November 2021 newsletter

1. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter November 2021
Thank-you:
*Carol Anderson – Website
* Linda Rodriguez – Mother of Angel - Memory Cards
* Ellie Rossi – Mother of David and Lisa
ALL FFMV Chapter Meetings are
still cancelled until further notice,
due to COVID-19
It is with sadness in our hearts that we must
announce that our Annual Christmas Memorial
has been cancelled again and therefore will not
take place in December, The Executive Board
was advised that the Diocese of San
Bernardino, following the guidelines concerning
Covid-19 will not be allowing indoor gatherings
in their Pastoral Center. Although we will not
gather in person this year, let us keep all of our
victims, their families and friends in our thoughts
and prayers.
Please know that we are here for you and that
we will continue our fight for the rights of all
victims.
Stay safe and healthy!
Sincerely,
Rose Madsen
Executive Chair of FFMV
In Loving Memory
Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12-2-73 – 11-10-94
27 years Missing You!
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm)
Redlands CA
*Donna Lozano - Parent – 760-660-9054
* Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 10am-9pm
*Linda Rodriguez -Parent – 951-369-0010-Home –
951-732-3255 - Riverside
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Yucaipa CA
* Richard McVoy – Adult Sibling –
909-503-5456 – Grand Terrace CA
* Tanya Powell - Parent – 760-596-2292-
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
friendship to persons who have experienced the
death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Share Sorrow…..
Share Strength
Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
provide a pathway to well-being to those who
have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary
of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted
in newsletter. They are also made by caring
professionals, organizations to help in the work that
FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help
with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others
and operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV-
P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222

2. November 2021 Birthdays & Memories

3. November 2021 Birthdays
Alfonso Lopez Ashley Nicole Randles
Amber Martnez Andres Garced Jr. Anthony Prudhomme
Anthony Turner Jr. Aubrey Maloy
Balam Alcaraz Vega Charlie A. Keever Charles Shaw
Christina Duran Christhopher Heyman
Christhoper Mykle Sanchez Corrina Wilson
Damon L. Jones Sr. David Leon II
Derek Wiltz II Doctor Fernandez
Dwayne Durston III Eileen Ponce
Eloy Conrad Duran lll Frank Salinas
Gabriel Vargas Herbert Souther
Jennifer Eubanks Jennifer Rene Parisi-Krajnak
Jerry Sehrs Joe“Jody”Pullen
Jonathan Olagues Jose Tamez III
Jose Funtes Juan Macias
Juanita Martinez Katie Brennar Kelsey Marie Roberts
Lindel Fields Lukas Scot Clark Marcus Ringo
Maria Sanchez Maria DeLos Angeles Maggallon
Mark Adam Rodriguez Melanie Miers
Michael Villegas Jr. Michael-Clayton Jamel Baker
Michael Grier Michele Lynette Baily
Michiel A. Hyder-Blamey Mickey Thompson Raymond Cole
Raymond Cole Richard Albidrez
Richard A Pogue Jr. Roberto Alcazar Valencia Roy Hall
Sabrina Brown Sebastian Orioli
Salvador Olivas Jr. Teresa Soto Del Rio Timothy Gaines
Tommy Matthews Jr. “BJ” William Allen Beverly Jr.

4. NOVEMBER 2021 Memories
Alexander Ray Esparza Amber Martinez
Andrian Rivas Andre Reyes Rojas Anthony Prudhomme
Brandon Michael Selph Christina Duran
Christopher Sanchez Damon Jones Sr.
David Garcia David Padilla
Evan Todd Kinard Greg W. Gibson II
Gilbert Rivera Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Jenny Rebecca Waltz Jerry Ramirez Jr.
Jonathan Marquez Dizon Jose Esparza
Joshua Rexford Juan Macias Lisel Wiedeman
Mark Mireles Maraslee Ann Nicholas
Mary Estes Mary Beth Blaskey
Melanie Miers Michele Jeanette Carson
Raymond Cole Roberto Nanito De La Vegas Sr.
Roberto “Bobby” Ruiz Sonia Herrera
Terry L. Stutson Thomas Charles Pagent Jr.
Trevor Johnson Trevor John Neiman
Vanessa Martinez “BJ” William Allen Beverly Jr.
Yanize Lizette Mora

5. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Yanize Lizette Mora Michele Carson Joshua Rexford
3/28/94 – 11/2/10 12/22/84 – 11/7/10 10/8/76 – 11/27/94
STILL UNSOLVED
Her 2mo.old Baby Isaiah
SURIVED!
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/21/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
Happy Birthday Lisa
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Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file____

6. The California VINE system is a service through which victims of crime can use the telephone
or Internet to search for information regarding the custody status of their offender and to register
to receive telephone and e-mail notification when the offender's custody status changes. The
VINE toll-free number for the California VINE system is (877) 411-5588. This service is provided
to assist Victims of Crime who have a right to know about their offender's custody status.
The VINE mobile app is the "on-the-go" version of VINE, so that anyone can access vital
information about criminals arrested in the community.
VINE mobile is free to crime victims and is anonymous for users. It is available for both iPhone
and Android smart phone users.
Click here to visit the VINE Website and scroll to the bottom of the page for information on the
app.
https://www.vinelink.com/vinelink/siteInfoAction.do?siteId=5000
In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
Roberto “Bobby” Ruiz Eileen Nicole Ponce
4/12/82 – 11/20/05 11/5/85 – 2/15/08
Give yourself time to grieve. It may take several years just to accept the finality
of a loss, that someone is gone forever, and even more to work through
your emotions

7. THANKSGIVING
The time draws near
And the calendar says
Thanksgiving is really here.
Time to reflect and time to gather
Thoughts of what to be thankful of.
Thankful? I think not.
My life is not full these days
And to be thankful is beyond my grasp.
But to give thanks? This, I believe, can be done.
Searching my soul deep within
Reasons to give thanks surface to the edge
Yes, I give thanks
For the memories of yesterdays,
The love, the laughter, the joy of each day when loved one was with us
The trials & tribulations of being an active parent,
The rewards & the challenges of raising a child,
The days of blissful ignorance when I thought tragedy would never visit our home,
The days when life was normal, even though I took it all for granted.
For the treasures of todays,
The sunrise, sunset, the changing of the seasons,
The new found friends along this journey I reluctantly travel
The tried & true friends who stand by me still,
The strong and everlasting love of my husband
The warmth of wet kisses from my canine companion & feline friend,
The encouragement & support, compassion & caring I give & receive as
I survive and help others survive.
For the hopes and possibilities of a peaceful tomorrow,
With faith, love, & perseverance as I struggle to move on
With my loved in my heart forevermore, spiritually guiding me with his new presence,
With sorrow and reluctance, each new day,
To yet, somehow, be open and loving,
Not to forsake what I've learned Because of what I've lost.
In Loving Memory
Teresa Del Rio
11-18-78 - 6-7-99

8. Strategies for Survival during Holidays
Offer Yourself Some Grace
The best thing you can do this holiday season is be kind to
yourself. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is your
feeling. Don’t fall prey to the belief that you have to feel a certain
way or do certain things for your holiday to be “normal.” If you
feel sad, allow the tears to come; if you feel angry, allow yourself
to vent some steam.
Be Kind to Yourself
Get the rest and nourishment you need. Don’t take on any more
than you can handle. If you need to be alone, honor that. If you
crave the company and affection of others, seek it out. Do
whatever it is that feels right to you.
Remember That You Will Survive
As hard as it is for you right now, you will survive. You will make
it through the holidays in one piece. It may be the most difficult
season in your time of grief, but it will pass. And when it does,
you will come out on the other side stronger than before.
You don’t have to enjoy the holidays. You don’t even have to go
through the motions pretending to enjoy the festivities. But, it’s
also OK to have a good time in spite of your grief. If happiness
slips through your window of grief, allow it to happen and enjoy
it. You won’t be doing your loved one an injustice by feeling
joyous.
The best gift you can give anyone you love, even someone you
have lost, is being true to yourself and living your life to the
fullest.

