Slides from a webinar presented on 10.12.12. The webinar is called “Dying – Doing It Differently”. Maneesha talks about how death is 'coming out of the closet'; the need to reverse the medicalisation of dying in order to acknowledge and support the hugely potential time that it is, psychologically and spiritually. She discusses why someone might want to die consciously; why just being alive isn't, in itself, the kind of preparation needed for a graceful, easy, even ecstatic dying; she points out the similarities between meditating and dying, and introduces the Sammasati Support-Person Training for 2013.
Included are a couple of meditations in which all are invited to participate, and some suggestions around being at the bedside of someone who is very ill or dying; and time for questions too.
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"Dying: Doing It Differently"
1. Dying: Doing It Differently
with Maneesha James
The Sammasati Project
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2. Who We Are
Maneesha James
S.R.N., S.C.M., R.M.N. Grad. Dip. Psychotherapy
& Counselling, Member of BACP
Meditation Facilitator & Psychotherapist
Co-founder The Sammasati Project
& Co-Facilitator The Sammasati
Support-Person Training
Sidika Petterson
Communications & Graduate
of The Sammasati Project
Support-Person Training
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3. How to Participate Today
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session
4. Webinar Overview
Introduction to Maneesha & The Sammasati Project
The taboo around death
2 guided meditations
The connection between meditation and dying
The Sammasati Support-Person Training
Basic ‘Being-with skills’
Q&A
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5. Maneesha James through
the years
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7. Our Mission Statement
To support those who want to live – through
the whole spectrum of living-health-
sickness-recovery-dying – consciously and
with greater joy.
Our focus is currently on the Sammasati
Support-Person Training offering psycho-
spiritual support to the seriously ill and the dying
– more about that later
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8. The Sammasati Project:
Our Plans
Talks and workshops on meditation
Education in the potential for transformation in dying
A training for those wishing to support individuals through
their illness back to health or through dying
An outreach service to assist people through illness
and/or dying
A website with a toolkit of resources (including a support
forum) for those wishing to live and die consciously with
the aid of meditation
Meditation-based hospices around the world
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9. What we’re on about
So this webinar’s theme is death & dying
Anyone here who thinks this topic isn’t applicable to
them?!
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10. The Taboo of Death
Death is so morbid!
OK, others die, but
not me!
Mention death and
you’ll make it happen
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12. Recent History of Death
Changes in the last 100 years – previously more
childhood death, lower adult life expectancy
The deathbed was often in the home; elderly
often lived with the family, so people faced the
reality of death as part of life
Nowadays, death has been medicalised and
many of us die in hospitals, it is more of an
unknown so more feared
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13. Fear of Death
Fear based on losing what we have become
deeply attached to
Fear born of the misunderstanding that we
are the body
And there are other fears – that of going into
the unknown; the fear of pain; the fear of
feeling abandoned, of being alone; that those
we leave behind will not be able to manage
without us; a fear that we have wasted our life
and now it is too late to do anything about it;
and, for some, the fear of retribution, of being
judged and found wanting
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14. Death: Coming out of the closet
Death Cafes in the UK & US
The Natural Death Centre;
DyingMatters.org; Transitus
Respecting people’s right to know they
are dying and to prepare
The right to end one’s own life
Literature on death
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15. Prepare to die!
Dying can be prepared for, and part of that
preparation will include consciously
addressing fears.
Then there’s an opening to understand the
enormous potential in dying
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16. How can we prepare to die?
Some people say that
“Living is the best
preparation for dying”
If death tapped me on
my shoulder right now…
Some people explain that
they are too busy living to
give energy to death
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17. The living-dying continuum
Death is a natural process – part of the
continuum of life
We are really living-dying all the time
The same tendencies in our living will still be
in play through dying – both so-called
positive and negative.
You take on the whole package: life and
death
The interplay of living-dying in our breathing
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18. Breath-Watching Technique
Ensure that you will
not be disturbed
Make yourself
comfortable
I’ll guide you through
the very simply steps
so you can allow
your eyes to close
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19. Watching the in- and the out-
breath
Each in breath, taking in life
Each out breath, letting go of life
The body is so relaxed you feel you can observe it there,
separate from you
And if any thoughts or feelings or physical sensations
intervene, noticing when that happens, bringing your
awareness back to watching the breath
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20. Watching the gaps
Notice the gaps
The gaps may become longer, without any effort
Enjoy that feeling of complete relaxation, of letting
go totally…
You are simply aware, watching…You are simply
consciousness….
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21. Watching the whole cycle…
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22. What can we learn through this
small technique?
