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Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer   Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed                    Page 1 of 10


Michael: Hi. It's Michael Gravette. It's a real treat to have Lee Milteer on the call
tonight. I've asked Lee to help me out with a problem that most of my distributors have
and that's feeling overwhelmed. I've always had a patented response to that when
someone would say they're feeling overwhelmed and I would just tell them to take action,
do something. And you'll stop feeling overwhelmed.

But I realized that's a very simplistic approach or very simplistic advice. So I think Lee
will be able to give some better insight into that. Lee I have a couple questions for you
about this subject. Are you ready for this first question?

Lee: I am.

Michael: Okay. The first question – what is the biggest thing you see today that causes
small business owners and entrepreneurs to become overwhelmed in their businesses?

Lee: Well Michael that's a fabulous question because I would say that entrepreneurs take
on so much information at the same time. We are wired to always be going forward and
a lot of entrepreneurs keep taking on information without what I call editing in their brain
what is appropriate information to be using mentally, physically and emotionally. And
they just keep hammering at their business.

So what I like to do is kind of break down for you today some things that all of us as
entrepreneurs and your distributors can do and some of these are common sense and
some of these might stretch your mind a little bit. But the first thing that I want to talk
about is the psychological thing that we as entrepreneurs, business owners have to do
deal with. We have to face reality that our general society is programming us to be into
massive fear. The word 'fear,' a great definition of the word 'fear' is fantasize experiences
appearing real. So Michael on an average day we are exposed to over 3,000 messages,
commercial messages, news messages through everything now. Everything is so wired to
be connected to what's going on in the world. But the media's message is we're all going
to hell in a hand basket but life as we know it is deteriorating, disintegrating, there is no
hope, we don't know what to do with our money. We have lost hope about the
weightings of the United States, where our future is going to be.

Now on a subconscious level this kind of poison in your veins message to us as
entrepreneurs every single day is the death of us. It is stressing us out. It is causing us to
feel fear. It is causing us to doubt ourselves. It is causing us to not have the confidence
to take the risk and use our skills and our abilities like we should be using them. I like to
use the word 'should' but it's appropriate here.

I am going to ask people who are listening to this to consider a drastic measure of going
on and testing for yourself what I call a media diet. And Michael as you well know with
my Millionaire Smarts program and also as a coach, and I've been a coach for many,
many years. I do a lot of one-on-one coaching. When I deal with entrepreneurs who feel
overwhelmed this is one of the first things that I ask them to do is I go, "Look I know you
feel like you have to be in touch." And there is a certain amount of being in touch with
reality that you have to be. However, you can skim the newspaper in the morning and
found out what you need to know every day. You do not have to read about that the
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problems in Europe. You do not have to read about the rapes and the murder and the war
and the predictions of the economic, people, who by the way, have no idea what they're
talking about. And you don't have to read that stuff. And I invite you to envision this
picture. Every time you subject yourself to this news you are literally taking money out
of your pocket. You are bleeding money onto the ground. If you can picture that. And
the reason I want you to picture that is because every time you insert new references in
your brain that life is going to hell and you're being busted by reality, you withdraw a
little bit. Your creativity shrivels. Your creativity dies. Your desire to take risks goes
away because you feel like there are mountains in front of you instead of rolling hills.

Now we are addicted to the drama of what's going on. We have been programmed since
birth by the media to be programmed like this. I am a person who when I realize that I
start to feel very overwhelmed and scared about life and tentative that I am allowing the
outside world to determine what my inside is happening. Meaning, I wrote a book, as
you well know, called Success is an Inside Job. The reason I wrote that book is because
success is an inside job. It is the internal thoughts that you have, the choices that you
make of the quality of information that you put into your brain. So I challenge to check
out for yourself how the media is affecting you.

So if you would for the next 21 days, it only takes 21 days to 30 days to create a new
habit, deliberately start to limit all of your external media. Only give yourself that
absolute what I must have. So for some of you guys you've got to know the sports news.
Perfectly okay. You got to know what the weather is. Perfectly okay. Unless you're
watching weather in another city or country that has nothing to do with yours then it's
perfectly okay. You're the first to laugh at that Michael.

Michael: No kidding.

Lee: If you want to go check your stocks, God bless you, but that's perfectly okay. But
stay away from the economic gloom and doom. If you will do this for 30 days, and by
the way, never, never, never, never, never, never, never, and I mean that, ever watch the
news late at night because you see your subconscious is awake 24 hours a day and when
you watch the news and then go to bed it's like it stirs the pot. Then you don't understand
why you wake up in the morning with a less than enthusiastic attitude towards the day.
You've literally just poured poison in your brain, your soul, psyche and it's stupid to do
this. And yet this is how average people live and they controlled by the external.

The most successful entrepreneurs of all time, the most successful, profitable people are
people who are internally driven first, meaning that they control the caliber of
information that goes in their brain. They are aware that there's external things. But
what you focus on expands and the more you focus on how terrible things are by
watching the news that means automatically that a lot of conversations with other people,
your loved ones, your friends, your neighbors, your staff, is going to drift into how bad
things are.

Your job as an entrepreneur, if you really want to conquer this feeling of overwhelm, if
you have got to remove an element that is causing the majority of the overwhelm, the
element of fear of the future.

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Before Michael and I got on this call today we had a nice little 45 minute catch up chat
and one of the things that we talk about is the fact that we always land on our feet. I
joked with him that I land on my butt occasionally but I get back on my feet and I keep
going. I always have. And my belief, and this is another important aspect, I have built
into my belief systems, which by the way I had to program myself. I didn't get it from
society and I did it get from parents or anybody around me. But one of my belief systems
is I will always be successful. I will do whatever it takes to be successful. I have
bounced off my butt but I get back on my feet and I become strong again.

But nothing can hold me down, not the economy, not external circumstances. The only
thing that holds me down is my inability to discern the difference between external events
and my internal decision to excel. And I just want to share with you, and if you've
listened to me for any length of time you know that I'm big in this, that you have to
substitute those areas. See when you want to break a habit in life you can't just break a
habit. You have to substitute something else in, something positive. And so you now,
your challenge is is to not just hear this recording. Go, "Oh that was nice and she's
absolutely right." And then you absolutely do nothing about it. You've got to seriously
look at your life and say, "Yeah she is right and I need to make some very serious
changes." I need to stop reading the newspaper and poisoning myself, stop listening to
the news on the way to my office or in my car. I need to cut off the TV and all this
information overload. And I need to now go back to basics. I need to, when I first
started my career and Michael I'm sure you did this. I know I did it, is I went and read
every book I could find that was encouraging. The Think and Grow Rich, The Magic of
Believing, you can read my book, Success is an Inside Job, anything and everything that
is inspiring, encouraging and gives you hope.

