A presentation I gave for International Women's Day on how and why women apologize for things that they shouldn't.

1. No Apologies
Presented by Molly Quell
International Women’s Day 2013
8 March 2013

2. Who Am I?
Social Media and Online Marketing Consultant
www.mollyquell.com
@mollyrene
Freelancer for 5 years
Business owner for 3 years
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3. International Women’s Day 2013
2013 Theme: The Gender Agenda: Gaining
Momentum
“Over time and distance, the equal rights of
women have progressed. We celebrate the
achievements of women while remaining
vigilant and tenacious for further sustainable
change. There is global momentum for
championing women's equality.”
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4. Inequality
• Women spending almost twice much time on
household chores.
• Women earn, on average, 30% less than men.
• Women are more likely to suffer from
depression than men.
• Women suffer at higher rates of eating and
anxiety disorders.
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5. No Apologies
Society teaches women
– to apologize
– to be agreeable
– to not make a fuss
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6. Your (Lack Of) Children
When are you having children?
Not having children is selfish.
Having too many children is selfish.
You’ll feel differently once you have children.
When are you having your next child?
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7. Your Body
Should you eat that?
You’d be prettier if you smiled more.
When do you have the
time to work out?
Is that normal?
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8. Your Work
Stay-at-home Women with
mom isn’t a real children should be
job. at home with their
children.
You can only do that because
your partner makes enough <Insert career here>
money. isn’t a real job.
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9. Your Sex Life
Good girls don’t do that.
If you don’t do this, your partner will leave you.
That <sexual act> isn’t natural.
There’s something wrong with people who like <sexual act>.
You haven’t had sex since when?
If you have sex x times per
week/month/year, something is wrong.
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10. Your Relationship
You don’t want to die alone.
You should stay with your partner.
You should leave your partner.
Your partner is too good for you.
You’re too good for your partner.
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11. Your Financial Situation
You should save more.
Wow, you must make a lot of money.
You shouldn’t spend money on that.
How can you afford that dress?
We don’t make enough to afford that.
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12. Your Social Life
You should save more.
Wow, you must make a lot of money.
You need to get out more.
You go out a lot.
You always just want to spend You drink too much.
time with your partner/kids/dog.
You should drink more.
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13. Your Education Level
You only have a <insert degree here>?
Your parents must have paid for your school.
You’re doing this job with a <insert degree here>?
Why did you stop at a <insert degree here>?
Shouldn’t you have a <insert degree here> to be doing that?
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14. Your Taste In Movies,
Books, Food, TV, Clothing, Furniture
That movie was terrible!
You always look so put together.
That’s such an odd <piece of furniture>.
Ugh, how could you read that?
Only dumb people watch that TV show.
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15. For Not Apologizing
That’s rude.
Well...I see.
And you’re ok with that?
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16. How To Not Apologize
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17. Moving Forward
There is a special place in hell for
women who don't help other women.
Madeleine Albright
(US Ambassador to the UN, Secretary of State)
Well-behaved women seldom make history.
Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
(Pulitzer Prize winning author and Professor at Harvard University)
The most common way people give up their
power is by thinking they don’t have any.
Alice Walker (author, poet, activist)
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18. Contact Info
My Contact Info
Website: www.mollyquell.com
Blog: www.neamhspleachas.com
LinkedIn: http://nl.linkedin.com/in/mollyquell
Twitter: @mollyrene
Facebook: www.facebook.com/mollyquell
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