Benefits:
1) Moving voluntarily from the outer to the inner
2) Allowing, rather than doing
3) Voluntarily relaxing
4) Moving from the personality to spaciousness
5) Being in the present
6) A living understanding of the interconnectedness
between inhaling and exhaling, between living and dying,
7) The choice to notice thoughts, feelings and bodily
sensations and to let them pass by
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23. More Benefits…
8) The experience of oneself
as that which is separate
from the body, as the
watching consciousness,
sammasati
9) Trust and dropping
control
10)Stillness, silence,
peace
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24. What’s the relevance of
meditation in dying and why
would I want to die consciously?
Many valuable keys that are relevant when we
are sick or dying
Specific methods to address diverse concerns
The meditative methods that we can use in life
to avoid becoming overwhelmed with anxiety,
our various fears, to de-stress, to stay centred,
open and in contact with our hearts, may be
just as relevant when we are dying
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25. Meditation and dying
The process we enter in a passive meditation method is
very similar to dying:
Close our eyes
Relax, let go of any need to control
Leave the outer world for our interior one
Leave behind the personality, our sense of individuality,
and become one with a vaster energy
Sammasati:discover or remember ourselves the
watching consciousness that which is beyond the
bodymind.
Move from relating to the other, to being alone, in self-
relating
Move from doing to simply being
Move into the unknown
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26. Die before you die
Meditating provides a
natural and simple way to
consciously ‘die before you
die’
If we are meditators, when
our time comes, the
process is familiar to us
If we know how to let go
consciously and
voluntarily, can there be a
better way to enter dying?
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27. Dying Consciously
A moving account of a
conscious passage into
dying: When I Die: Lessons
from the Death Zone by
Phillip Gould
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28. Phillip Gould
“My death became my life. And my life gained a
kind of intensity that it had never had before. It
gained a quality and a power it had never had
before.”
“The unvarnished certainty that you are going to
die …is an immensely powerful thing. It provides
the opportunity for fulfilment and the experience of
extraordinary depths of feeling, and the chance of
reconciliation that would never otherwise occur.”
“Death is a time for immense change and
transformation, a time to fulfil yourself and others,
and a chance, in a small way, to change the
world…”
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29. Death: A unique opportunity
Clearly, approached with
awareness and openness,
dying is not – or need not be
– a calamity but a unique
opportunity, even the
crescendo, the peak of our
life’s experience
And Now And Here by the
mystic Osho can help you to
understand the significance
of meditation and dying
consciously
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30. Questions?
Any questions so far?
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31. Medicalised death
Richard Barnett writes of the ‘sterility and inhumanity
of modern, medicalised death’ and how – by ensuring
that death [takes] place under medical supervision in
medical institutions, the medical profession [has]
‘obscured the personal and social process of dying’ –
and I would add the ‘psycho-spiritual aspects too.’ (‘A
Brief History of Modern Death’)
The potential inherent in dying– the psycho-
spiritual aspect of dying – is not the domain of
doctors
As so vividly described by Lord Gould, lived through
with awareness, dying can be deeply transformative.
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33. From fear to …?
To address our fears is certainly an important step
Energetically fear is a contracted state; when we’re
fearful, anxious, we contract internally
What makes us feel just the converse – open, trusting,
relaxed, expanded?
Love!
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34. The Light of Love Meditation
Make sure you are undisturbed, and be in a comfortable
position
Stage 1: I shall be guiding you throughout so you can
allow your eyes to close
If it helps you to be in contact with your heart, you might like to
place a hand there. And let your awareness rest there, at your
heart centre
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35. The stages
Stage 1 – Recall Love:
Recall the face of someone you feel loved by
Or simply feel the presence of Love itself
On each inhalation: inhale feel that you are
taking that love – as a soft, golden light – into your
heart.
On each exhalation…sending that love, that light
that has filled your heart, into the rest of your body
Stage 2 – Rest in love: And finally, for the next
few moments, simply resting in that feeling of
being filled with love’s light…
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36. A turning point
Encouraging the addressing of our fears
around dying is an important part of easing
someone through the dying process. And
there is a whole other dimension beyond
that too
And consider this, that…
This might be the first time the dying person
has turned inwards
The first time they are asking themselves:
Who am I?
They may be asking other significant
existential questions
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37. As at birth…so at death
As we do for birthing,
we can – and should –
consciously prepare for
dying
Dying can be as
celebrative as birthing
Another kind of midwife
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38. The Sammasati Support-Person
Training
The Sammasati Support-Person Training is
designed to help through illness and dying
those who like to use whatever happens for
their inner growth, those who want to be
present to their dying as they are to their living.
