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MANAGING ‘MUSCLE’ AND USING
INFLUENCING SKILLS
APG, November 22nd
Sarah Watson (DDB) & Matthew Palmer (Leagas Delaney)
WHAT WE’RE GOING TO TALK
ABOUT THIS EVENING
— Using influencing skills to bring senior people with you – clients, creatives
and agency management
— A bit of theory
— Ten ‘top tips’
— One of the hardest subjects to generalise about – please ask questions
A BIT OF THEORY:
WHO ARE YOU TALKING TO AND HOW ARE YOU TALKING?
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS:
OLD, BUT STILL USEFUL
— A neo-Freudian theory of personality developed in the late 1950’s
— Explains how people function and express their personality in their behaviour
— Can be extended to the analysis of communications within systems and
organisations
— Has been used in therapy, education, counselling, consultancy and
management and communications training
THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES
THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE
P
A
C
ARENT
DULT
HILD
THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES
THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE
PARENT
— A state in which people behave, feel, and think in
response to an unconscious mimicking of how
their parents (or other parental figures) acted, or
how they interpreted their parent's actions
— Eg. A person may shout at someone out of
frustration because they learned from an influential
figure in childhood the lesson that this seemed to
be a way of relating that worked
Can either be a ‘nurturing’ or ‘criticising’ parent.
Bad managers or clients often fall into the latter category...
THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES
THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE
CHILD
— A state in which people behave, feel and think similarly to
how they did in childhood
— EG. a person who receives a poor evaluation at work may
respond by looking at the floor, and crying or pouting, as
they used to when scolded as a child
— EG. On receiving a good evaluation they may respond with
a broad smile and a joyful gesture of thanks
— The Child is the source of emotions, creation, recreation,
spontaneity and intimacy
Can either be a ‘free’ or ‘adapted’ child.
Often the highest paid person in the building...
THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES
THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE
ADULT
— A state of the ego which is most like a computer
processing information and making predictions absent
of major emotions that could affect its operation
— Learning to strengthen the Adult is a goal of TA
— While a person is in the Adult ego state, he/she is
directed towards an objective appraisal of reality
The classic ‘planner type’?
RECIPROCAL OR COMPLEMENTARY
TRANSACTIONS
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Is your room
tidy yet?’
‘Will you stop hassling
me? I’ll do it eventually!’
RECIPROCAL OR COMPLEMENTARY
TRANSACTIONS
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Have you been able
to write the report?’
‘Yes – I’m about
to email it to you’
RECIPROCAL OR COMPLEMENTARY
TRANSACTIONS
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Would you like to skip
this meeting and go to
the pub with me instead?’
‘I’d love to – I don’t want
to work any more.
Where shall we go?’
CROSSED TRANSACTIONS –
‘FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE’
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Will you stop hassling
me? I’ll do it eventually!’
‘Have you been able
to write the report?’
CROSSED TRANSACTIONS –
‘FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE’
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Will you stop hassling
me? I’ll do it eventually!’
‘If you don’t change
your attitude you’ll
get fired.’
CROSSED TRANSACTIONS –
A MORE POSITIVE INTERACTION
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Is your room
tidy yet?’
‘I’m just going to
do it, actually’
IF SOMEONE’S STUCK IN ‘CHILD’...
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Can’t believe the
@#$% client won’t buy
into doing a 90”TV ad.
They drive me insane.’
‘I know. It was a great
script, wasn’t it?
Would have been
amazing...’
IF SOMEONE’S STUCK IN ‘CHILD’...
P
A
C
P
A
C
Person A Person B
‘Can’t believe the
@#$% client won’t buy
into doing a 90”TV ad.
They drive me insane.’
‘I know. It was a great
script, wasn’t it?
Would have been
amazing...’
‘...But I guess with their
budget they never
would have been able
to do it justice. So
perhaps we should look
at something a bit more
achievable?’
TEN TOP TIPS
“Dear, never forget one
little point.
It’s my business.
You just work here.”
Elizabeth Arden to her husband
NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS
ARE CREATED EQUAL…
1. BEING RIGHT ON ITS OWN
IS NOT ENOUGH
2. KNOW HOW IMPORTANT YOU ARE
3. KNOW THY SELF (AND THY STUFF)
4. UNDERSTAND THEM
5. CONNECT WITH THEM
6. USE THEIR TIME WISELY
7. THINK ‘ALLY’ NOT ‘ADVERSARY’
8. DON’T ARGUE
9. BE PERSISTENT
10. IF IT’S REALLY NOT WORKING,
SPEAK TO SOMEONE
ANY QUESTIONS?
