What is the difference between everyday conflict and bullying?  How does aggression appear directly and alternatively?  Learn the differences between the two and how you can respond to each appropriately.

1. Park School of Baltimore
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Conflict and Bullying:
Their Differences and Your Responsibility
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2. About Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Definition of Conflict
• A clash between two
individuals or groups
• A disagreement or
argument about
something important
• A natural, normal part
of life
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4. When It’s Bullying
• Uneven Power
• Harm Intended
• Repetition
• Efforts to hide from
adults
• Advocacy not changing
behaviors
• NOT natural or normal
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5. Direct Aggression
• Direct, Angry
Words
• Physical
Fights
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6. Alternative Aggression
• Relational Aggression
• Indirect Aggression
• Social Aggression
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7. Relational Aggression is when your
words/actions hurt relationships (or
threaten to hurt relationships) or make
someone feel not included or accepted.
Relational Aggression
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8. Indirect Aggression is when your
words/actions hurt someone and but
you deny it somehow.
Indirect Aggression
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9. Social Aggression
Social Aggression is when your
words/actions make someone feel bad
about themselves or feel like they’re
less popular in a group.
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10. Unhealthy Conflict and
Bullying Hurts Everyone
• Folks Who Are
Targeted
• Folks who Engage
in Targeting
• Folks Who Stand By
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11. What CAN You Do?
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12. Know the Difference
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13. When It’s Conflict…
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14. D.E.A.R.
Conflict Resolution
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15. AIMS Conflict
Problem Solving
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16. When It’s Bullying…
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17. Are You Often
Targeted?Don’t Go At It
Alone
• Know it’s not right
• You deserve better
• Stand up for yourself
• Ask/Tell them to stop
the behavior
• Seek healthy support
• Tell an adult
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18. Are You Often Targeting?
Don’t Go At It Alone
• Know it’s not right
• You are better than
that
• Stop the behavior
• Seek healthy
support
• Tell an adult
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19. Bystander to Upstander
• Speak up when someone else is being bullied
• Assume positive intentions, but don’t let that
assumption make you silent
• Ask questions
• Don’t make the person who is bullying into
someone who is getting targeted
• Actively include those who are easily left out
• If you know someone is getting bullied, tell an
adult at school or at home
• Keep the climate healthy
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20. Taking it Digital
• No Digital Conflicts!
• The Face Test – would you say it to their face?
• The Headline Test – would you want it broadcast?
• The Digital Self – are you the same person online?
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21. Questions and Comments
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22. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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