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Steven A. Gedeon , PhD, MBA, PEng [email_address] Success Secrets of the Motivational Superstars

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Success and Happiness come from Harmony GOALS ACTIONS

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Goals

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Goals

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Success and Happiness come from Harmony VALUES & BELIEFS GOALS ACTIONS

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Success and Happiness come from Harmony VALUES & BELIEFS GOALS REALITY ACTIONS

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Great Goals <ul><li>How much Success? </li></ul><ul><li>How much Happiness? </li></ul>Average Goals and Effort will Produce an Average Life

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Harmony <ul><li>What you Do </li></ul><ul><li>What you Say </li></ul><ul><li>What you Think </li></ul><ul><li>What you Feel </li></ul>HARMONY VALUES & BELIEFS GOALS REALITY ACTIONS

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Harmony <ul><li>Live “Without Wax” (sina cera > sincere) </li></ul><ul><li>Ensuring Non-Contradictions </li></ul><ul><li>To Thine Own Self be True </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Aptitudes – Your Goals Conform to Reality </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Become Great at what you are Good at </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Honesty – Your Words Conform to Reality </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Integrity – Your Actions Conform to your Words </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Character – Your Actions over Time </li></ul></ul>

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Greatness is Being Proactive HARMONY Self-Esteem Creative Visualization Time Management Responsibility Self-Control Adaptability Benevolence SUCCESS SKILLS VALUES & BELIEFS GOALS REALITY ACTIONS

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Reality <ul><li>Productivity </li></ul><ul><ul><li>You have to Work to Earn a Living </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Aptitudes </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Become Great at what you are Good at </li></ul></ul><ul><li>You Always Get Out what you Put In </li></ul><ul><ul><li>You Don’t Get Something for Nothing </li></ul></ul><ul><li>You Can’t Have It All Right Away </li></ul><ul><ul><li>You Need to Balance Short and Long Term Goals – there are Time Constraints </li></ul></ul>REALITY

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Core Beliefs <ul><li>Deeply held, typically non-verbal, Core Beliefs have a powerful effect on your self-esteem and behaviors. For example: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>“ My Life is Important” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ What Other People Think of Me is Very Important” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ I Deserve to be Happy” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ Life is Unfair” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ I’m Stupid, Lazy, Ugly…” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ It’s a Dog-Eat-Dog World” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ Life Sucks and then You Die” </li></ul></ul>VALUES and BELIEFS REALITY

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Values and Beliefs <ul><li>What are Your Core Beliefs? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Do You Agree with ALL of Them? </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>How did they get there? </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Because we Believe them to be True, we will Act as if they are True </li></ul><ul><li>What are Your Primary Values? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Do you Consistently Act in Accordance with Them? </li></ul></ul>

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Set Goals GOALS

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Set Goals <ul><li>The Cheshire Cat </li></ul><ul><li>The Reason so many Fail to Achieve their Goals is that they Never Set them in the First Place </li></ul><ul><li>By Failing to Plan – They Plan to Fail! </li></ul><ul><li>The Mind is like the Homing System of a Torpedo </li></ul><ul><ul><li>It will achieve your good or bad expectations </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>If no target set, it will wander aimlessly and self-destruct </li></ul></ul>

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The Well Balanced Life Mental Social Career Family Physical Educational Financial Community Long-Term Goals Yearly Goals Monthly Goals Weekly Goals

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Set Clear Goals <ul><li>SMART Goals: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>S pecific </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>M easurable </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>A ction-Oriented </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>R ealistic </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>T imely </li></ul></ul><ul><li>An Unwritten Goal is Merely a Wish! </li></ul>

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Success Skills <ul><li>Reality-Based Self-Esteem </li></ul><ul><li>Creative Visualization </li></ul><ul><li>Time Management </li></ul><ul><li>Responsibility </li></ul><ul><li>Self-Control </li></ul><ul><li>Adaptability </li></ul><ul><li>Benevolence </li></ul>ACTIONS

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1: Reality Based Self-Esteem <ul><li>Unconditional Love and Causeless Value vs Rational Basis of Lasting Self-Esteem </li></ul>Reality-Based Self-Esteem Event Control Productivity REALITY

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Earning Self-Esteem <ul><li>You MUST Earn Respect of Others </li></ul><ul><li>You MUST Earn Your Own Respect </li></ul>REALITY

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Your Self-Esteem Must Ultimately Come from Within <ul><li>Seeking others’ approval often pressures us into behaving contrary to our deepest values </li></ul><ul><li>When we seek external validation, we lose control over our lives </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t behave according to someone else’s values rather than your own </li></ul><ul><li>Whenever we accept someone else’s prejudice against us, we give them a degree of control over our lives </li></ul><ul><li>You can be happy and successful regardless of other people’s opinions </li></ul>REALITY

