Time Tested Dating Secrets

1. "Now You Can Finally Learn
The Truth And Time-Tested
Secrets Behind Internet Dating
That Helps Ordinary People
Find Miss Or Mister Right...
 The Primer
 Honesty Really is the Best Policy
 Ask the Right Questions First
 Popular Online Dating Activities
 More Popular Online Dating Activities
 Growing Online Dating Relationships
 Online Dating Safety
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2. The Primer
No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are
thousands of men/women out there eager to meet you and eager for your
company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want. If
you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has
dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a
lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for
you.
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The good news is that all you need is a computer and an Internet connection to get
started. The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs.
There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match
you up with people using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special
interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to
choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites.
The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the
investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.
Some of the more popular online dating services are:
 eHarmony
 FriendFinder
 PerfectMatch
The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a
recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting
ladies/Gentlemen whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer anyone who
contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends. You
don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you
will never find the right person for you. New people join online dating services
daily and many will want to meet you.
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3. Honesty Really is the Best Policy
When you join an online dating service look for a person that you can like…even
come to love. What you aren’t looking for is a personl who would like your best
friend or your idea of what the perfect guy/girl looks like or talks like or thinks
like. So, in order to find the right guy or girl for you…and he/she IS out there…
you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the
online profile, during the dating process and beyond.
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The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past
relationship (s). What was right? What was wrong? What things really made you
like the last guy/girl? Which didn’t? Don’t assume that just because you hated
that your last guy/girl was so totally self-involved that they couldn’t see anything
else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. You won’t.
If you are a bartender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six-figure income. If you
are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something.
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Remember that the idea here is to find a person who will like you exactly like you
are. If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will remove all
doubt that you are a liar…and probably a cheat, as well.
Lastly, once you have found a person that you believe can be the one for you, for
goodness sakes, cancel your membership to the online dating service. After all,
you know and they know that online dating services are intended for those who are
looking…not those who have found or been found.
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4. Ask the Right Questions First
OK. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile.
You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact.
What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those
who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out who this strange person
really is and not just whom they want you to believe they are. It would be nice if
they wore labels like “Mama's Boy” or “Daddy’s girl”…. But they don’t so it’s up
to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. You need to
know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady or gent if
you decide you want to do that.
After you are past the initial small talk, ask them, “What are the biggest mistakes
guys/girls make when dating online?” Listen carefully to the answers. They are
going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on the opposite sex in general.
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Next you should ask them, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now
they will tell you if they had any bad experiences dating online and help you to
avoid making the same things wrong.
Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last
relationship?” If they put all the blame on the other person, you should probably
move on to the next prospect. If they take all the blame themselves, you should
probably do the same. If they say the breakup was by mutual consent or that the
relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer.
Move forward but always with caution.
Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident
when you meet a person for the first time.
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5. Popular Online Dating Activities
All types of everyday activities are growing in popularity online these days like
sharing photos and greeting cards. In fact, both of these even go hand in hand with
online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles
today.
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Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first. Here’s
how:
Photos - As a wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online
photo album for your new cyber-mate. Include digital photos of favorite outdoor
scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc.
Then you’ll even have more to discuss during online dates via emails and chat
rooms. Search for “photo albums” to find places that store your photos.
Greeting Cards- Regardless of where the person lives, you can mail a greeting
card. If privacy and security is an issue, check into renting an inexpensive P.O.
Box (check the Yellow Pages). You do not have to be an artist to make something
homemade and special for the new friend in your life. Even making a special,
personalized greeting card would be appreciated and show your date that you care
enough to take the time needed to make something by hand. Search your favorite
search engine for online greeting cards to send, too. They range from free to low
cost and can be sent in a click.
So get online and get active! No need to risk meeting in person until you get more
familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge!
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6. More Popular Online Dating Activities
A couple of popular online activities are sharing recipes and bidding at auctions.
And both of these easily fit well into online dating opportunities, one of the most
popular online activities for singles today.
To help many dates get better acquainted online, here’s what potential cyber-dates
do:
 Sharing Recipes – People get tired talking about the weather. So a popular
subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice
and even forms friendships over culinary skills – or lack of – and tastes. Search
your favorite search engine for “free recipes” to share. Take photos of your
culinary creations and share them with your date, too.
 Bidding at Auctions – Ebay auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So
surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share
cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or
when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer
wiener whistles, The Partridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman’s Album, 45’s
and more.
Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each
other and have fun while you’re at it. Take a cyber-stroll down memory lane
together and see what’s cookin’.
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7. Online Dating Safety
Online dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience but maintaining
your safety while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and
exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same as real world safety
rules.
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You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a strange person that
you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it
safe. Get to know this person who could turn out to be Prince Charming or Miss
Right before you give out any information that could make it possible for him or
others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you
work for a mid-sized law firm...not that you work for Brown, Smith and Jones
Attorneys-at-law. It is safe to tell them what city you live in but you should wait to
be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails
for awhile.
Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat
and private email on their site. Do not give out your isp email address. If you must
give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp
address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble.
When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first
meeting in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or
arrange for one to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.
Remember…you ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you into
revealing more personal information than you are comfortable with
revealing.
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