You see when you have hope you have the path to success. Our media has killed our
hope. It's killed that spark of divinity within us that we have everything we need within
ourselves to deal with any challenges. You always have, you will always have. And
you've got to substitute the news for listening to the Millionaire Smarts in your car every
single month or anybody who motivates you. Michael I'm sure you've seen it today that
motivational speakers are almost laughed at sometimes.

Michael: Right.

Lee: And this is a crime because nobody can motivate you but you. That's absolutely
true. However, the quality and the caliber of information that you put in your brain
determines the quality and caliber of decisions you make. And the people that you
associate with, the old saying, which who knows who to give this credit to because
everybody's claimed it and it's five people that you associate with determines who you
are.

But I have not, in the beginning of my career, I didn't get hang around with Zig Ziglar
and Tony Robbins and Wayne Dyer or anybody who motivates you but I could hang
around them every day in my car or on my tape player or any kind of electronic device
that you have at that moment. And I deliberately associate myself with big thinkers.
People who have the ability to take you out of that small thinking, that tentative reality
that you're living in, into live big, play hard, go for it, do the right thing.

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And the reason I'm making such a big deal out of this is because these are very small
changes. They are easily made today. It's not like you have to revamp your office or
create a new system. It's a really mindset of what am I willing to do right now to change
the caliber of information of thoughts that I have in my brain? Again what you focus on
expands.

If you focus on how bad things appear to be, what you're missing is part of the picture.
You see yes there are people, the poverty level has gone down in the United States and
there are people who are poor and there are people who are occupying stuff and there are
people who are doing this, that and the other. And there are people who are kicking ass,
taking names, making millions of dollars. So you got to ask yourself, where do I want to
be here? Because you're choosing sides with your thinking.

And the other prospect I want you to think about is one of the things that I do in my life is
I kind of analyze things. For example, I'm starting a new coaching program, which
Michael and I have just talked about. It's called Implementation Coaching. And I'm only
taking about a hundred people in that program. And so I was with all these other coaches
recently and they were talking about, "Oh you know things are bad and people aren't
signing up for coaching programs." And I said to them, "You know I read in the paper
the other day, because I do scan the newspaper for good stuff, but the seven billionth
person had been born in the world. And out of the seven billion people I'm only for a
hundred, okay? I should say I should be able to find a damn hundred people out of the
seven billion to be part of my program." Can you feel and see the difference in the shift,
in the reality that you put yourself in when you reframe in your mind the importance of
things and what you're feeding your brain? You see what has been feeding your brain is
the gloom and doom. You've got to put a big stop on that. You've got to stop that today
and I mean that with my heart and soul. You cannot hang around people who talk about
gloom and doom. You just gradually fade away from them.

You cannot talk at yourself. You see the most, if you look at history, the most powerful
people on earth throughout history have been speakers. They are the teachers. They are
the story tellers and you must aligns yourself with those storytellers and those speakers
who speak to you the information that stirs your soul, that stirs your creativity, that stirs
your excitement about being an entrepreneur again because you've lost that passion if
you're in overwhelm.

I could tell you a lot of books to read but the truth is you probably have most of them on
your shelf right now. The resources you need are probably right at your fingertips. And
you have to give yourself permission at this time to start using those resources to change
the mindset that you have from overwhelm, stressed, I don't know what to do to I am
clear, I am focused, I am using my mental, physical, emotional and spiritual and financial
life energy effectively and efficiently. And I give myself permission that when I fall off
the wagon that I will get right back on the wagon.

And so that is, Michael, really the first thing that every single person that's listening to
this can do and they can do it today.

Michael: All right. I'm looking through my questions I have. I think you already
answered like four of them that I had down here already with that one answer. Tied into
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all this and what you've said will apply to what I'm asking you here but in more specific
when it comes to actually managing stress, see I personally, I believe in right breathing. I
believe in practice meditation and a lot of people don't like to talk about those aspects of
life. But could you talk about that a little bit where you can actually, the physical things
you can actually do to help control your stress.

Lee: Absolutely. Again that's programming. You see a lot of programming some of us
got maybe in church or in society was that everything in life is thinking. I'm going to say
that you have five kinds of energy. You have mental energy, which is thinking. You
have emotional energy, which is feeling. You have spiritual energy. You have financial
energy. And you literally every day the physical energy is you control your physical
energy. So if you're having a lot of stress one of the very first things that happens when
people are in stress is they shallow breathe. And whether you are in the doctor's office or
there's a medical tech around you or in any emergency one of the very first things that
everybody tries to get you to do is to do deep diaphragm breathing because what
breathing does is bring oxygen to your bloodstream, which relaxes you. It takes oxygen
and brings to your brain, which gives you more resourceful thinking.

So if we just take all the spiritual woo woo stuff out of breathing and stress and we really
just do it from a physical point-of-view, ever since we were kids everybody always heard
if you're mad count to 10 and breathe deeply. Well there's a couple reasons for that, one,
it keeps you from using your mouth, which causes more stress. And secondly, is for
hundreds of years, thousands of years there's much research done about the simple act of
breathing. I know that if I find myself afraid or scared or I'm nervous about something if
I will just stop and focus on my breathing for a few seconds I just calm right down.

Michael I've been speaking on stage for over 20 years. I've done a lot of television and
do know, and people think that you lose nervousness. You don't. If you're a good
speaker you never lose your nervousness. In fact, if you do lose your nervousness you're
not going to be good. You need that energy. But before I go on stage I literally, I have to
do deep breathing. It calms me. It makes me focused. It takes energy to my brain. It
makes me think clearly. The breathe of life is the most important thing that you can do
when you're stressed.

The other things that you can do is just when you're stressed about something, and I we
all get stressed. I'll give you an example. This morning my computer crashed. I mean
like really today. I really needed that computer today. And I felt a little stressed. And
then I remembered, I just breathed a couple of times, one, it's got some kind of warranty
thing on it. And two, I have a backup system. Everything that's on that computer is on
something in the sky somewhere, an iCloud thing somewhere. Everything on it. So I
have lost nothing but maybe a couple of hours of somebody's going to have to come in
here, bring a new computer and hook it up.

