In the beginning I wanted to volunteer for the Big Brother Big Sister Program but it is required to have a vehicle and to be at least 18 years of age. At the time I was not 18 years old and I still don’t have a car, so I decided to use my Senior Grad Project to promote mentoring programs and to inform my peers of mentoring programs and what they do.
This should be important to you because most of you if not all of you are going to college and you will be the freshmen again. You have to learn the school and figure out where you belong and what group of people you want to hang with. And for some this may be overwhelming and they may not be able to handle it on there own so for those who can’t handle the multiple pressures being mentored would be an amazing asset to the beginning of the rest of your life.
Mentoring is something that can change the world if it is applied. It will help people to cope with different things and it will help with social skills making problem solving easier for everyone. In doing that it will make everyone more open to talking about their problems and issues with other people.Today I want to inform you guys about mentoring and what it is and how it can make a difference.
Support, guidance and assistance is offered by the mentor. They will help the child through difficult times, face new challenges, and work to correct any past problems. Mentoring is important because it improves our community, state, and nation because these young children are learning to better themselves which allows them to grow up becoming good citizens and employees who strengthens our businesses, community, and our society.
There is not much history recorded on mentoring but they traced it back to Greek mythology. The Greek storyteller Homer tells of Odysseus, the King of Ithaca. In this tale, Odysseus asked his friend Mentor to watch over his son Telemachus while he fought in the Trojan War. Mentor was a faithful friend of Odysseus who was left behind on Ithaca as Telemachus' tutor; he was wise, sober, and loyal. Telemachus was just entering manhood and was very self-conscious about his duty and his father's reputation as a hero, which he felt he must live up to. As you can see mentoring is one of the oldest forms of influence. Mentoring can be a powerful and popular way for people to gain personal and professional skills.
This young generation has to overcome far more personal and social pressures than any other previous generation of youth. Early intervention through a structured mentor relationship may be able to give young people the tools and support they need to deal effectively with these pressures. Understanding the many social, psychological, and physical demands that the youth face is extremely important for any individual about to undertake the task of being a mentor. Here is a list of some of the issues that today’s youth face.“Everybody Else is Too Loud.” I picked that picture because a lot of times our friends don’t give a chance to think for ourselves and make our own decisions based on what we feel is right. They make us feel like if we don’t do something that they want us to do then we are not cool and everyone wants to be cool. So I just want to say that everyone should make there own decisions and don’t try to live up to what your friends or anybody else wants for you, live for yourself.
To be a mentor, you don't need special skills, just an ability to listen and to offer friendship, guidance and encouragement to a young person.Mentoring happens in a number of settings:The community. (This new service is for people who are, at risk of social isolation and loss of independence, or who are experiencing a downturn in their lives.Mentoring tackles isolation and loss of independence by:encouraging and enabling ‘healthy living’ and social re-engagement;assessing individual psychology, needs, interests and capacities; andfostering improved self-esteem to prevent further ill health and hospital admissions. Mentoring also supports isolated older people to improve their quality of life by helping their communities to include them.)Schools.(School-based mentoring programs generally have these four characteristics:1. Teachers or other school personnel refer students who could benefit fromadult friendship and support.2. Mentors commit to meeting with the students for an hour a week throughoutthe school year.3. Mentors meet one-to-one with the students at the school during the schoolday.4. While mentors and students might spend some time on school work, theyalso engage in other activities (such as playing sports and games, exploringthe Internet, doing artwork, writing a story, eating lunch together,and talkingWhich all helps build a strong relationship.)The faith-based community. (takes place in, or is sponsored by, a house of worship and often reflects the values and beliefs of that religion. Matches meet during the after school hours or on weekends both on the premises and off. Match activities may include faith education, career exploration, life skills development, playing games and going to sporting, entertainment or cultural events. The match commitment required by the mentors and mentees varies.)Business. (if you start work in a new business or something like that then you may be paired up with someone who may have been there for 5 years and basically they train you to do and perform for the job and things like that.Through the Internet.( Ementor will talk about later)
Through my research I have found that those who participate in mentoring programs as the mentee are 46% less likely to do drugs and 27% are less likely to engage in alcohol use. So just with these statistics alone you can see that mentoring helps students make better decisions
