If you or your team is trying to standout amongst the crowd and be noticed, then you must have some sort of differentiation to set you apart. Differentiation does not mean going against the grain of the workplace, it definitely does not mean alienation, it means finding something incrementally different to stand out amongst the rest and be noticed.

1.
Art
of
the
W ingman
for
Business
is
dedicated
to
the
businesswomen
and
businessmen
who
seek
greatness
beyond
their
own
and
find
their
successes
through
helping
others
succeed.
The
Business
Wingman
follows
the
path
of
the
selfless
person.
What
Your
Appearance
Says
About
You
Key
Points
• Having
the
appropriate
physical
appearance,
dressing
for
the
next
step
• Breaking
down
your
emotional
appearance,
what
people
think
of
you
• Differentiation
without
alienation
Remember
in
our
previous
post
where
we
state
that
perception
is
everything
(Building
Social
Credibility
in
the
Workplace);
your
physical
and
emotional
appearance
paints
a
perception
about
you
whether
you
are
actively
trying
to
do
it
or
not.
We
live
in
a
social
centric
world
where
people
love
to
talk
about
and
give
judgment
on
others.
While
we
will
not
be
able
to
change
the
habits
of
others,
we
can
certainly
be
ready
for
them.
1) Having
the
appropriate
physical
appearance,
dressing
for
the
next
step
Every
industry
and
office
across
the
country
has
a
standard
that
says
how
you
should
and
should
not
dress.
If
you
are
in
finance
in
Manhattan,
then
the
standard

2. 2
dress
is
a
suit
and
tie.
Just
like
if
you
are
working
in
an
IT
startup
in
Mountain
View,
CA,
then
the
standard
dress
is
probably
casual
tech
chic.
Since
there
is
not
one
standard
to
follow,
you
must
do
your
due
diligence
and
do
your
own
internal
office
research.
Identify
the
type
of
dress
of
your
immediate
manager
and
the
management
team
above
you.
And
please
remember,
I
am
not
saying
that
if
your
manager
wears
pleaded
khaki
pants
from
the
90’s
with
a
short
sleeved
button
down
shirt
and
a
sweater
vest
from
Structure,
that
you
should
forego
your
own
personal
style
and
try
to
emulate.
That
would
be
ridiculous
and
a
little
creepy.
What
I
am
saying
is
don’t
take
this
advice
literally.
Take
notes
of
what
they
are
wearing
and
dress
accordingly
but
make
it
your
own.
I
am
saying
that
you
should
identify
what
the
standards
are
in
your
workplace.
Do
that
by
asking
yourself
the
following
questions:
a) What
is
the
accepted
dress
code
for
your
office?
b) Do
your
manager
and
his
or
her
peers
dress
more
formally
or
casually?
c) Think
of
the
person
whom
just
got
a
promotion
and
how
did
they
dress?
Once
you
have
answered
these
questions,
it
will
help
you
to
determine
how
you
should
dress
for
success:
a) Adjust
your
dress
to
look
like/imply
that
you
are
ready
for
the
next
level
b) Maintain
your
own
style
and
personality
but
adhere
to
the
standards
you
are
setting
for
success
To
reiterate,
I
am
not
saying
that
solely
dressing
the
part
will
help
you
get
to
the
next
level,
but
it
is
a
start.
Your
management
wants
to
feel
like
that
if
you
make
that
transition,
then
you
will
easily
fit
in.
2) Breaking
down
your
emotional
appearance,
what
people
think
of
you
Emotional
appearance
is
best
explained
in
psychological
terms.
The
Center
for
Non-­‐
Verbal
Studies
describes
these
cues
or
signs
as
indicative
of
emotion.
These
signs
are
broken
down
into
3
main
categories:
facial
expressions,
body
movements,
and
tone
of
voice.
1. Facial
Expressions:
The
act
of
communicating
a
mood,
attitude,
opinion,
feeling,
or
other
message
by
contracting
the
muscles
of
the
face.
This
can
be
expressed
as
a
smile,
frown,
pout,
surprise,
disgust,
frustration,
or
disagreement.
Each
of
these
facial
expressions
indicates
a
perceived
mood
and
can
easily
be
misinterpreted1.
2. Body
Movements:
These
are
unknown
body
gestures
that
communicate
an
emotion
or
feeling
without
knowingly
doing
this.
Particularly
with
our
posture,
breathing,
clearing
of
throat,
clenching
of
fist
and
gestures,
we
can
1
http://center-­‐for-­‐nonverbal-­‐studies.org/emotionq.htm

3.
give
the
emotion
of
tension
or
annoyance
to
others
without
actually
saying
anything.
3. Tone
of
Voice:
Your
tone
of
voice
reflects
psychological
arousal,
emotion,
and
mood.
It
may
also
carry
social
information,
as
in
a
sarcastic,
superior,
or
submissive
manner
of
speaking2.
Be
weary
of
how
your
voice
changes
when
speaking
to
certain
colleagues
and
with
management.
You
never
know
what
you
really
may
be
saying.
This
is
a
more
difficult
one
to
explain
but
at
it
most
basic
concept,
it
comes
down
to
whether
people
think
of
you
as
a
nice
person
who
is
friendly
to
others
in
the
office,
or
whether
you
always
look
upset
and
are
socially
awkward
to
talk
to.
3) Differentiation
without
alienation
If
you
or
your
team
is
trying
to
standout
amongst
the
crowd
and
be
noticed,
then
you
must
have
some
sort
of
differentiation
to
set
you
apart.
Differentiation
does
not
mean
going
against
the
grain
of
the
workplace,
it
definitely
does
not
mean
alienation,
it
means
finding
something
incrementally
different
to
stand
out
amongst
the
rest
and
be
noticed.
Please
visit
our
blog
at
http://www.artofthewingman.com.
2
http://center-­‐for-­‐nonverbal-­‐studies.org/tone.htm