This slideshare will help you understand the importance of creating your own lifestyle and how to get other people approval.

1. HOW TO CREATE YOUR
OWN LIFESTYLE AND ALSO
GET OTHER PEOPLE
APPROVAL
Mykim Tran

2. INTRODUCTION
 Have you ever stop yourself from living
your own life because you are afraid what
other people might think of you?
 Do you sometimes have difficulty trusting
yourself and go with your instinct?
 If you answer yes to any of the questions,
then there are two main reasons why

3. FIRST REASON
• You believe that your decision has to match with
other people in order for you to think that your
decision is correct
• You believe that if on one agrees with you, then it
is wrong or not the best thing for you to do
• For example, many people believe that the
correct thing to do in life is to grow up, get
married and develop a family
• Even though at some point you might not want to
get married or develop a family, you are likely to
get married and develop a family because you
believe that it is what you are suppose to do
because that is what everyone else is doing

4. NOT NORMAL
• You believe that if you do not get married at a
certain age, then there is something wrong with
you
• Even though getting married might be the right
thing for you, but that does not mean you have to
get married at the same age range as everyone
else
• You have to remember that each of us is ready
for things at different times

5. SECOND REASON
• You cannot control your two human being needs
• First, you have the human need to feel belonged
and accepted by other people
• Acceptance usually begins through similarities
• In this case, if you have a different lifestyle than
other people, then they will not accept you
• The second human need is to live a meaningful
lifestyle
• However, creating and living your own lifestyle
can only exist when you follow your path

6. CREATING YOUR OWN LIFESTYLE
• When you try to develop your own lifestyle, you
tend to suffer a bit because your human need to
be accepted is not being meant because what you
are doing is different from everyone else
• And then, that suffering might influence you to
stop on creating your own lifestyle to try to blend
in with everyone else in order to be accepted
• When you start to blend in with everyone else,
you will also suffer because you are not meeting
your human need to develop a meaningful
lifestyle for yourself
• As a result, you are fighting with yourself
between your two human needs

7. HOW TO FULFILL YOUR HUMAN
NEEDS
• You can successfully fulfill both of your
human needs if you know how to approach
and control them in the correct way
• Since it is difficult to fulfill both of your
human needs at the same time at the
beginning, you want to focus only on one
human need at a time

8. FOCUS ON CREATING A
MEANINGFUL LIFESTYLE
• The human need that you should focus on
is to develop a meaningful lifestyle
• As a human being, your human need to
develop a meaningful lifestyle is more
important that will bring you more
happiness than achieving your human
need to belonged and accepted

9. FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIFESTYLE
 As you focus and develop your own
lifestyle, your human need of belonging
and acceptance will also be fulfilled later
on.
 When you are persistence with your own
lifestyle, sooner or later people will start
to accept you because they will get used to
your lifestyle; even though they might not
like what you are doing.

10. GETTING OTHER PEOPLE
ACCEPTANCE
 As human beings, people do not like to
stay mad or feel uncomfortable when they
are around you.
 In this case, when people realize that you
will not change your lifestyle for anyone,
then they have no other choice, but to
accept your lifestyle in order to feel better.
 No one wants to feel uncomfortable.

11. BE PATIENCE AND PERSISTENCE
 Like anything else, it takes time to develop and
build a meaningful lifestyle that will get other
people acceptance.
 You have to learn how to control your human
need of acceptance when other people are
denying you, so you can move forward and
develop your own lifestyle.
 As you develop your own lifestyle, your
fulfillment will get stronger that will help you
control your human being need to be accepted.

12. TAKE CAUTION
 Do not think that you will first try to fulfill your human
need of acceptance and then develop your own lifestyle.
 When you try to get other people approval at the
beginning before you create your own lifestyle, it will be
very difficult for you to create your own lifestyle
afterward.
 When you do not have a stable lifestyle for yourself, it is
easier to be influenced by other people when you are not
clear on what you want.
 Before you know it, you will develop a similar lifestyle
as other people.

13. ACTION STEPS
 1. Write down how you would like to live
your life. List down every area of your life,
personal, private, public, and etc.
 2. Only take action steps that move you
toward to the lifestyle that you would like
to develop and live.

14. ACTION STEPS
 3. List down all of the people who do not
encourage and accept you when you develop your
own lifestyle.
 And then stay away from them as much as
possible.
 When you are strong enough to control your
human being need to be accepted, then you can
start being around them if you like.

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