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1. The
habits
“Leaders don’t do different things
they do it differently”
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2. Inside Out
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The success literature of the last half of
the 20th century largely attributed success
to personality traits, skills, techniques,
maintaining a positive attitude, etc. This
philosophy can be referred to as the
Personality Ethic.
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However, during the 150 years or so that
preceded that period, the literature on
success was more character oriented. It
emphasized the deeper principles and
foundations of success. This philosophy is
known as the Character Ethic, under which
success is attributed more to underlying
characteristics such as integrity, courage,
justice, patience, etc.
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3. Inside Out
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The Character Ethic assumes that there
are some absolute principles that exist in
all human beings. Some examples of such
principles are fairness, honesty, integrity,
human dignity, quality, potential, and
growth. Principles contrast with practices
in that practices are for specific situations
whereas principles have universal
application.
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The Seven Habits of Highly Effective
People presents an "inside-out" approach
to effectiveness that is centered on
principles and character. Inside-out means
that the change starts within oneself. For
many people, this approach represents a
paradigm shift away from the Personality
Ethic and toward the Character Ethic.
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4. The Seven Habits - An Overview
• Our character is a collection of our habits, and habits
have a powerful role in our lives. Habits consist of
knowledge, skill, and desire. Knowledge allows us to
know what to do, skill gives us the ability to know how to
do it, and desire is the motivation to do it.
• The Seven Habits move us through the following stages:
• Dependence: the paradigm under which we are born,
relying upon others to take care of us.
• Independence: the paradigm under which we can make
our own decisions and take care of ourselves.
• Interdependence: the paradigm under which we
cooperate to achieve something that cannot be achieved
independently.
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5. Interdependence
Seek First to
Understand
… Then to be
Understood
Synergize
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think Win/Win
Independence
Put First
Things First
PRIVATE
VICTORY
Be
Proactive
Begin with
the End in Mind
Dependence
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6. The Seven Habits - An Overview
To make the choice to become interdependent, one first must be independent, since
dependent people have not yet developed the character for interdependence.
Therefore, the first three habits focus on self-mastery, that is, achieving the private
victories required to move from dependence to independence. The first three habits
are:
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Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Habit 3: Put First Things First
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Habits 4, 5, and 6 then address interdependence:
Habit 4: Think Win/Win
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Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Habit 6: Synergize
Finally, the seventh habit is one of renewal and continual improvement, that is, of
building one's personal production capability. To be effective, one must find the
proper balance between actually producing and improving one's capability to
produce. Covey illustrates this point with the fable of the goose and the golden egg.
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7. HABIT 1
BE PROACTIVE
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8. Habit 1:
Be proactive
“You are respons-able: able to choose your respons!”
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9. Habit 1: Be Proactive
Change starts from within, and highly effective people make the decision to improve
their lives through the things that they can influence rather than by simply reacting to
external forces.
Proactively
Being proactive means taking initiative, not waiting for others to act first, and being
responsible for what you do. The opposite of proactive is reactive. Reactive people
react to what goes on around them. Proactive people act based on principles.
Circle of Influence
Imagine a circle within a circle. The inner circle is your circle of influence and the
outer circle is your circle of concern. This means that many things which you are
concerned about you cannot influence. Yet there are many things which you are
concerned about which you can influence. Reactive people focus on their circle of
concern. Proactive people focus on their circle of influence. Being proactive also
increases your circle of influence.
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10. HABIT 2
BEGIN WITH THE
END IN MIND
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12. Habit 2: Begin with the End in
Mind
Develop a principle-centered personal mission statement. Extend the
mission statement into long-term goals based on personal principles
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What it Means
To begin with the end in mind is to begin with the image of the end of your
life as the frame of reference by which everything else is measured
We may be busy, we may be efficient, but we will only be effective if we
begin with the end in mind
All Things are Created Twice
Habit 2 is based on the principle that all things are created twice:
 a mental or first creation
 a physical or second creation
Most endeavors that fail, fail with the first creation
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13. HABIT 3
PUT FIRST THINGS
FIRST
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15. Habit 3: Put First Things First
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Spend time doing what fits into your personal mission, observing the proper
balance between production and building production capacity. Identify the
key roles that you take on in life, and make time for each of them.
