10. 3. Determine the cost of the problem behaviour : Whether itâs a lost productivity, general discomfort or lower morale, difficult behaviour always carries a cost. The behaviour should be ignored if you canât determine any costs. 4. Prepare for the confrontation : Should you have determined the costs are too high, itâs now time to speak to the offender. What special concerns do you have about the problem ? What difficulties might you experience in the discussion ? How will you handle these problems ? Be ready for most situations you may face. Determine what you want to accomplish, then set up a meeting where youâll have privacy and enough time to discuss the situation.
11. 5. Rehearse thoroughly : Rehearse the trying situation before hand with a friend. Your friend should have as much knowledge of the situation as possible. This way, he or she can formulate good arguments and be able to anticipate what the other personâs objec- tions or reactions might be. The adage that practice make perfect works here. Remember that the person youâre eventually going to deal with has not had the opportunity to practice. 6. Find a solution : In a non-accusatory manner, explain why it concerns you. Give specific facts. Try not to offer your opinion as understanding. Identify the change in behaviour youâre seeking. Be open to changing your solution, if itâs inappropriate. Listen to the personâs ideas about how he or she can solve the problem. Express confidence in the personâs ability to change.
12. 7. Agree on a plan of action : Work towards a solution acceptable to both parties. 8. Obtain a commitment : Get agreement on specific actions the person will take, and set a deadline for these actions. Ask the person to confirm that he or she will do whatâs been agreed upon. 9. Follow up with the person : Recognise and comment on any progress youâve observed. Re-evaluate the action plan and revise it if necessary. If thereâs been no change, repeat the process.
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16. How to improve your Listening Skills ? 1. You must care enough to want to improve. Without this motivation itâll be too much effort. 2. Try to find an uninterrupted area in which to converse. Keeping your train of thought is difficult when there are obstructions to concentration. 3. Try not to anticipate what the other person will say. 4. Be mindful of your own biases and prejudices, so they donât unduly influence your listening. 5. Pay careful attention to whatâs being said. Donât stop listening in in order to plan a rebuttal to a particular point. 6. Be aware of âred flagâ words that might trigger an over-reaction or a stereotyped reaction. Examples of this are âwomenâs libberâ or or âmale chauvinistâ
17. 7. Donât allow yourself to get too far ahead of the speaker by trying to understand things too soon. 8. At intervals, try to paraphrase what people have been saying. Give them the opportunity to learn what you think youâve heard them say. 9. When you have difficulty determining the point of the speakerâs remarks, say, âWhy are you telling me this?â 10. Watch for key or buzz words if you find youâve lost the train of the conversation. This happens particularly when the speaker is long-winded or has a tendency to ramble. 11. Donât interrupt to demand clarification of insignificant or irrelevant details.