.
Now be advised, this does not just happen out of the blue. You have to prepare for it. And
after you have it you have to invest in the relationship and dedicate energy to nurturing it.
A Final Word Of Warning: It is a fatal mistake to think ANY woman you have not met
in person is your girlfriend. If she begins to profess an undying devotion to you over the
Internet, on the phone, via snail-mail or however…RUN! I’m sorry to break it to you but
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20. I’m not sorry to spare you untold emotional anguish and financial losses. Real women, no
matter where they are from, will not fall in love with you (or any man, so don’t take it
personal) sight unseen.
Drill Training: The Last Mile
They say the longest mile a man can walk is the last mile he walks on death row. I think
the longest mile a man can walk is the last mile in a bad relationship and the last mile
towards the start of a life changing experience.
Right now, take a second to visualize in your mind you have found the perfect woman,
the one you were thinking of earlier. After you read this, I would like for you to put down
the book and close your eyes. See her there with you again, smell her hair, her skin color,
sense how her hands feel on your back. Now go through in your mind what happens after
you have found the woman you were looking for. Then come back and go to the next
page.
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21. What did you see?
Did you see the mounds of preparation you will have to go through in order to keep the
love juices flowing and to keep the relationship growing? Did you get a feeling you will
eventually want to take language classes and that you will be traveling more to be with
your sweetheart? Did you picture how you will spend countless hours writing and
translating letters?
The more of these things that you said yes to, the more ready you are.
Whether you know it yet or not you will become a master diplomat at the art of
international communication. You will be immersed deeper than you ever thought
possible in the finer details of her culture and her customs. If you had to put this much
sweat and concentration into a local relationship, would you really want to be with any
woman at all?
But alas, there is the pot of gold at the end of the foreign rainbow which does not exist at
home, at least not in any sort of abundant quantity.
Look at the long haul now, so it doesn’t catch you off guard later. Because the truth is
you can always settle and no one, not even me, will think lesser of you for doing it. Be
honest with yourself about the trade off you are making when living-and-loving in your
country where men are mostly likely seen by the women as
Automatically.Trained.Monkeys (ATM’S).
Whatever you are going to do, if you are going to settle for the Domestic Standard, then
settle now… because… the experience of having your world turned upside down by
being slapped right up next to foreign women is mind bending! Once exposed to this life,
it will be easier for you to walk on water than to settle ever again.
No matter what type of relationship you want at this stage, a poorly thought out first trip
overseas will not qualify as a search for love, romance or marriage. When you spent most
of your time dealing with the women from your own country, it will take time to find the
ideal foreign love your heart desires. You will need to dedicate yourself to understanding
both the men and women of this new territory you are venturing to.
Can you get lucky on a 10-day trip? You bet your bare bottom you can. And we will
discuss this further on in the book. But do not hold your breath, do not count only on luck
or waiting till you get there to meet a girl and do not push things any faster than they will
naturally progress.
Now imagine this… you stumble across a delightful diamond girl you like and you have
got yourself together. You really know who you are and what you want. You know
what's important to you and how to tell what’s important to her. And you know how to
treat a woman well. With this formula you can have below average looks, a regular
salary, no smooth talker skills and still this heavenly girl will be going goo-goo-gaga
for you! How does that sound!?!
Keep in mind, the best part of going beyond your own borders to soak in a new culture
and the beautiful women found there is…
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22. Creating Memories That
Last You A Life-Time!
Congratulations!
You Just Graduated Out Of Basic Training.
Now get ready for live fire exercises. Here is where we separate the men from boys, those
who will get it and those who will forever be asking “I wonder what it’s really like?”
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24. Getting What You Most Want
Millions of men from the United States, Canada, Australia, England and other countries
communicate with foreign woman daily. Each man supposedly has the intention of
meeting the women he chats with one day.
A few short years ago less than 3% of the men who communicated with foreign women
actually got on a plane to go meet them. Now, as more European countries have seen
financial growth and the Euro holds more value over the dollar, men from these areas are
taking off on the Second European Conquest. This time the battle will be between the
sheets not on city streets. This should be a wake up call to other men who still aren’t
“really sure”… let me reassure you of at least one thing, the Europeans don’t live with
your insecurities, they really are much more liberal.
Those That Don’t & Why
The number one reason most guys will never get on a plane, conquer their fears and
grab hold of killer women to live out their greatest hopes for life with is…
Other People’s
Fears!
Family fears and friend’s fears. Often fear is masked behind ridicule and green-card
jokes. Their fears ruin your dreams and hold you back. There is no written guarantee you
will not be taken for a fool, swindled out of everything you own and made to live a
miserable existence by a local girl you meet at an office party and marry 13 months later.
Now, at least if you go take a risk somewhere else, any sex you get will be WAY
HOTTER…and… the women you meet will be WAY FRIENDLIER!
Man, you will be speaking with and hanging around women who actually are into you
and what you would consider far outside your own league back home. Do the math, if
right now you get women you would rate as 1 or 2’s you will be with 6’s and 7’s when
traveling. If you have 8’s and 9’s now you will easily be swarmed by 10’s and if you
consider yourself big Daddy Mack who never goes below a 10, get ready to be escorted
everywhere by nothing less than global super-models. When it comes to your friends and
family keep your mouth shut.
The number two reason most guys never get on a plane we already discussed is
finances. If you are living pay-check to pay-check don’t let that stop you from finding
love and romance. On the other hand, when you meet girls do not act like a millionaire
tycoon either. Just be yourself.
Make a serious review of your income and spending. Are there ways you can begin to
save money for a trip? Can you cut out unnecessary expenses? Can you take action to
begin making more money and create independent income on a road to financial
freedom? Take these questions and create an action plan and act on it. Save money, spend
less and find ways to make more.
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25. Pretty soon, you won’t be worried about living pay-check to pay-check. In the meantime,
make sure you keep meeting exciting and fun women from other parts of the world
everyday. Always remember, never lead the women on, be honest and be yourself.
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Take care.
All the Best,
~Carlos Duran
Author of Love Beyond Borders
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