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Outline
How to discuss sexual decision making
How to send appropriate positive messages
Programming ideas
Student Leaders
Other resources
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How to Discuss Sexual Decision
Making WITHOUT shaming
Key Words:
Slut Shaming
Victim blaming
Hetero-normative
Healthy Sexuality
Sex-positivity
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Context
This is an intimate discussion, meet people where
they’re at
Inviting and accepting of all decisions- OKAY to
make personal choices, OKAY to not want sex
Inviting students to participate as they wish in
programming
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Open the Discussion
What do you expect from partners/experiences?
How do we communicate consent?
How would you feel if ___?
How do you want to make decisions?
Are you okay with the decisions you make under the
influence of drugs and alcohol?
It’s OKAY to change your mind!
In what ways can we change harmful mindsets?
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GLBTQ and other identities
How can we make messages appeal to students
with a wide variety of identities?
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Programming Ideas
Party With Consent
Sex Week
Condom Olympics
Rachael Carlevale with Planned Parenthood
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Student Leaders
Get involved early
Want to learn more? Let’s figure out when to meet
and learn together
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It doesn’t have to be you
If providing education yourself sounds uncomfortable or
doesn’t match up with your beliefs, then know that you don’t
have to engage in these conversations
Know your resources
Planned Parenthood
Fort Lewis College Health Center
Gender and Sexuality Resource Center
Other RAs or RDs
Student leaders
Sex+
NativeYouth Sexual Health Network
Kelly- We’re an important resource on campus and our role is to create an inclusive community. To accomplish this we must open the conversation about sexuality in a way that makes everyone feel accepted. We all have different ideas about sexuality and make different personal choices. It’s important to remember that what is right for us might not be (and probably isn’t) right for someone else. We come in at a weird place where there’s this huge gap between high school sexual education and experience and awareness of healthy sexuality and preparedness for very adult situations. Give definition and examples of each Slut Shaming Ex Rush Limbaugh birth control sluts
The gap in Sexual health education leaves many people with no idea of what they want from each other, this lack of forethought can create disempowering and potentially harmful situations. Engaging residents in a conversation about healthy sexuality is a great way to encourage questioning the norm and becoming aware of identity.
Go back to conversation about hetero-normativity. Programming tends to veer towards being hetero-normative with language and content. Be aware of what messages you’re sending to residents.