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6 Steps to triple your 
Social Confidence, 
and meet new people. 
In compliments to an article: 
http://adriancahill.com/self-development/how-to-improve-social-confidence/
Also available as a free 
downloadable .pdf at: 
Adriancahill.com
• 8 years ago I was a 
complete nobody. I had 
hardly any friends. I 
struggled to talk to new 
people, couldn’t talk to 
strangers and certainly 
couldn’t talk to the 
opposite sex. 
My sister and I on the beach with Grandad
• Once I learned how to improve my social 
confidence, and meet new people a whole 
new world opened up for me. I hope, and 
know it can do the same for you!
6 Steps to triple your 
Social Confidence, 
and meet new people.
1. Talk to strangers, frequently. 
Talk to everybody! 
Talk to the security guard, the shop 
attendants, the delivery people, people 
anywhere you can. Even if its just hi. 
Push yourself to say hi. Later extending this to 
a question or two.
Try it!
2. The Best Topic in the world.. 
Everyone has their own story and their 
favourite stories. You do to. What is your story 
you like to share? 
Think about that for a moment. 
What’s your favourite story you love to share?
What’s your favourite food? 
What are you interested in? 
Where are you from? 
You may not like to verbalise it, however you are 
your favourite topic. 
Everyone's favourite topic is themselves! 
Now you know one of the best secrets to making 
friends and rapport with people! How awesome 
are you!
3. Learn to listen effectively. 
Imagine if every thing that came out of your 
mouth was twice as wise. How valuable would 
that be? 
That can actually be achieved through regular 
practice of a simply concept I call, 
“shut your mouth & listen first”. 
Seek first to understand.
Most of our communication is not in the 
words we say or hear.
Third Level Listening 
First listen with your ears, to the words, 
Second listen with your mind and attention. Process 
what their saying. 
Thirdly, listen with your heart. 100% focus on them. 
The emotion, body language, and words when 
processed together often have a different intent which 
is missed if focused on the words. 
Note: Men are from Mars & we tend to focus on the 
words used and body language. Women tend to focus 
(or need) more of third level listening.
4. Don’t worry about what people 
think of you 
Their too busy thinking about themselves 
anyway! 
We are suppose to be a least a little 
concerned about what other people think. 
That is part of Social or Cultural Intelligence. 
Part of being in a tribe is behaving to tribe 
norms. However we over do it far to often.
5. Laugh 
The psychological and physical benefits of 
laughing are often underestimated. 
Laughing is one of the best ways to ease 
stress, anxiety, tension, fear, trauma and the 
hiccups 
Encourage laughter and light heartedness in 
your day.
6. Want to really gain confidence? 
Go to events where you don’t know anyone, 
regularly.
Good places to go by yourself: 
•Meetup.com is loaded with networking events. 
•Festivals, Expo’s (preferably places people are enjoying 
themselves, not trying to sell you something). 
•Fitness/Walking Groups, Dancing/Yoga/Martial Arts 
classes (many of these offer free trials), 
•ANY SOCIAL GROUPS YOU CAN FIND 
One of the hardest things for me to do in my life, was build 
up the courage to go out and try to make friends alone. 25 
yrs old, coming out of a 7yr relationship, trying to make 
friends and totally clueless. It was hard, but I tried hard and 
regularly. You can too.
Summary: 
• Be the light hearted smiley guy that says hello. 
• Next be the light hearted smiley guy that says 
occasionally asks a question. How are you 
today? How was your weekend. 
• Take that side of you to new places and let it 
grow!
Please feel free to join our mailing list or follow 
Adrian on Social Media: Adrian Cahill
Thanks for your effort and energy, 
View Adrian on LinkedIn

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6 steps to triple your social confidence and meet new people

  • 1. 6 Steps to triple your Social Confidence, and meet new people. In compliments to an article: http://adriancahill.com/self-development/how-to-improve-social-confidence/
  • 2. Also available as a free downloadable .pdf at: Adriancahill.com
  • 3. • 8 years ago I was a complete nobody. I had hardly any friends. I struggled to talk to new people, couldn’t talk to strangers and certainly couldn’t talk to the opposite sex. My sister and I on the beach with Grandad
  • 4. • Once I learned how to improve my social confidence, and meet new people a whole new world opened up for me. I hope, and know it can do the same for you!
  • 5. 6 Steps to triple your Social Confidence, and meet new people.
  • 6. 1. Talk to strangers, frequently. Talk to everybody! Talk to the security guard, the shop attendants, the delivery people, people anywhere you can. Even if its just hi. Push yourself to say hi. Later extending this to a question or two.
  • 8. 2. The Best Topic in the world.. Everyone has their own story and their favourite stories. You do to. What is your story you like to share? Think about that for a moment. What’s your favourite story you love to share?
  • 9. What’s your favourite food? What are you interested in? Where are you from? You may not like to verbalise it, however you are your favourite topic. Everyone's favourite topic is themselves! Now you know one of the best secrets to making friends and rapport with people! How awesome are you!
  • 10.
  • 11. 3. Learn to listen effectively. Imagine if every thing that came out of your mouth was twice as wise. How valuable would that be? That can actually be achieved through regular practice of a simply concept I call, “shut your mouth & listen first”. Seek first to understand.
  • 12. Most of our communication is not in the words we say or hear.
  • 13. Third Level Listening First listen with your ears, to the words, Second listen with your mind and attention. Process what their saying. Thirdly, listen with your heart. 100% focus on them. The emotion, body language, and words when processed together often have a different intent which is missed if focused on the words. Note: Men are from Mars & we tend to focus on the words used and body language. Women tend to focus (or need) more of third level listening.
  • 14.
  • 15. 4. Don’t worry about what people think of you Their too busy thinking about themselves anyway! We are suppose to be a least a little concerned about what other people think. That is part of Social or Cultural Intelligence. Part of being in a tribe is behaving to tribe norms. However we over do it far to often.
  • 16.
  • 17. 5. Laugh The psychological and physical benefits of laughing are often underestimated. Laughing is one of the best ways to ease stress, anxiety, tension, fear, trauma and the hiccups Encourage laughter and light heartedness in your day.
  • 18.
  • 19. 6. Want to really gain confidence? Go to events where you don’t know anyone, regularly.
  • 20. Good places to go by yourself: •Meetup.com is loaded with networking events. •Festivals, Expo’s (preferably places people are enjoying themselves, not trying to sell you something). •Fitness/Walking Groups, Dancing/Yoga/Martial Arts classes (many of these offer free trials), •ANY SOCIAL GROUPS YOU CAN FIND One of the hardest things for me to do in my life, was build up the courage to go out and try to make friends alone. 25 yrs old, coming out of a 7yr relationship, trying to make friends and totally clueless. It was hard, but I tried hard and regularly. You can too.
  • 21.
  • 22. Summary: • Be the light hearted smiley guy that says hello. • Next be the light hearted smiley guy that says occasionally asks a question. How are you today? How was your weekend. • Take that side of you to new places and let it grow!
  • 23. Please feel free to join our mailing list or follow Adrian on Social Media: Adrian Cahill
  • 24. Thanks for your effort and energy, View Adrian on LinkedIn