Instead of me falling apart part of the reason I'm not going to be really stressed about that
is something all of us as entrepreneurs need to do, is we need to preventive stress
behavior. So for anyone who doesn't have some kind of back system to your computer
you're just asking for stress. For anyone who doesn't have backup systems for everything
it's not a matter if things are going to go down, it's a matter of when they're going to go
down.
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It's like your car. If you get a vehicle you're going to be stressed out if somebody dings
it. Again it's not matter of if it gets dinged, it's a matter of when it's going to get dinged.
I used to have a friend who used to say, he'd get a new car. He'd immediately put a small
ding in it. And I said, "Why?" He said, "I know I have no stress over the car anymore."
He said, "We go put a little ding in the car and it's already got a ding it and I'm good to
go." Now I thought that was stupid and insane but it worked for him. But it is kind of an
interesting philosophy.

And the other thing is about stress, Michael, is we have all this fabulous gut feelings,
intuition, instincts, whatever you want to call it. There's a guiding force within us. When
you have little nagging thoughts, which most of you will probably describe as worry,
what they really are is hints that there's a possible weak link in your fence. You're only
as strong as your weakest link. So if you only have one person in your office that works
for you, one is a very bad number and you have little nagging thoughts, "Well would
happen to the business or my assistant or if she gets hit by a bus or runs off with
somebody and doesn't show up?" When you have those the most intelligent thing you
could do is not to worry about them but to literally stop, acknowledge that oh I'm getting
information about a weak link in my world. I need to do something about that now
before that weak link breaks. Does that make sense?

Michael: Yes. In fact that ties into another question I had because one of the things that
always gave me stress was trying to do everything myself because it's so hard sometimes
to let go of certain things. But as I started to delegate more and more I feel the stress
getting less and less. And I've learned a lot from you and Dan Kennedy about this. Can
you elaborate a little bit on how to manage delegation?

Lee: Well I am very proud to say that I am a fabulous delegator. In fact I'm sure you've
seen me do this Michael. When I have taught this I say, "I'm a pointer." I walk in the
office and start pointing at things that need to be done. I am the born queen of pointing.
And I love it. And the reason I love it is because I learned a very young age I am only
good at a couple of things in life.

Michael: And one is pointing.

Lee: And one is pointing, absolutely. The other one is I'm a great talker. I'm a great
communicator. I'm very good at that and this is the secret all entrepreneurs need to
understand. Your ability to make money is directly tied to your natural skills and that 80
to 90% of all of your time needs to be focused on that narrow band of things that you do
with massive excellence. That is the engine of your business. Everything else needs to
be delegated and outsourced and then just reviewed.

And I have been able to grow my business far, far beyond, at least 95% of the other
people who went into business at the same time I did, at the same kind of things that I do
because they try to be all things to all people. They try to do their books. They try to do
their websites. They try to do all their copywriting. They're trying to do all things.

I have a big sign up in my office that you should have in your office and that is – follow
the money. Follow the money. The reason I say that is all the other stuff is just stuff. So
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the office being pretty. The office even being neat. All this stuff that has to be done, yes
it has to be done but the most important thing that you can do is to make sure that you
have people around you who understand that the engine of your business is the money
that comes in and the clients and customers that you have, that everything else is
secondary.

So if there's an order that comes into my office literally that has priority over everything
else, everything. Everything from lunch to everything. Orders coming in, we get an
order out within 24 hours. We do that for a lot of reasons because one, a lot of people
order something then change their mind. They have buyer's remorse or something. So
let's get that order out. Let's get it to them right away. Let's do a little bit more extra than
they expected. Let's be really friendly. And we're a real, real company. You can call us
on the phone and get us. You can stop by. God forbid but you can. It's a real building.
You can find us. And our whole concept of reality is that we want to make our customers
experience be so pleasant and so enjoyable that they recommend us and they come back
to us.

But all that happens Michael because I hire the right people. I delegate. I tell them what
I want. I've created systems for them to follow. I have an accountability process that
each and every one of them does for me. I double check their work but I don't do the
work. One, I'm the worst at doing books. The worst. But I know how to look at the
books. I know when we're in profit. I believe that if you do not have a really strong
ability to delegate, review what they've done and by the way you can't be one of these
people when you delegate something that it's a like a dictator of you'll do it this way. If
you've hired the right people what you want to do is tell them the end results that you
want to accomplish. And if it's something really new and something delicate that you
really have to pay attention to you might ask them, "Okay how would you do this and
how you will you enact on this and bring completion to this?" And then you can fine
tune it but you've got to give them, it's like running a horse. You got to give them their
head a little bit. You give them their boundaries, their perimeters, what they can and
cannot do but then give them the ability to do that.

And also there has to be a reward system. You seen when you delegate something to
someone people are all motivated by different things. As entrepreneurs we're motivated
by money. It's pretty flat for money for most of us. But for our staff they're not always
motivated by money. Many times they're motivated by being acknowledged for a good
job, little bonuses. There's a million things that you can do if you pay attention how to
reward your staff for running the business like you.

And the first things that you have to do is you do have to train them to think like an
owner and we have to be brutal here. If they have the ability before they work for you to
think like an owner they would be an owner. They are not as capable as you are to think
in the big picture. And Michael we could talk about for hours and hours about the
capabilities of people but I do I want to share with you when you do delegate that you
have do have to take into consideration their capabilities. You cannot expect certain
people, like I just hired this little 20 year old gal who's just right out of school. I know
that she is only capable of what we call grunt work. Load stuff into the computer, fulfill
orders, mail stuff out, do inventory. That's all she's capable of. I can't expect her to be
capable if a customer calls to get on the phone to explain my hundred and some products
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to them in detail. She's not capable. She's not been trained. She's not capable. So we
have to be realistic about delegating to people but you also want to think about
outsourcing.

I outsource so much stuff it's kind of mind boggling and I'm a collector of outsources,
that whenever I go to any of events where other people do what I do I am an interviewer.
I always ask people questions, "Well who's doing this duplication for you? Who is doing
copywriting for you? Where are you getting your conference call people from? Tell me
about those." So I'm always, always gathering, gathering outsource information. So
when I have the need to have something done and I know it's going to over task, over
stress my existing team I have the ability to outsource. And by the way I'm a big believer
of hire slow and fire fast. And if anybody's ever seen my staff I go through them because
I'm willing to let people who are not good go because it's too stressful for me.