Urgent
Quadrant I
Important
Not Urgent
Quadrant II
Crisis, pressing problems,
deadline- driven projects
Preventions, PC activities,
relationship building,
recognizing new
opportunities, planning
recreation
Quadrant III
Not Important
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Quadrant IV
Interruptions, some calls,
some mail some reports,
some meetings, popular
activities
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Trivia, busy work, some
mail, some phone calls time
wasters, pleasant activities

16. HABIT 4
THINK “WIN~WIN”
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18. Habit 4: Think Win/Win
• Seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial. In
cases where a "win/win" deal cannot be achieved, accept the fact
that agreeing to make "no deal" may be the best alternative
• In developing an organizational culture, be sure to reward win/win
behavior among employees and avoid inadvertently rewarding
win/lose behavior
• Win/Win
 Agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial
 A belief in the Third Alternative -- a better way
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19. HABIT 5
SEEK FIRST TO
UNDERSTAND…THEN
TO BE UNDERSTOOD
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21. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand,
Then to Be Understood
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First seek to understand the other person, and only then try to be understood.
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Stephen Covey presents this habit as the most important principle of interpersonal
relations. Effective listening is not simply echoing what the other person has said
through the lens of one's own experience. Rather, it is putting oneself in the
perspective of the other person, listening empathically for both feeling and meaning.
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Character and Communication
 Communication is the most important skill in life
 If you want to interact effectively with me, to influence me, you first need to
understand me
 You have to build the skills of empathic listening on a base of character
that inspires openness and trust
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Empathic Listening
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Diagnose Before You Prescribe
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Four Autobiographical Responses
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Then Seek to Be Understood
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One on One
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22. HABIT 6
SYNERGIZE
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23. Synergize
“The whole is greater
than the sum of its parts”
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24. Habit 6: Synergize
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Through trustful communication, find ways to leverage individual differences
to create a whole that is greater than the sum of the parts. Through mutual
trust and understanding, one often can solve conflicts and find a better
solution than would have been obtained through either person's own
solution.
Synergistic Communication
Synergy in the Classroom
Synergy in Business
Synergy in Communication
Fishing for the Third Alternative
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Negative Synergy
Valuing the Differences
Force Field Analysis
All Nature is Synergistic
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25. HABIT 7
SHARPEN THE SAW
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26. Sharpen the Saw
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27. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Take time out from production to build production capacity through personal
renewal of the physical, mental, social/emotional, and spiritual dimensions.
Maintain a balance among these dimensions
Four Dimensions of Renewal
 The Physical Dimension
 The Spiritual Dimension
 The Mental Dimension
 The Social/Emotional Dimension
Scripting Others
 Balance in Renewal
 Synergy in Renewal
 The Upward Spiral
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28. Inside - Out Again-Conclusion
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There is a gap between stimulus and response, and the key to both
our growth and happiness is how we use that space. Do we respond to
situations positively, proactively? Are we taking control of our own
lives?
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Meditating on this idea led Covey to start deep communication with
his wife, including more and more discussion of their inner worlds. It
was a time of inner discovery.
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They developed two ground rules. First, "no probing," just empathize.
Probing was too invasive. The second was when it hurt too much, quit
for the day.
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The most difficult and most fruitful part of this communication came
when the vulnerability of each person was touched. They discovered a
new sense of reverence for each other. They discovered that even
seemingly truthful things often have roots in deep emotional
experiences. To deal with the superficial trivia without seeing the
deeper, more tender issues is to trample on the sacred ground of
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another's heart.
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29. Inside - Out Again-Conclusion
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The ability to use wisely the gap between stimulus and response, to
exercise the four unique endowments of our human nature, empowers
us from the inside out. (The four endowments are self-awareness,
imagination, conscience, and independent will. See the summary of
Habit 1 - Be Proactive.)
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By understanding the role of scripting, we understand the
transcendent power in a strong intergenerational family. An effectively
interdependent family of children, parents, grandparents, aunts,
uncles, and cousins can be a powerful force in helping people have a
sense of who they are, where they came from and what they stand for.
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"There are only two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is
roots, the other wings.“
- Anonymous
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30. THANK YOU
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31. Dr.ZIA AHMED
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E-mail:
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