The Sammasati vision is based on that of the
mystic Osho.
A meditative approach to all aspects of living,
including dying
No one to follow; no belief system to take on
An openness and willingness to experiment,
taking on everything as a ‘working hypothesis’
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40. Training Facilitators
Myself, Maneesha James
Sudheer Niet: meditation
facilitator; hypnotherapy and
NLP trainer
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41. Two aspects of the training
The Training is two-pronged:
A unique opportunity to explore
your own relationship with
death
Skills to support someone else
who is dying, who wants to stay
as present as possible, and to
have the support of meditators.
As Osho says, this is ‘greatest
gift’ we can give to anyone – to
be present, with love and
awareness, supporting them
through this journey
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42. Brief description of the training
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43. Module 1: Experiential Enquiry
Doctor and author Michael Murphy suggests, ‘If there is no
training, and [support people] have not taken conscious heed
of their own loneliness and disconnection, no wonder that
there is bluster and fear [about dying]. Since dying involves
body, soul, and spirit… lectures or instruction manuals are
inadequate since feelings are very much involved. In order to
be a truly competent guide, [the support person’s] training
needs to be very personal, helping him to imagine his own
dying and the dying of those he loves. Only then will he be in a
more comfortable position to help others, since he himself will
be able to become more a witness and guide.’ (The Wisdom of
Dying: Practices for Living).
Safe and supportive environment
Structures and meditation that enable us to address our
feelings around our own death
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44. Module 2
Client Issues and Possible Responses
What is ‘a conscious death’?
What might impede it?
Ways to respond to shock, anxiety and depression
Meditation
Basic relating skills
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45. Module 3
Deepening; Issues of the Psyche;
'Being-with' Skills and Relaxation
Deepening relating skills
Continued introduction to meditation methods
An introduction to the art of self-hypnosis; how to
induce a state of deep relaxation in ourselves and
in the other
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46. Module 4
Sickness and a Conscious Death
How to support someone who wants to remain responsive
and present to the experience of their dying?
Is there a place for The Bardo Thodol (The Tibetan Book
of the Dead) in a contemporary context?
Physical signs and symptoms of dying
Advanced Planning (The Living Will)
Ethics and some of the issues around euthanasia
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47. Module 5
Pain Management; Teaching Meditation;
Self Care
The various forms of non-medical pain relief that are
available
Discussion and practice around teaching meditation
Some guidance on working with clients and how to
promote yourself
Revision of the training
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48. What’s unique about the
training…
Its foundational understanding being that a
conscious death offers an unprecedented
opportunity for inner growth
That there can be joy even in the seemingly
bleakest moments
Meditation-based and with facilitators who are
meditators
The experiential component
The learning how to voluntarily enter the
experience of letting go, and how to pass that on
to others
The development of participants’ own state of
consciousness
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49. What will I gain from the training?
An intimate, lived understanding of what your own death means
to you
A deepened state of meditation
The ability to be fully present, with love and awareness, when
with someone at one of the most vulnerable and sacred times in
their life
Psychological and meditative skills for supporting
consciousness in illness and dying
A loving and safe space to process emotions which are
inevitably triggered by the nature of this work
A support group of fellow trainees
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50. What will I gain from the
training? Cont/…
An appreciation of the relevance of meditation in all aspects of
life
The acquisition of a variety of meditations to enhance everyday
life as well as the last phase of life
Ongoing support after the year’s training, through mentoring
and Professional Development sessions (workshops and seminars
and online webinars).
A possible radical change in your appreciation of what it is to be
alive, here and now.
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51. Some testimonials from training
graduates
"I am more conscious that everything has a
beginning and an end… A window has been
opened where I can be more real. I no longer need
to close my eyes to my imperfections in order to
defend myself.. I can be me. A new wave of health
is coming up in my psyche. I am a human being. I
am vulnerable. I am finite. And despite all that, I
still can be. Life happens…Things can be
fascinating without needing to be anything in
particular. I do not need to be special. I can be
human, simple, weak, vulnerable, and still worthy."