Over the years I have created a lot of systems and, Michael and I we just talked about
this, most of the entrepreneurs I know are the worst trainers to their own staff that I've
ever seen. It's sort of like hire people and here's the job, figure it out. And most of you
should be laughing about that because it's so pathetically true and the reason it's true is
because we are the visionary, the engines in our business. We create the picture but we
hate the minutia, the details. I want to get this done but oh my God I don't want to make
those 12 phone calls to get it done. The people we hire have to be able to do that. And
you also, let's face it, if you really want to a well oiled machine in your business you've
got to train your staff.

Michael is going to give you a link on a brand new product I have created that I went
with my top staff people and myself for over 20 years and we went and listened to all
these entrepreneurs about what their entrepreneurial assistants needed. And I literally
created the complete entrepreneurs assistance training program. Very inexpensive. It's at
Milteer.com, M-I-L-T-E-E-R. If you identify yourself as a Millionaire Smarts and
Michael Gravette customers they'll be a big discount for you. So I highly recommend
that you consider something like this for your existing staff and also for your future staff.
It's very evergreen. I traveled a hundred cities a year doing public seminars for six
straight years. And because I was gone so much out of survival every time there was a
new thing that happened in my world I created a system and forms on how my assistants,
my staff, my team should handle it. We created office meetings. We created our office
book on okay Lee's not here. We don't know what the heck to do about this. You go
look it up in the manual, the office manual on what to do.

So you will have to jury-rig it a little bit to your own business and adapt it a little bit just
to make these forms work for you but it would save you a massive amount of hard ache,
time in your future when you're dealing with your staff. But I do want to say this, most
of your staff that has good intentions, they want to please you but you have to give them
the tools to do that and it's a two way street. You really have to participate in delegating
in a very intelligent way that they can then take your directions and fulfill them because
as an entrepreneur and a distributor you can only grow as fast as you and your staff can
deal with it.

And so you have to have your systems set up so that the growth of your business flows
easily instead of it becoming all bottle necked and then all of a sudden you grow and
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you're not prepared to grow and then you mess up with your customers and your clients
and you create ill will and you lose those people that you have spent so much time and
money courting, as I like to call them. Does that answer your question?

Michael: Yeah. And real quick to add to this, it seems like a lot of people are reluctant
to do this, to get help is because they think that as long as they're doing it it's for free and
that's because they don't put any value on their time. Can you speak to that just for a
second?

Lee: Oh gosh yes, Michael. That's a fabulous observation. Every person listening to this
you need to sit down and assign an amount of money of what you are worth an hour.
And Michael you hit the nail perfectly on the head when you said, "It's free." That's
bullshit. It's not free. Your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual and financial
energy are tied up into that.

In all my coaching groups I always tell people you've got to figure out exactly what your
time is worth. Now I'm not suggesting that you put too high a value on it but I am
suggesting you put a high enough value on it that you have a benchmark. I'll give you an
example, years ago I was in radio sales. I was like 22 years old. I'm in radio sales. I got
myself a housekeeper. And I remember people around me were like, "What the hell is
wrong with you? What do you need a housekeeper for?" And I said, "Well, one, I am
not the greatest domestic goddess person there ever was. Secondly, I can go out in my
commission and I can go make a lot more money in that four or six hours that
housekeeper's there and then pay her and have money leftover instead of me doing stuff I
don't like, I'm not good at it, I don't want to do. So whether it's cutting grass, whether it is
painting your garage or anything you do in your life you've got to analyze what is the
trade off? Is it worth me using my mental, physical, emotional energy on doing this? Or
would it be much better for me to take my skills, expertise, knowledge and wisdom go
out and make money?

You see if you really think about it cutting your own grass, unless you love to cut grass,
is costing you money. Because you as the creator of your life could be expanding your
business. You could be writing copy or you could be doing things that actually bring
income into you versus you expending physical, mental and emotional energy doing
things you don’t really like to do.

Now some people, Michael, are so what I call tight about life. They don't want to spend
the money but those are people who will always be really tiny entrepreneurs. They'll
never break into what I call serious money. Because they're not thinking like that.
They're thinking very small, very tight. The most important resource in your whole life is
your time. You have 1,440 minutes of every day and if you're using your time doing
things that are not income producing or remember follow the money, then you're literally
wasting your resources of why you're being self-employed and a distributor to begin
with.

In my home when anybody, I'm married, so if my home, people want me to do something
I don't want to do I go, "That's not my job. My job is to make money." I'm serious.
Absolutely. That is my job. My job is to make money. All this other stuff you can
handle that.
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Now people are going this is not the woman's normal perspective of life. But I can make
more money in a day than I can then if I'm trying to cook and clean and take care of the
house and doing all the things that society expects of me. One, I'm not good at that stuff.
Two, I've never done that stuff. Three, I'm never going to do that stuff. That is not my
job. My job is to be the visionary of my creation. I can hire housekeepers. I can go out
to dinner. But I can't waste my life's energy doing things that I can hire someone else to
do for a very small amount of money, now, unless I like to do those things. I think that's
pretty brutal.

Michael: Yep. All right Lee. I just realized God we've been on this call almost 45
minutes and I don't want to take up too much more of your time. And you've given us so
much to think about and to chew on here. In fact, I can't tell you how much I appreciate
this and how much my distributors are going to appreciate it. So thank you so much for
this call.

Lee: Oh my pleasure Michael. And I do want to leave you with this thought. Your
future is determined, everybody on the call here today, your future is really determined
with the integrity of your thinking and your time management. So a couple little things
before we go. One, I want you to consider that your time, you have a clear thought of
what your time is worth. That you don't just be a rescuer to other people. Don't make
their problems your problems. Be very aware that every single day you are the provider,
you're the alpha of your business. You are the one providing jobs and skills and products
for other people. Your real job in life is to have integrity with concept of you are the
visionary of your business and that you must control the caliber of information that
comes into your brain, so you can have clear thinking. You must control your time. You
must not allow yourself to be open to anybody and everybody who thinks they want you.

If you're interested in time management I have a fabulous program at Milteer.com called
Banishing Time and Energy Vampires: The Essentials of Productivity and
Implementation. If you want to be in a coaching group I have all kinds of those
available. I highly recommend that you take the Millionaire Smarts program each month
and not only listen to it yourself but also distribute the reports and the transcript of the
presentation and the topic each month to your top people, maybe even to your kids. If
you have teenagers if you gave them this kind of information you would be giving them
gifts of success in the future that are far beyond anything the school system teaches them.

And that you would also, if you share the information among yourself, your family and
your staff, your team so to speak you'll all be on the same page of what I call right
productive, profitable thinking. So thank you so much for having me on.

Michael: Thank you Lee. And I'll talk to you soon.