When participating in mentoring programs you are prone to making a change in character because now you have friends that you can be honest and straight forward with. Not only that but these friends will not try to pressure you into doing things that could get you hurt or get you into any trouble. Here are some statistics to show that.60% of students who participate in mentoring programs improve their relationships with adults and 56% improve their relationships with peers. A lot of kids today tend to have trouble understanding that there is/should a difference in the way we interact with adults and the way we interact with our peers. We often talk to adults as if they were our friends and even if that adult is your friend there is a certain way that your suppose to interact with them. You have to be respectful and mentoring teaches that.64% of students develop more positive attitudes towards school I think that a lot of kids don’t like school because they feel as if it is taking from their personal life or its too hard and they don’t understand the material that is being taught, or because they are out cast. They learn that school can be fun if they make it and they learn social skills and how to interact with people so that they can have more friends.62% are more likely to trust teachers Mentoring programs helps you to open up and it shows that all adult aren’t mean or whatever notions that child may have.64% develop higher self confidence In mentoring programs they do things to help the child to be more comfortable with themselves. Not only that but it helps them to find out who they are as a person which makes them more comfortable with themselves.55% are better able to express their feelings As I said before mentoring helps children to open up and express themselves in a constructive way. So they learn to express themselves in ways where they won’t hurt themselves or anyone else.
38% achieve higher grades in social studies, language, and math59% get better grades overall52% is less likely to skip school73% raise their goals Ex. There is a student who have decided long before high school that they weren’t going to college then all of a sudden after they participate in a mentoring program they decide that they want to go to college. Or You have a student who is going to a 2 year college and then afterwards to work who decide they want to transfer from the 2 year college to a 4 year college. So Mentoring teaches children to reach for the stars and to never settle for nothing less than the best.
A mentor is a person committed to helping a student, identified as an at-risk, get his/her life back together again, whether it be academically, socially, mentally, or physically you can always count on a mentor. He/she commits his/her self to spending the time and energy necessary to put the student on the right track. The mentor takes on a lot of different roles at once. A mentor is a big brother/sister, role model, and most of all a friend to the student.
Basically anyone can be a mentor because as I said there isn’t any special skills need to be a mentor.
Mentors are not Parent, Professional Counselors, nor are they Social Workers but some of their traits will be a part of the mentor’s role. Listening, Nurturing, Supporting, Advising. Through the mentors’ sustained caring, interest, and acceptance, youth may begin to think of themselves as worthy of this attention. They may apply this new, stronger sense of self-confidence to other relationships and experiences.
In mentoring training you will be taught all the characteristics needed to be a sufficient mentor. You will be taught things like how to control you emotions and how to give and understand feedback. You will build your own confidence as a mentor and you will be taught how to help your protégé choose what to do next. In this class you will be taught how to be a leader.
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There are 4 different types of mentoring and they all pretty much have the save results and outcomes. One on One, Group, Peer, and e-mentoring all have their perks and good qualities but they also may have things that may be left out like maybe with one on one mentoring it’s not as effective as peer mentoring.
One-to-one mentoring is a developmental and learning technique aimed at increasing personal capacity, skills and learning. The mentor and the protégé together comes up with goals and plans to pursue the set goals. Along the way they will encounter problems and issues and the mentor will teach the protégé ways to deal with those problems in an orderly fashion. Also if the protégé needs someone to talk to about any issues that the protégé may encounter they have their mentor to count on.Adult to ChildDiscuss social issuesDiscuss personal issuesDiscuss emotional issuesDiscuss goalsDiscuss problem solving
Mentoring is considered group mentoring when you have at least one adult and at least four children, for the most part group mentoring programs usually consist several adults working with small groups of children. The ratio of adult to children is not greater than 1:4. Group mentoring is slightly less personalized because you have other people there with you but the effects can be just as strong. In this situation you participate in team building activities and trust activities and you form your own support group which could be very very good for the protégés and even the mentors. In doing this you build relationships with people that you could talk to when you have problem and they will stand by your side when you don’t have the strength to push.