(Priya Alvarez, Spain)
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52. Some testimonials from training
graduates cont/…
“Living a life where each moment I am
preparing for my own death is very
different from living with the focus on
being right, getting a date, making
money, avoiding pain, etc. Long story
short, I sit quietly for many hours a day
with a level of peace I have never known
before.” (Nityanando, USA)
“There was such loving energy
throughout …and for me personally a
great amount of learning, and golden
keys to work on myself in my everyday
living.” (Cristina Grassl, Italy)
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53. Some photos from the
training…
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54. To connect with us about
the training
Check out our detailed Sammasati
Support-Person Training page on the
website: www.thesammasatiproject.co.uk
Email us at
info@thesammasatiproject.co.uk
Call us on +44 (0)7871 611692
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58. A few ‘being-there’ suggestions
for when with the dying
Physical needs
Physical proximity
Allowing silence
Synchronise your breathing
Touch can be very reassuring
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59. A few ‘being-there’ suggestions
for when with the dying Cont/…
• Reflective listening
Use affirming gestures e.g. nodding,
smiling, and sounds or words such as
‘Mmm’, ‘Aha’ ‘I see.’ ‘Yes.’
Avoid question-asking (beyond the practical
ones such as: Are you comfortable? How is
it for you to have me here?)
No need to try fix them/make things better
They may want to talk with you, get things
off their chest. It can be immensely helpful
and comforting if you just listen
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60. In conclusion…
Death is coming out of the closet
Facing our own issues around death helps
us support others who are dying
As we live, so shall we die
Meditation – as the state of self-as-
consciousness – provides the basis of an
experiential approach to dying
A ‘midwife’ or support-person to the dying
can be invaluable
Dying can be a celebrative & hugely
potential time
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61. Graduates of The Sammasati
Support-Person Training
Come join us!
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Born and grew up in Australia; trained as a General Nurse –here you see me in the Intensive Care Unit of The Alfred Hospital; went onto study Midwifery in Adelaide; then to the UK to study Psychiatric Nursing at The Maudsley. In 1974 met the mystic Osho, in Pune, India. Lived in his Meditation Resort (as it is now known) for the next 15 years; appointed his editor ; was the energy medium and the guinea pig in his energy work and experiments with meditation methods; member of his emergency medical team
Picture of our team as it was then a couple of months ago Set up in 2011 with a friend; now a CIC, with 3 directors
Point 1: We started offering such talks and workshops in the latter part of this year Education in the potential for transformation in dying I will embellish with: This life-changing – and death-changing possibilities are evident in the words of some who’ve written books as they are dying. More of this later. Point 4 Shorten to: An outreach service I will say the rest i.e. This will be provided by those who have completed the training to assist people through illness or dying. Point 5 Shorten to: A website I will add: We plan to include resources, including a support forum, for those wishing to live and die meditatively
Point 1: Talking about death is a great conversation-stopper . as I am sure others of you working in this field know too! The subject is so fear-laden; many will dismiss the subject out of hand Point 2 * Yes, we can see others dying more clearly; yet when we observe ourselves we can see that we too are actually dying already Point 3: * Talking about death doesn't bring death closer. That’s a superstition and a misunderstanding. It's about planning for life. If we don’t communicate with those who are terminally ill and dying, or out of fear don’t allow them to talk to use about their concerns around dying, we’re condemning them to a lonely and stressful experience. . We need to talk about dying, but….
[Give them time to read this] Then… So many reasons to procrastinate! It’s never the right now… Yet, given that death is the one certain in life, isn’t it only intelligent to start that conversation? To educate ourselves about dying?
Previously often the death bed was in the home; there were more deaths in childbirth and childhood; a lower adult life expectancy; and often the elderly living with the family, so children might well see a loved grandparent dying and then dead. So the reality of death was more ‘in your face’. Our attitude towards dying has become more fearful as society has changed and the dying are cloistered away; their care taken over by medical and nursing staff. Even hospices are becoming increasingly medicalised; This is according to two palliative care doctors – one here in the UK, one in Australia; one for 2 years, one for 25 years, so very experienced – and a sense of sadness from them both; that this is not the way it should be.