Lee: I hope so. Thank you.

Michael: Okay, bye-bye.



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Dealing With Feeling Overwhelmed

  • 1. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 1 of 10 Michael: Hi. It's Michael Gravette. It's a real treat to have Lee Milteer on the call tonight. I've asked Lee to help me out with a problem that most of my distributors have and that's feeling overwhelmed. I've always had a patented response to that when someone would say they're feeling overwhelmed and I would just tell them to take action, do something. And you'll stop feeling overwhelmed. But I realized that's a very simplistic approach or very simplistic advice. So I think Lee will be able to give some better insight into that. Lee I have a couple questions for you about this subject. Are you ready for this first question? Lee: I am. Michael: Okay. The first question – what is the biggest thing you see today that causes small business owners and entrepreneurs to become overwhelmed in their businesses? Lee: Well Michael that's a fabulous question because I would say that entrepreneurs take on so much information at the same time. We are wired to always be going forward and a lot of entrepreneurs keep taking on information without what I call editing in their brain what is appropriate information to be using mentally, physically and emotionally. And they just keep hammering at their business. So what I like to do is kind of break down for you today some things that all of us as entrepreneurs and your distributors can do and some of these are common sense and some of these might stretch your mind a little bit. But the first thing that I want to talk about is the psychological thing that we as entrepreneurs, business owners have to do deal with. We have to face reality that our general society is programming us to be into massive fear. The word 'fear,' a great definition of the word 'fear' is fantasize experiences appearing real. So Michael on an average day we are exposed to over 3,000 messages, commercial messages, news messages through everything now. Everything is so wired to be connected to what's going on in the world. But the media's message is we're all going to hell in a hand basket but life as we know it is deteriorating, disintegrating, there is no hope, we don't know what to do with our money. We have lost hope about the weightings of the United States, where our future is going to be. Now on a subconscious level this kind of poison in your veins message to us as entrepreneurs every single day is the death of us. It is stressing us out. It is causing us to feel fear. It is causing us to doubt ourselves. It is causing us to not have the confidence to take the risk and use our skills and our abilities like we should be using them. I like to use the word 'should' but it's appropriate here. I am going to ask people who are listening to this to consider a drastic measure of going on and testing for yourself what I call a media diet. And Michael as you well know with my Millionaire Smarts program and also as a coach, and I've been a coach for many, many years. I do a lot of one-on-one coaching. When I deal with entrepreneurs who feel overwhelmed this is one of the first things that I ask them to do is I go, "Look I know you feel like you have to be in touch." And there is a certain amount of being in touch with reality that you have to be. However, you can skim the newspaper in the morning and found out what you need to know every day. You do not have to read about that the www.safetytechnology.com Page 1 of 10
  • 2. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 2 of 10 problems in Europe. You do not have to read about the rapes and the murder and the war and the predictions of the economic, people, who by the way, have no idea what they're talking about. And you don't have to read that stuff. And I invite you to envision this picture. Every time you subject yourself to this news you are literally taking money out of your pocket. You are bleeding money onto the ground. If you can picture that. And the reason I want you to picture that is because every time you insert new references in your brain that life is going to hell and you're being busted by reality, you withdraw a little bit. Your creativity shrivels. Your creativity dies. Your desire to take risks goes away because you feel like there are mountains in front of you instead of rolling hills. Now we are addicted to the drama of what's going on. We have been programmed since birth by the media to be programmed like this. I am a person who when I realize that I start to feel very overwhelmed and scared about life and tentative that I am allowing the outside world to determine what my inside is happening. Meaning, I wrote a book, as you well know, called Success is an Inside Job. The reason I wrote that book is because success is an inside job. It is the internal thoughts that you have, the choices that you make of the quality of information that you put into your brain. So I challenge to check out for yourself how the media is affecting you. So if you would for the next 21 days, it only takes 21 days to 30 days to create a new habit, deliberately start to limit all of your external media. Only give yourself that absolute what I must have. So for some of you guys you've got to know the sports news. Perfectly okay. You got to know what the weather is. Perfectly okay. Unless you're watching weather in another city or country that has nothing to do with yours then it's perfectly okay. You're the first to laugh at that Michael. Michael: No kidding. Lee: If you want to go check your stocks, God bless you, but that's perfectly okay. But stay away from the economic gloom and doom. If you will do this for 30 days, and by the way, never, never, never, never, never, never, never, and I mean that, ever watch the news late at night because you see your subconscious is awake 24 hours a day and when you watch the news and then go to bed it's like it stirs the pot. Then you don't understand why you wake up in the morning with a less than enthusiastic attitude towards the day. You've literally just poured poison in your brain, your soul, psyche and it's stupid to do this. And yet this is how average people live and they controlled by the external. The most successful entrepreneurs of all time, the most successful, profitable people are people who are internally driven first, meaning that they control the caliber of information that goes in their brain. They are aware that there's external things. But what you focus on expands and the more you focus on how terrible things are by watching the news that means automatically that a lot of conversations with other people, your loved ones, your friends, your neighbors, your staff, is going to drift into how bad things are. Your job as an entrepreneur, if you really want to conquer this feeling of overwhelm, if you have got to remove an element that is causing the majority of the overwhelm, the element of fear of the future. www.safetytechnology.com Page 2 of 10
  • 3. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 3 of 10 Before Michael and I got on this call today we had a nice little 45 minute catch up chat and one of the things that we talk about is the fact that we always land on our feet. I joked with him that I land on my butt occasionally but I get back on my feet and I keep going. I always have. And my belief, and this is another important aspect, I have built into my belief systems, which by the way I had to program myself. I didn't get it from society and I did it get from parents or anybody around me. But one of my belief systems is I will always be successful. I will do whatever it takes to be successful. I have bounced off my butt but I get back on my feet and I become strong again. But nothing can hold me down, not the economy, not external circumstances. The only thing that holds me down is my inability to discern the difference between external events and my internal decision to excel. And I just want to share with you, and if you've listened to me for any length of time you know that I'm big in this, that you have to substitute those areas. See when you want to break a habit in life you can't just break a habit. You have to substitute something else in, something positive. And so you now, your challenge is is to not just hear this recording. Go, "Oh that was nice and she's absolutely right." And then you absolutely do nothing about it. You've got to seriously look at your life and say, "Yeah she is right and I need to make some very serious changes." I need to stop reading the newspaper and poisoning myself, stop listening to the news on the way to my office or in my car. I need to cut off the TV and all this information overload. And I need to now go back to basics. I need to, when I