bullies

1. Bullying
Definition:
"Bullying is deliberately hurtful
behaviour which is repeated over a
period of time.
It is difficult for those being bullied
to stop the process."

2. The Victim
• Put yourself
in their shoes.
• Think about
how it must
make them feel
.

4. The
Bully
• Has poor relationships with
classmates.
• Gets into frequent fights.

5. • Hurting and
making
others feel
bad is
NEVER cool.

6. What is Bullying?
• Nasty behaviour when you want to cause harm
or suffering.
• Usually is repeated over time.
• Occurs in a relationship where there is an
imbalance of power or strength.

8. Types of Bullying

9. Physical Bullying – hitting, kicking, hair pulling

10. Social Bullying – being left out or ignored

11. Verbal Bullying – name calling, verbal abuse

12. Cyber-bullying - sending HATE emails, text
messages and posting LIES on the internet.

13. H
E
L
P

14. Help the
victim
rather than
ignore the
situation.

16. No one has the
right to hurt you
or make you feel
bad.
Talk to someone
about it.

17. Take Action
Don't ignore
bullying when
you see it. . .
never allow a
bully to get
away with
thinking that
no-one will do
anything.

18. Student plan• Ask for adult help.
• Do not take part in
hurting the victim.
• Say kind words to the
victim.
• Do not become involved
in rumors and gossip.
• If you can speak to the
bully, tell the bully that
he is not behaving
properly.
• Do not become involved
in physical or verbal fights
with a bully.

19. Part 2

20. Why do people
Bully?

21. There are a lot of reasons why
some people bully.
They may see
it as a way of
being popular,
or making
themselves
look tough
and in charge.

22. Something or
someone is making
them feel insecure.
They bully to make
themselves feel
better.

23. Some people bully to get attention or things, or to
make other people afraid of them.

24. Others might be jealous of the person they are
bullying.
They may be being bullied themselves.

25. They might not feel like they are
getting enough attention from
parents or teachers.

26. Possible Future of a Bully.
• Children who are bullies become Adult bullies.
• As an adult they have problems in making and
keeping friends.

27. Children who are bullies are likely to
experience legal or criminal problems as
adults.

28. • Be injured in a fight
• Steal, destroy property
• Drink alcohol, smoke

29. • Drop out of
school
• See a negative
environment at
school.
• Are not happy at
school.

30. Children who are Friends of Bullies
They want to “side”
with the bully
because it makes
them feel strong.

31. • They’re entertained by the bullying.
• They don’t think speaking up will help.
• They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully
will turn on them.

32. Part 3

33. How do you know if you are a bully?
Does it
make you
feel BIG
to hurt
other
people or
take their
things?

34. • Are you bigger and
stronger than other
people your age?
• Do you sometimes
use your size and
strength to get your
way?

35. Do you avoid thinking about how other
people might feel if you say or do
hurtful things to them?

36. How Not
to be a
Bully.

37. I think sometimes I can be a bully, what
can I do?
You have the choice to bully others or not to.
It can be hard if everyone else is doing it and you would
feel left out if you don’t join in.
It takes courage to step back from bullying.

38. I think sometimes I can be a bully, what
can I do?
If you find yourself bullying other people ask for help
from someone you trust.
Find other ways to feel respected, you will
find it easier to stop bullying others.

39. OK!
I am a bully.
What do I do
now?
• STOP
• Keep hands and
feet to yourself.
• Respect others
space.

40. • If you are having a hard time feeling good about
yourself, find other ways to like yourself.

41. If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your
feelings, especially anger, talk to a school
counselor about it.

42. What now?
• Apologize to people
that you have bullied,
and follow it up by
being friendly.
• They might not trust
you right away, but
eventually they will see
that you have changed.

43. Part 4

45. What do you usually do when you see a
student being bullied?
• 38% Nothing, because it’s none of my
business.
• 27% I don’t do anything, but I think I
should help.
• 35% I try to help him or her.

46. If you don’t stop bullying who will?

47. If you take no action, you are
saying that bullying is OK.

48. If you see someone being bullied…
• refuse to join in
• tell the bullies to stop
• be a good friend to the victim
• report the bullying to a teacher

49. I'm too scared to go to school.
What should I do?
No-one has the right to stop you
from going to school.
Your school has a duty to protect
you from bullying and keep you
safe.
Talk to someone you trust and
tell them about the problem.

50. What to do? Don't fight the bully-
this may only make
things worse.
It is not a safe thing
to do.
You don't want to
become a bully
yourself.

51. Part 5

52. Your turn

53. Ask yourself these questions…
• Are my actions or words hurting someone else's
feelings?
• Are my actions or words hurting someone else physically
or making that person feel afraid?
• Would I want someone else to do this to me?
• Am I unfairly taking my anger out on someone?
• Am I trying to control someone against his or her will?

54. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Which of these are bullying (and why)?
• Making fun of somebody's looks.
• Accidentally bumping into someone in the hall.
• Calling people names because of the colour of their
skin.
• Making the other kids play the game your way.
• Teasing someone about the clothes he/she wears.

55. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS continued
Which of these are bullying (and why)?
• Telling someone that the shirt he's wearing doesn't
look good on him.
• A group of kids won't let you sit with them at lunch
even though there's room.
• Telling someone that he or she is not being nice.
• Joking with people by "putting them down".

56. Discussion continued
Can someone be a bully without meaning to be?
What's the difference between bullying and just
fooling around?
When does something become bullying?
What can be done to stop bullying at school?

57. Read the following letter. What advice
will you give “Distressed 14 year old”

58. Dear Agony Aunt,
I don’t know who to turn to for help. My parents have just
moved to a new town and have started new jobs. I think
they have enough problems without me adding to them.
I started at my new school three weeks ago. I have made
no friends. Two boys keep calling me names and the others
laugh every time they do it. They always shout at me when
the teacher isn’t around. It happens in the classroom,
playground and when I am walking to and from school.
Please, please help me. I can’t take any more!
From a very distressed 14 year old.

59. Writing Assignment
• Write the reply to the article sent in by
“a very distressed 14 year old”.
• Give the best advise you can.

60. New Words

61. victim

62. choice

63. relationships

64. ignore

65. repeated

66. behaviour

67. frequent
Done or occurring often.
I take frequent breaks, so
I don't get too tired.

68. protect

69. ignored

70. tough

71. popular

72. gossip

73. rumours

75. fear