Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
Reciprocity
Examples:
- Someone buys you a beer
- Someone takes your shift
Caveats:
- Perceived, not actual
- Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5
Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5)
Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.
If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1
The bible tried: Eye for an eye
New paradigm
Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart
The key is HOW you enforce the rules
New paradigm
Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart
The key is HOW you enforce the rules
New paradigm
Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart
The key is HOW you enforce the rules
New paradigm
Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart
The key is HOW you enforce the rules
New paradigm
Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart
The key is HOW you enforce the rules
Four stages of conflict
Plus mindset
Four stages of conflict
Plus mindset
Four stages of conflict
Plus mindset
Four stages of conflict
Plus mindset
Four stages of conflict
Plus mindset
Four stages of conflict
Plus mindset
Remember:
1) Homeless people are exactly like you, except communication style, experiences, worldview, triggers
2) Punishment-driven enforcement is dominant model but not effective with homeless patrons
3) Empathy-driven enforcement is better
4) You all have tools. Hopefully you learned a few more. Go practice them!
Thank you for everything you do!
How to ask someone to leave
1) Take a minute to listen
2) Make it clear you don’t think negatively
3) Offer a fresh start
4) Be sad about it
5) Use baby steps