first started my career and Michael I'm sure you did this. I know I did it, is I went and read every book I could find that was encouraging. The Think and Grow Rich, The Magic of Believing, you can read my book, Success is an Inside Job, anything and everything that is inspiring, encouraging and gives you hope. You see when you have hope you have the path to success. Our media has killed our hope. It's killed that spark of divinity within us that we have everything we need within ourselves to deal with any challenges. You always have, you will always have. And you've got to substitute the news for listening to the Millionaire Smarts in your car every single month or anybody who motivates you. Michael I'm sure you've seen it today that motivational speakers are almost laughed at sometimes. Michael: Right. Lee: And this is a crime because nobody can motivate you but you. That's absolutely true. However, the quality and the caliber of information that you put in your brain determines the quality and caliber of decisions you make. And the people that you associate with, the old saying, which who knows who to give this credit to because everybody's claimed it and it's five people that you associate with determines who you are. But I have not, in the beginning of my career, I didn't get hang around with Zig Ziglar and Tony Robbins and Wayne Dyer or anybody who motivates you but I could hang around them every day in my car or on my tape player or any kind of electronic device that you have at that moment. And I deliberately associate myself with big thinkers. People who have the ability to take you out of that small thinking, that tentative reality that you're living in, into live big, play hard, go for it, do the right thing. www.safetytechnology.com Page 3 of 10
  • 4. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 4 of 10 And the reason I'm making such a big deal out of this is because these are very small changes. They are easily made today. It's not like you have to revamp your office or create a new system. It's a really mindset of what am I willing to do right now to change the caliber of information of thoughts that I have in my brain? Again what you focus on expands. If you focus on how bad things appear to be, what you're missing is part of the picture. You see yes there are people, the poverty level has gone down in the United States and there are people who are poor and there are people who are occupying stuff and there are people who are doing this, that and the other. And there are people who are kicking ass, taking names, making millions of dollars. So you got to ask yourself, where do I want to be here? Because you're choosing sides with your thinking. And the other prospect I want you to think about is one of the things that I do in my life is I kind of analyze things. For example, I'm starting a new coaching program, which Michael and I have just talked about. It's called Implementation Coaching. And I'm only taking about a hundred people in that program. And so I was with all these other coaches recently and they were talking about, "Oh you know things are bad and people aren't signing up for coaching programs." And I said to them, "You know I read in the paper the other day, because I do scan the newspaper for good stuff, but the seven billionth person had been born in the world. And out of the seven billion people I'm only for a hundred, okay? I should say I should be able to find a damn hundred people out of the seven billion to be part of my program." Can you feel and see the difference in the shift, in the reality that you put yourself in when you reframe in your mind the importance of things and what you're feeding your brain? You see what has been feeding your brain is the gloom and doom. You've got to put a big stop on that. You've got to stop that today and I mean that with my heart and soul. You cannot hang around people who talk about gloom and doom. You just gradually fade away from them. You cannot talk at yourself. You see the most, if you look at history, the most powerful people on earth throughout history have been speakers. They are the teachers. They are the story tellers and you must aligns yourself with those storytellers and those speakers who speak to you the information that stirs your soul, that stirs your creativity, that stirs your excitement about being an entrepreneur again because you've lost that passion if you're in overwhelm. I could tell you a lot of books to read but the truth is you probably have most of them on your shelf right now. The resources you need are probably right at your fingertips. And you have to give yourself permission at this time to start using those resources to change the mindset that you have from overwhelm, stressed, I don't know what to do to I am clear, I am focused, I am using my mental, physical, emotional and spiritual and financial life energy effectively and efficiently. And I give myself permission that when I fall off the wagon that I will get right back on the wagon. And so that is, Michael, really the first thing that every single person that's listening to this can do and they can do it today. Michael: All right. I'm looking through my questions I have. I think you already answered like four of them that I had down here already with that one answer. Tied into www.safetytechnology.com Page 4 of 10
  • 5. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 5 of 10 all this and what you've said will apply to what I'm asking you here but in more specific when it comes to actually managing stress, see I personally, I believe in right breathing. I believe in practice meditation and a lot of people don't like to talk about those aspects of life. But could you talk about that a little bit where you can actually, the physical things you can actually do to help control your stress. Lee: Absolutely. Again that's programming. You see a lot of programming some of us got maybe in church or in society was that everything in life is thinking. I'm going to say that you have five kinds of energy. You have mental energy, which is thinking. You have emotional energy, which is feeling. You have spiritual energy. You have financial energy. And you literally every day the physical energy is you control your physical energy. So if you're having a lot of stress one of the very first things that happens when people are in stress is they shallow breathe. And whether you are in the doctor's office or there's a medical tech around you or in any emergency one of the very first things that everybody tries to get you to do is to do deep diaphragm breathing because what breathing does is bring oxygen to your bloodstream, which relaxes you. It takes oxygen and brings to your brain, which gives you more resourceful thinking. So if we just take all the spiritual woo woo stuff out of breathing and stress and we really just do it from a physical point-of-view, ever since we were kids everybody always heard if you're mad count to 10 and breathe deeply. Well there's a couple reasons for that, one, it keeps you from using your mouth, which causes more stress. And secondly, is for hundreds of years, thousands of years there's much research done about the simple act of breathing. I know that if I find myself afraid or scared or I'm nervous about something if I will just stop and focus on my breathing for a few seconds I just calm right down. Michael I've been speaking on stage for over 20 years. I've done a lot of television and do know, and people think that you lose nervousness. You don't. If you're a good speaker you never lose your nervousness. In fact, if you do lose your nervousness you're not going to be good. You need that energy. But before I go on stage I literally, I have to do deep breathing. It calms me. It makes me focused. It takes energy to my brain. It makes me think clearly. The breathe of life is the most important thing that you can do when you're stressed. The other things that you can do is just when you're stressed about something, and I we all get stressed. I'll give you an example. This morning my computer crashed. I mean like really today. I really needed that computer today. And I felt a little stressed. And then I remembered, I just breathed a couple of times, one, it's got some kind of warranty thing on it. And two, I have a backup system. Everything that's on that computer is on something in the sky somewhere, an iCloud thing somewhere. Everything on it. So I have lost nothing but maybe a couple of hours of somebody's going to have to come in here, bring a new computer and hook it up. Instead of me falling apart part of the reason I'm not going to be really stressed about that is something all of us as entrepreneurs need to do, is we need to preventive stress behavior. So for anyone who doesn't have some kind of back system to your computer you're just asking for stress. For anyone who doesn't have backup systems for everything it's not a matter if things are going to go down, it's a matter of when they're going to go down. www.safetytechnology.com Page 5 of 10