1. Being right on its own is not enough
2. Know how important you are
3. Know thyself (and thy stuff)
4. Understand them
5. Connect with them
6. Use their time wisely
7. Think ‘ally’ not ‘adversary’
8. Don’t argue
9. Be persistent
10. If it’s really not working, speak to someone
MANAGING ‘MUSCLE’ AND USING
INFLUENCING SKILLS
APG, November 22nd
Sarah Watson (DDB) & Matthew Palmer (Leagas Delaney)

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Sarah Watson and Matthew Palmer 22nov2010

  • 1. MANAGING ‘MUSCLE’ AND USING INFLUENCING SKILLS APG, November 22nd Sarah Watson (DDB) & Matthew Palmer (Leagas Delaney)
  • 2. WHAT WE’RE GOING TO TALK ABOUT THIS EVENING — Using influencing skills to bring senior people with you – clients, creatives and agency management — A bit of theory — Ten ‘top tips’ — One of the hardest subjects to generalise about – please ask questions
  • 3. A BIT OF THEORY: WHO ARE YOU TALKING TO AND HOW ARE YOU TALKING?
  • 4. TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS: OLD, BUT STILL USEFUL — A neo-Freudian theory of personality developed in the late 1950’s — Explains how people function and express their personality in their behaviour — Can be extended to the analysis of communications within systems and organisations — Has been used in therapy, education, counselling, consultancy and management and communications training
  • 5. THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE P A C ARENT DULT HILD
  • 6. THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE PARENT — A state in which people behave, feel, and think in response to an unconscious mimicking of how their parents (or other parental figures) acted, or how they interpreted their parent's actions — Eg. A person may shout at someone out of frustration because they learned from an influential figure in childhood the lesson that this seemed to be a way of relating that worked Can either be a ‘nurturing’ or ‘criticising’ parent. Bad managers or clients often fall into the latter category...
  • 7. THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE CHILD — A state in which people behave, feel and think similarly to how they did in childhood — EG. a person who receives a poor evaluation at work may respond by looking at the floor, and crying or pouting, as they used to when scolded as a child — EG. On receiving a good evaluation they may respond with a broad smile and a joyful gesture of thanks — The Child is the source of emotions, creation, recreation, spontaneity and intimacy Can either be a ‘free’ or ‘adapted’ child. Often the highest paid person in the building...
  • 8. THERE ARE THREE BASIC EGO-STATES THAT PEOPLE CONSISTENTLY USE ADULT — A state of the ego which is most like a computer processing information and making predictions absent of major emotions that could affect its operation — Learning to strengthen the Adult is a goal of TA — While a person is in the Adult ego state, he/she is directed towards an objective appraisal of reality The classic ‘planner type’?
  • 9. RECIPROCAL OR COMPLEMENTARY TRANSACTIONS P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Is your room tidy yet?’ ‘Will you stop hassling me? I’ll do it eventually!’
  • 10. RECIPROCAL OR COMPLEMENTARY TRANSACTIONS P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Have you been able to write the report?’ ‘Yes – I’m about to email it to you’
  • 11. RECIPROCAL OR COMPLEMENTARY TRANSACTIONS P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Would you like to skip this meeting and go to the pub with me instead?’ ‘I’d love to – I don’t want to work any more. Where shall we go?’
  • 12. CROSSED TRANSACTIONS – ‘FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE’ P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Will you stop hassling me? I’ll do it eventually!’ ‘Have you been able to write the report?’
  • 13. CROSSED TRANSACTIONS – ‘FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE’ P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Will you stop hassling me? I’ll do it eventually!’ ‘If you don’t change your attitude you’ll get fired.’
  • 14. CROSSED TRANSACTIONS – A MORE POSITIVE INTERACTION P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Is your room tidy yet?’ ‘I’m just going to do it, actually’
  • 15. IF SOMEONE’S STUCK IN ‘CHILD’... P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Can’t believe the @#$% client won’t buy into doing a 90”TV ad. They drive me insane.’ ‘I know. It was a great script, wasn’t it? Would have been amazing...’
  • 16. IF SOMEONE’S STUCK IN ‘CHILD’... P A C P A C Person A Person B ‘Can’t believe the @#$% client won’t buy into doing a 90”TV ad. They drive me insane.’ ‘I know. It was a great script, wasn’t it? Would have been amazing...’ ‘...But I guess with their budget they never would have been able to do it justice. So perhaps we should look at something a bit more achievable?’
  • 18. “Dear, never forget one little point. It’s my business. You just work here.” Elizabeth Arden to her husband NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE CREATED EQUAL…
  • 19. 1. BEING RIGHT ON ITS OWN IS NOT ENOUGH
  • 20. 2. KNOW HOW IMPORTANT YOU ARE
  • 21. 3. KNOW THY SELF (AND THY STUFF)
  • 24. 6. USE THEIR TIME WISELY
  • 25. 7. THINK ‘ALLY’ NOT ‘ADVERSARY’
  • 28. 10. IF IT’S REALLY NOT WORKING, SPEAK TO SOMEONE
  • 29. ANY QUESTIONS? 1. Being right on its own is not enough 2. Know how important you are 3. Know thyself (and thy stuff) 4. Understand them 5. Connect with them 6. Use their time wisely 7. Think ‘ally’ not ‘adversary’ 8. Don’t argue 9. Be persistent 10. If it’s really not working, speak to someone
  • 30. MANAGING ‘MUSCLE’ AND USING INFLUENCING SKILLS APG, November 22nd Sarah Watson (DDB) & Matthew Palmer (Leagas Delaney)