Point 1: -- life as we have known it, with our own part in it; the family and friends , experiences and memories that have made it meaningful and precious to us Point 2: -- an attitude which western society only endorses, so we are conditioned to believe that that is all we are and that is certainly going to die. BEFORE next slide: The good news is that: in spite of the taboo, in spite of our wanting to avoid the subject, in spite of our fears – death is now coming out of the closet. Here’s the evidence…
2) The Natural Death Centre; Dyingmatters.org; Transitus – Organisations here in the UK that are trying to educate us about dying; that are helping us to view death in a new light; and there are others in the US and elsewhere I am sure with similar aims 3) * Respecting people’s right to know they are dying & to prepare Some doctors are now acknowledging that; they’re biting the bullet and and having that conversation with their patients Preparation may mean… Advance care Planning: Includes thinking about decisions for the future, both while one is still alive and after one’s death, preferences about medical treatment for if/when you are no longer able to makes such decisions (‘Advanced Directive or Living Will} ; attending to financial matters, funeral wishes; creating a will if not already done 4) The right to end one’s own life 5) Literature on death Essays and books by people as they are dying e.g. Phillip Gould, Christopher Hitchin, Tom Lubbock; Carla Zilbersmith. Amazing testimonies, some of which I would like to read to you a little later
I respond: Living in itself is not as significant as how we live. If death tapped you on the shoulder right now, have you lived in such a way that you’d be willing and able to accept that? Would you be able to say you’ve lived a full and fulfilling life? That you gave it your all? That you’ve loved and been loved? Had dreams, took risks to realise them? Have no regrets? No unfinished business? Have been really present to your life, valuing the moment? And how many of us can say yes to that?
Most of us have fears, needs – often unconscious – which get in the way of our living well. Those same fears and needs will get in the way of our dying well too – unless we want to consciously prepare for dying and understand that part of that preparation is to face them. And add in as 2nd point: ‘I’m too busy living to give energy to dying’ I’d want to know: And in your busy life, what of the family members, partners, or friends who have died? What of a time when you’ve had a ‘health scare’ perhaps? Aren’t sickness and dying, and all the feelings we have about losing someone we love, or losing an aspect of ourselves we have loved – our youth, our looks, our vitality, for example – an unavoidable part of living, intrinsic to living? Let’s try a small technique that can bring this understanding home to you. It’s also a lovely method to pass onto someone who is sick or dying…
You’ll have your eyes closed and there is no need to read or remember the instructions: I’ll be guiding you…
Each inhalation is like a rebirth, a mini-birth, as you take in life Each exhalation is like a mini-death, as you release life… You may be noticing how the in breath and outbreath flow into each other; how they are not against each other at all but how they work harmoniously together; that they compliment each other: the more fully we breathe in, the more totally we can let go. The same is true of living and dying. When we really live fully, we can let go and relax into dying without any longing for what has been. And if any physical sensations or thoughts or feelings come by, just noticing that and then gently bringing your awareness back to watching the gaps. Yes.
– one that appears at the end of the inbreath… and the other that appears at the end of the outbreath. Just let your awareness move to those two spaces now, for the next minute or so Point 2: The gaps may become longer, without any effort No need to force the gaps to be longer …yet you may find that by just being aware of each gap, it becomes longer of its own accord…and that being in that gap can seem endless…can be very still and silent… Third point as is -- while you are simply being the awareness
And now you can bring your awareness to the whole cycle of the Breathing: watching as the breath comes in, and the gap that appears there; Watching as the breath leaves the body; and the gap there.
This is such a simple method, and takes very little energy, so it’s ideal for someone who has never turned inside, and who may be sick or dying.
Experience of self as separate from the body As the watching consciousness: Sammasati. Right remembering: you are consciousness 9) Trust and dropping control … And having the lived understanding that you can let go…that you are taken care of
Say as if a trance
When we go deeply into death through meditation, we can experience that we are consciousness are separate from the body.
… is worth reading to understand more profoundly the connection between meditation and dying
transformative, even joyful, even ecstatic. Phillip Gould writes of ecstatic moments, of ‘ecstasy on ecstasy’… and Carla Zilbersmith , is her essay, ‘Leave them Laughing, written as she was dying of ALS: I’m in love with living and I think I will feel that way until I die. I don’t want to waste one moment. Lately, more of the hours of each day are filled with suffering rather than joy, but I will not stop inviting in joy until my last breath.’
According to Osho It is because of our immense fear that nature tends to make us unconscious at death. Those who don’t want to be ‘out for the count’ will want to identify and address their fears. We can support someone in doing that using psychological means – such as counselling – and through meditation. There’s only a certain amount one can do talking about love; meditation, again, ;provides a felt understanding… Let’s try a small heart-based method now
Point 1: …developing the capacity to stay present to the process Last point: …such as, What is the point of life? What has mine been about? Have I loved? Been loved? Etc
Point 2: Dying can be as celebrative as birthing Yes, as in birthing there may be pain, but that only makes the joy more intense! Point 3 can read: Another kind of midwife That’s what we are providing in The Sammasati Support-Person Training
Point 2; ..that even those ‘bleak moments’ aren’t against the joy but only enrich it
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Do you really mean ‘ re tweet’ (I thought that’s something one goes on, far away from the world, to sit and be silent!) Is this an update of ‘tweet’?
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