  • 6. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 6 of 10 It's like your car. If you get a vehicle you're going to be stressed out if somebody dings it. Again it's not matter of if it gets dinged, it's a matter of when it's going to get dinged. I used to have a friend who used to say, he'd get a new car. He'd immediately put a small ding in it. And I said, "Why?" He said, "I know I have no stress over the car anymore." He said, "We go put a little ding in the car and it's already got a ding it and I'm good to go." Now I thought that was stupid and insane but it worked for him. But it is kind of an interesting philosophy. And the other thing is about stress, Michael, is we have all this fabulous gut feelings, intuition, instincts, whatever you want to call it. There's a guiding force within us. When you have little nagging thoughts, which most of you will probably describe as worry, what they really are is hints that there's a possible weak link in your fence. You're only as strong as your weakest link. So if you only have one person in your office that works for you, one is a very bad number and you have little nagging thoughts, "Well would happen to the business or my assistant or if she gets hit by a bus or runs off with somebody and doesn't show up?" When you have those the most intelligent thing you could do is not to worry about them but to literally stop, acknowledge that oh I'm getting information about a weak link in my world. I need to do something about that now before that weak link breaks. Does that make sense? Michael: Yes. In fact that ties into another question I had because one of the things that always gave me stress was trying to do everything myself because it's so hard sometimes to let go of certain things. But as I started to delegate more and more I feel the stress getting less and less. And I've learned a lot from you and Dan Kennedy about this. Can you elaborate a little bit on how to manage delegation? Lee: Well I am very proud to say that I am a fabulous delegator. In fact I'm sure you've seen me do this Michael. When I have taught this I say, "I'm a pointer." I walk in the office and start pointing at things that need to be done. I am the born queen of pointing. And I love it. And the reason I love it is because I learned a very young age I am only good at a couple of things in life. Michael: And one is pointing. Lee: And one is pointing, absolutely. The other one is I'm a great talker. I'm a great communicator. I'm very good at that and this is the secret all entrepreneurs need to understand. Your ability to make money is directly tied to your natural skills and that 80 to 90% of all of your time needs to be focused on that narrow band of things that you do with massive excellence. That is the engine of your business. Everything else needs to be delegated and outsourced and then just reviewed. And I have been able to grow my business far, far beyond, at least 95% of the other people who went into business at the same time I did, at the same kind of things that I do because they try to be all things to all people. They try to do their books. They try to do their websites. They try to do all their copywriting. They're trying to do all things. I have a big sign up in my office that you should have in your office and that is – follow the money. Follow the money. The reason I say that is all the other stuff is just stuff. So www.safetytechnology.com Page 6 of 10
  • 7. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 7 of 10 the office being pretty. The office even being neat. All this stuff that has to be done, yes it has to be done but the most important thing that you can do is to make sure that you have people around you who understand that the engine of your business is the money that comes in and the clients and customers that you have, that everything else is secondary. So if there's an order that comes into my office literally that has priority over everything else, everything. Everything from lunch to everything. Orders coming in, we get an order out within 24 hours. We do that for a lot of reasons because one, a lot of people order something then change their mind. They have buyer's remorse or something. So let's get that order out. Let's get it to them right away. Let's do a little bit more extra than they expected. Let's be really friendly. And we're a real, real company. You can call us on the phone and get us. You can stop by. God forbid but you can. It's a real building. You can find us. And our whole concept of reality is that we want to make our customers experience be so pleasant and so enjoyable that they recommend us and they come back to us. But all that happens Michael because I hire the right people. I delegate. I tell them what I want. I've created systems for them to follow. I have an accountability process that each and every one of them does for me. I double check their work but I don't do the work. One, I'm the worst at doing books. The worst. But I know how to look at the books. I know when we're in profit. I believe that if you do not have a really strong ability to delegate, review what they've done and by the way you can't be one of these people when you delegate something that it's a like a dictator of you'll do it this way. If you've hired the right people what you want to do is tell them the end results that you want to accomplish. And if it's something really new and something delicate that you really have to pay attention to you might ask them, "Okay how would you do this and how you will you enact on this and bring completion to this?" And then you can fine tune it but you've got to give them, it's like running a horse. You got to give them their head a little bit. You give them their boundaries, their perimeters, what they can and cannot do but then give them the ability to do that. And also there has to be a reward system. You seen when you delegate something to someone people are all motivated by different things. As entrepreneurs we're motivated by money. It's pretty flat for money for most of us. But for our staff they're not always motivated by money. Many times they're motivated by being acknowledged for a good job, little bonuses. There's a million things that you can do if you pay attention how to reward your staff for running the business like you. And the first things that you have to do is you do have to train them to think like an owner and we have to be brutal here. If they have the ability before they work for you to think like an owner they would be an owner. They are not as capable as you are to think in the big picture. And Michael we could talk about for hours and hours about the capabilities of people but I do I want to share with you when you do delegate that you have do have to take into consideration their capabilities. You cannot expect certain people, like I just hired this little 20 year old gal who's just right out of school. I know that she is only capable of what we call grunt work. Load stuff into the computer, fulfill orders, mail stuff out, do inventory. That's all she's capable of. I can't expect her to be capable if a customer calls to get on the phone to explain my hundred and some products www.safetytechnology.com Page 7 of 10
  • 8. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 8 of 10 to them in detail. She's not capable. She's not been trained. She's not capable. So we have to be realistic about delegating to people but you also want to think about outsourcing. I outsource so much stuff it's kind of mind boggling and I'm a collector of outsources, that whenever I go to any of events where other people do what I do I am an interviewer. I always ask people questions, "Well who's doing this duplication for you? Who is doing copywriting for you? Where are you getting your conference call people from? Tell me about those." So I'm always, always gathering, gathering outsource information. So when I have the need to have something done and I know it's going to over task, over stress my existing team I have the ability to outsource. And by the way I'm a big believer of hire slow and fire fast. And if anybody's ever seen my staff I go through them because I'm willing to let people who are not good go because it's too stressful for me. Over the years I have created a lot of systems and, Michael and I we just talked about this, most of the entrepreneurs I know are the worst trainers to their own staff that I've ever seen. It's sort of like hire people and here's the job, figure it out. And most of you should be laughing about that because it's so pathetically true and the reason