Peer mentoring is whenan older child befriends a younger child. This is a very good mentoring technique. Child to child relationship is more natural than an adult to child so it would be very easy for them to open up to one another and to understand one another's feelings and ideas. This is why the statistics is slight different from one to one mentoring and group mentoring.
E-mentoring is mentoring via internet or email. This type of mentoring is for those who really don’t have much time to have a one on one relationship with a person. E-mentoring is very convenient because it only requires 20 minutes a week, which means it will not take up much of your time. It is used mostly by college students.
This is a list of programs the deal with mentoring. Some are actual mentoring programs and some are more so like recruit programs/ promotion programs.
BBBS currently runs in all 50 states and twelve countriesBig Brother Big Sister Program was founded by Ernest Coulter in 1904. It started off as the Big Brother program consisting of all boys, but in 1914 he began to plan for nation wide Big Brother Big Sisters Organization. By 1916 the program spread to about 96 cities across the country. In 1977 Big Sisters International and Big Brothers Association merge, forming Big Brothers Big Sisters of America with 357 agencies. BBBS now runs in 50 states and 12 countries.
The Mentoring Center was founded in 1991 and is located in Northern California. It is an organization that is dedicated to helping Bay Area mentoring programs better themselves. It provides mentor training for mentors of other organizations. Mentor Center worked with 25,000 youth and volunteer mentors and served more than 800 different mentoring programs in the Bay Area. For those who do not know The Bay Area is located in California. It surrounds the San Francisco and San Pablo estuaries.
National Mentoring Month is an organization made to raise awareness of the importance of mentoring in young people. Not only do they teach about mentoring but they also hold events to try and get people to want to volunteer. The goals of the National Mentoring Month organization is to raise awareness of all forms of mentoring, Recruit people to mentor in different programs, and to promote the growth of mentoring by recruiting organizations to engage their constituents in mentoring. National Mentoring month is January.
This program is another one of those program that wants to improve the mentoring programs so they provide mentors for other mentors to help them better themselves which in turn will help the mentors protégé to become a better person. The National Mentoring Center have worked with Federal agencies such as: Us Department of Education, The Corporation for National and Community service, etc. The NMC can also provide a wide variety of supports to federal, state, and local mentoring initiatives and funding agencies.
For my application I helped facilitate the Mini UM Challenge on Diversity Day. For those of you who don’t know the UM Challenge is a program designed to tackle social barriers that we may have such as: cliques, ethnic differences, gender, etc. Mr. B, Ms. Clifton, myself instructed this program. We had a total of 4 or 5 meetings where we discussed what activities to include that will give a good idea of what the UM Challenge was all about. This was really difficult because we had to pick activities that wouldn’t take from the effects of the actually UM Challenge. Not only did we discuss activities but we also discussed timing. I created a PowerPoint to introduce what we were going to do for the day and to introduce my idea of mentoring and how it can change people.The whole preparation process kind of reminded me of teaching because as a teacher you have to come up with teaching plans and timing and the ideas that you want to get across.
As Another part of my application I went to an activity called Upper Merion on Display. This was pretty much like a science fair kind of thing stations was set up that focused on one particular
1. Fold the paper in half and tear off a top corner.2. Fold it in half again and tear off the top corner.3. Fold it in half again and tear off the left corner.4. Rotate the paper to the right three times and tear off the bottom corner.5. Fold it in half again and tear off the middle piece.Now you can open your paper up. Look at your neighbors snowflake does it look like yours or is it different?How is it different?Why is it that even though everyone received the same directions, not everyone hadthe same outcome? What would have changed if you could have asked questions? Have you ever told someone one thing only to have the person hear and do somethingdifferent? What happened, and how did you deal with it?