NLP simplified by Jayadeva de Silva for Humantalents

1. NLP Simplified
What do you want?
Jayadeva de Silva.M.Sc
"What do you want?" is probably the most well-known 'NLP question'. It
takes advantage of the fact that the human nervous system is 'goal-seeking' ie.
we operate most effectively when we have a goal or objective of some sort to
aim for, so...
1) Ask yourself "What do I want?" & pay attention to your
answer.
You can't do a don't
Is your answer stated in the positive (eg. to get fit & healthy, to double your
income, to start a new business etc.) or in the negative (eg. to quit smoking,
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2. lose weight, stop spending so much etc.)? Negatives aren't processed by the
nervous system in the same way that they are linguistically (eg. The command
"Don't think of a purple hippo" is difficult to obey.) You get what you focus
on, so if your goal is stated in the negative, you're making it more difficult for
yourself.
2) Ensure you state your goal positively.
How will you know when you've got it?
I once had a client whose goal was to become rich. I asked her how she'd know
when she was rich and she said she'd have more money. So I tossed a coin to
her and said "Congratulations, you're rich." 'More money' did not turn out to
be specific enough evidence for her having achieved her goal, so we went into
the detail of what she would see, hear and feel when she was rich. This gives
your nervous system a rich representation of what success is for this particular
goal. So, with regard to your goal...
3) Ask yourself "How will I know when I've got it?"
What will you see, hear and feel as you are achieving your goal? What specific
details will let you know that you are getting what you want? The more sensory
detail you include, the more information you will give to your nervous system
about what to aim for.
4) Ensure you have details of what you will see, feel and hear.
Get your body involved
Once you have clear evidence (ie. how you'll know when you've achieved your
goal), you can engage your unconscious resources more fully by getting your
body more involved. Stand up and ensure you've got enough space to move
safely, then...
5) Imagine you are going to step in to that time in the future when you
already have what you want, then literally take a step & imagine you can see
what you'll see, hear what you'll hear & feel what you'll feel when you are
achieving your goal.
Mind and body are a single system
Mind and body are a single system, and people often find that the process of
stepping into a future achievement has a profound effect, allowing you to
experience learnings and insights which may not previously have been
consciously available. Often, the people most skeptical of this approach have
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3. the most powerful experiences, so if you are dubious about whether this will
work for you, great - do it anyway and see what happens!
Summary
1) Use "What do you want?" with yourself & others to elicit goals
2) If goals are stated negatively, re-state them in the positive
3) Use "How will you know when you've got it?" to elicit evidence
4) Ensure you have answers for "What will you see, hear and feel?"
5) Step into your imagined future achievement to get further insights.
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