9. Survivors Of Violent Loss Resources
Announcements
www.svlp.org
Restorative Retelling is an evidence based model that has been successful in supporting those
who have lost someone to a violent death. Restorative Retelling services include general
counseling and group services.
CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino
County District Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical
Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for
children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus
at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San
Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group
activities designed to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the
violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to
include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and
provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief -
SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a combination of
learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future
Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim
restitution. Therapists and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma
Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to
the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to
continue fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they
may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs.
Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073 for information
Due to COVID 19 camp was cancelled for 2021

10. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
This November newsletter is dedicated to JEN
November 10, 1994, my life forever changed….it will be 27yrs that my Jen was taken…. I
continue my journey of healing …still trying to understand why this happened…. in this
journey I have encountered a new circle of friends that understand me… I cherish their
friendship and support. I thank my family for their continued love and support!
I wish everyone a Happy & Peaceful Thanksgiving.
Stay safe …Stay Healthy
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands…
But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
FFMV Executive Board
Rose Madsen – Chair, Mother of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Dawn Hall– Vice Chair, Mother of Joshua Rexford
Rita Marin – Secretary, Aunt of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Bertha Flores – Treasurer, Mother of Kristopher Flores
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose
is to offer grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers.
Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San
Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-754-6969
FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family
Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our
events. Please contact FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax
Deductible
Keep continued prayers for families that are in the court process trying to get the
JUSTICE they Deserve!!
Chris & Jesus (Beto)
And for ALL families dealing with the injustice of
UNSOLVED Murders!
Email me updates on your case so I can post in newsletter.

11. 2022 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print Clearly
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name______________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name______________________________________________
Date of Birth __________ Date of Death______ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Was this a DUI Yes ( ) No ( ) Was this Domestic Violence Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use
photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and publish
the same in print and/or electronically.I agree that FFMV may use such
photographs with or without his/her name and for any lawful purpose, including for
example such purposes as publicity, illustration, advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Signature_____________________________________________________
Print Full Name ________________________________________________
Print Last Name________________________________________________
Address_______________________________________________________
City__________________________________________________________
Zip Code ________Contact Phone(s) with area code__________________
E-mail________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: ffmvmail@yahoo.com
~ FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file

12. FFMV
FORMA DE PERMISO
2022 Participante / Formulario de Autorización para la presentación de
diapositivas de fotos y fotos juntas
Fecha: _____________ Relación con la víctima:________________________
El Primer nombre de la victima: ____________________________________________
El Apellido de la victima: ________________________________________________
Fecha de nacimiento_________ Fecha de la muerte__________ Solucionado: Si ( )
No ( )
¿Fue esto un DUI: Si ( ) No ( ) ¿Fue esta violencia doméstica: Si ( ) No ( )
Permiso para usar la foto (s): Si ( ) No ( ) Sólo me agregar a la lista e-mail/mailing
para recibir el boletín mensual, información de eventos
Concedo a las FAMILIAS Y AMIGOS DE VICTIMAS DE HOMICIDIO, INC. (FFMV)
el derecho a usar la fotografía (s) del sujeto identificado anteriormente. Autorizo FFMV
a utilizar y publicar el mismo en forma impresa y / o electrónica.
Estoy de acuerdo en que FFMV podrá utilizar dichas fotografías con o sin su su /
nombre y para cualquier propósito legal, incluyendo, por ejemplo, con fines tales como
la publicidad, la ilustración, el contenido publicitario y web.
He leído y entendido lo anterior.
Firma: ___________________________________________
Nombre en letra imprenta: ________________________________________________
Direccion: ____________________________________________________________
Ciudad: ____________________________ Estado: __________ Codigo postal: ____________
Telefono: (_____) _____-________ Celular: (_____) _______________________
e-mail: ___________________________________________________________________
Envíe por correo participante / formulario de divulgación para
FFMV ~ PO Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA 92423-1222