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2: Creative Visualization

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2: Creative Visualization <ul><li>You become what you think, say, and believe about yourself (your self image) </li></ul><ul><li>The Mind’s Guardian (Reticular Activating System) </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Your info filter – be careful what you give importance to </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Most negative values and beliefs are stored, through habitual repetition in our right-brains. You can “re-write” these with Self-Talk </li></ul>VALUES & BELIEFS

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Creative Visualization <ul><li>The Power of Visualization, Affirmations and Self-Talk to “Re-Write Your Beliefs” </li></ul><ul><li>Who you see in your imagination will always rule your world </li></ul>

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Self-Talk <ul><li>Self-Talk Statements Concerning Each Major Value, Goal or Core Belief </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Use Personal Pronouns (“I”, “mine”,”me”) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Present Tense </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Short and Concise </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Positive Goal Seeking, not Avoiding Negatives </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Non-competitive, don’t Compare to Others </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Strive for Improvement, not Perfection </li></ul></ul>VALUES & BELIEFS

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3: Time Management <ul><li>You Cannot Control Everything – Sometimes you Must Adapt, Roll with It </li></ul><ul><li>Think “Event Control”, not “Time Management” </li></ul>No Control Total Control Sunrise, Death, Boss Earthquakes, Tides Other people… What I Eat, What I Wear My Reaction to Events… GOALS

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Taking Control <ul><li>There are Events we Can NOT Control, but we Believe we can </li></ul><ul><ul><li>We Cannot Control what Other People Do! </li></ul></ul><ul><li>There are Events we CAN Control, but Believe we can’t </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Interruptions, Time Robbers, Procrastination… </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Being Busy vs. being Productive </li></ul><ul><li>Being “Efficient” vs. being “Effective” </li></ul>GOALS

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The 4 Quadrants of Time Mgt I III II IV Important Not Important Urgent Not Urgent GOALS

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Planning Properly <ul><li>Find a place that is free of distractions </li></ul><ul><li>Review the long-range goals – Put Big Rocks in First! </li></ul><ul><li>Make sure the number of tasks and time is achievable </li></ul><ul><li>Set specific daily goals for tasks </li></ul><ul><li>Prioritize your tasks </li></ul><ul><ul><li>List all your tasks – especially non-urgent ones! </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Give a Value to Each Item on the List (A important, B, C trivial) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Give a numerical Value to Prioritize (A2, B3…) </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Character is doing what you say you will do </li></ul><ul><li>Character is the ability to carry out a worthy decision after the emotion of making that decision has passed </li></ul>GOALS

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4: Responsibility <ul><li>Take ownership of our failures and weakness </li></ul><ul><li>We become what we do </li></ul><ul><li>Character cannot be counterfeited or put on and cast off like a garment </li></ul><ul><li>Our rewards depend on the quality and amount of work we put into it </li></ul><ul><li>Delay immediate gratification for long-term goals </li></ul>

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5: Self Control

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The 7 C’s of Self-Control <ul><li>We Control the Clock </li></ul><ul><li>We Control our Concepts </li></ul><ul><li>We Control our Contacts </li></ul><ul><li>We Control our Communication </li></ul><ul><li>We Control our Commitments </li></ul><ul><li>We Control our Causes </li></ul><ul><li>We Control our Concerns </li></ul>

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6: Adaptability <ul><li>These are “The Good Old Days” </li></ul><ul><li>Problems are Normal in any Era </li></ul><ul><li>Successful people develop Mental Toughness, Strength of Character and Adaptability </li></ul><ul><li>Stress is a Normal Part of Life </li></ul><ul><li>Many Types of Stress – It’s how you Take it that Counts </li></ul>

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7: Benevolence <ul><li>The World is your Oyster (What Pearl can you find today?) </li></ul><ul><li>The Explorer’s Premise </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Discover New Goals and </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Change Goals </li></ul></ul><ul><li>The Abundance Mentality </li></ul><ul><li>Think Win-Win </li></ul><ul><li>Be Nice to People! </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Take Time for Empathetic Listening </li></ul></ul>

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Greatness is Being Proactive HARMONY Self-Esteem Creative Visualization Time Management Responsibility Self-Control Adaptability Benevolence SUCCESS SKILLS VALUES & BELIEFS GOALS REALITY ACTIONS

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Personal Greatness <ul><li>Greatness is Ultimately about being Proactive </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Integrated Values, Beliefs, Goals and Actions </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Balanced Living </li></ul><ul><li>Greatness is a Journey, Not a Destination </li></ul><ul><li>You Always Get Out what You Put In </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Sow Seeds of Greatness! </li></ul></ul>