it's true is because we are the visionary, the engines in our business. We create the picture but we hate the minutia, the details. I want to get this done but oh my God I don't want to make those 12 phone calls to get it done. The people we hire have to be able to do that. And you also, let's face it, if you really want to a well oiled machine in your business you've got to train your staff. Michael is going to give you a link on a brand new product I have created that I went with my top staff people and myself for over 20 years and we went and listened to all these entrepreneurs about what their entrepreneurial assistants needed. And I literally created the complete entrepreneurs assistance training program. Very inexpensive. It's at Milteer.com, M-I-L-T-E-E-R. If you identify yourself as a Millionaire Smarts and Michael Gravette customers they'll be a big discount for you. So I highly recommend that you consider something like this for your existing staff and also for your future staff. It's very evergreen. I traveled a hundred cities a year doing public seminars for six straight years. And because I was gone so much out of survival every time there was a new thing that happened in my world I created a system and forms on how my assistants, my staff, my team should handle it. We created office meetings. We created our office book on okay Lee's not here. We don't know what the heck to do about this. You go look it up in the manual, the office manual on what to do. So you will have to jury-rig it a little bit to your own business and adapt it a little bit just to make these forms work for you but it would save you a massive amount of hard ache, time in your future when you're dealing with your staff. But I do want to say this, most of your staff that has good intentions, they want to please you but you have to give them the tools to do that and it's a two way street. You really have to participate in delegating in a very intelligent way that they can then take your directions and fulfill them because as an entrepreneur and a distributor you can only grow as fast as you and your staff can deal with it. And so you have to have your systems set up so that the growth of your business flows easily instead of it becoming all bottle necked and then all of a sudden you grow and www.safetytechnology.com Page 8 of 10
  • 9. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 9 of 10 you're not prepared to grow and then you mess up with your customers and your clients and you create ill will and you lose those people that you have spent so much time and money courting, as I like to call them. Does that answer your question? Michael: Yeah. And real quick to add to this, it seems like a lot of people are reluctant to do this, to get help is because they think that as long as they're doing it it's for free and that's because they don't put any value on their time. Can you speak to that just for a second? Lee: Oh gosh yes, Michael. That's a fabulous observation. Every person listening to this you need to sit down and assign an amount of money of what you are worth an hour. And Michael you hit the nail perfectly on the head when you said, "It's free." That's bullshit. It's not free. Your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual and financial energy are tied up into that. In all my coaching groups I always tell people you've got to figure out exactly what your time is worth. Now I'm not suggesting that you put too high a value on it but I am suggesting you put a high enough value on it that you have a benchmark. I'll give you an example, years ago I was in radio sales. I was like 22 years old. I'm in radio sales. I got myself a housekeeper. And I remember people around me were like, "What the hell is wrong with you? What do you need a housekeeper for?" And I said, "Well, one, I am not the greatest domestic goddess person there ever was. Secondly, I can go out in my commission and I can go make a lot more money in that four or six hours that housekeeper's there and then pay her and have money leftover instead of me doing stuff I don't like, I'm not good at it, I don't want to do. So whether it's cutting grass, whether it is painting your garage or anything you do in your life you've got to analyze what is the trade off? Is it worth me using my mental, physical, emotional energy on doing this? Or would it be much better for me to take my skills, expertise, knowledge and wisdom go out and make money? You see if you really think about it cutting your own grass, unless you love to cut grass, is costing you money. Because you as the creator of your life could be expanding your business. You could be writing copy or you could be doing things that actually bring income into you versus you expending physical, mental and emotional energy doing things you don’t really like to do. Now some people, Michael, are so what I call tight about life. They don't want to spend the money but those are people who will always be really tiny entrepreneurs. They'll never break into what I call serious money. Because they're not thinking like that. They're thinking very small, very tight. The most important resource in your whole life is your time. You have 1,440 minutes of every day and if you're using your time doing things that are not income producing or remember follow the money, then you're literally wasting your resources of why you're being self-employed and a distributor to begin with. In my home when anybody, I'm married, so if my home, people want me to do something I don't want to do I go, "That's not my job. My job is to make money." I'm serious. Absolutely. That is my job. My job is to make money. All this other stuff you can handle that. www.safetytechnology.com Page 9 of 10
  • 10. Michael Gravette/Lee Milteer Dealing with Feeling Overwhelmed Page 10 of 10 Now people are going this is not the woman's normal perspective of life. But I can make more money in a day than I can then if I'm trying to cook and clean and take care of the house and doing all the things that society expects of me. One, I'm not good at that stuff. Two, I've never done that stuff. Three, I'm never going to do that stuff. That is not my job. My job is to be the visionary of my creation. I can hire housekeepers. I can go out to dinner. But I can't waste my life's energy doing things that I can hire someone else to do for a very small amount of money, now, unless I like to do those things. I think that's pretty brutal. Michael: Yep. All right Lee. I just realized God we've been on this call almost 45 minutes and I don't want to take up too much more of your time. And you've given us so much to think about and to chew on here. In fact, I can't tell you how much I appreciate this and how much my distributors are going to appreciate it. So thank you so much for this call. Lee: Oh my pleasure Michael. And I do want to leave you with this thought. Your future is determined, everybody on the call here today, your future is really determined with the integrity of your thinking and your time management. So a couple little things before we go. One, I want you to consider that your time, you have a clear thought of what your time is worth. That you don't just be a rescuer to other people. Don't make their problems your problems. Be very aware that every single day you are the provider, you're the alpha of your business. You are the one providing jobs and skills and products for other people. Your real job in life is to have integrity with concept of you are the visionary of your business and that you must control the caliber of information that comes into your brain, so you can have clear thinking. You must control your time. You must not allow yourself to be open to anybody and everybody who thinks they want you. If you're interested in time management I have a fabulous program at Milteer.com called Banishing Time and Energy Vampires: The Essentials of Productivity and Implementation. If you want to be in a coaching group I have all kinds of those available. I highly recommend that you take the Millionaire Smarts program each month and not only listen to it yourself but also distribute the reports and the transcript of the presentation and the topic each month to your top people, maybe even to your kids. If you have teenagers if you gave them this kind of information you would be giving them gifts of success in the future that are far beyond anything the school system teaches them. And that you would also, if you share the information among yourself, your family and your staff, your team so to speak you'll all be on the same page of what I call right productive, profitable thinking. So thank you so much for having me on. Michael: Thank you Lee. And I'll talk to you soon. Lee: I hope so. Thank you. Michael: Okay, bye-bye. www.safetytechnology.com Page 10 of 10