1. Hurting the Ones We LoveHurting the Ones We Love
“Have you ever noticed how the people we are most
rude to are the ones we care most about, the ones we
think we have the best relationships with? It’s because
we think we can afford to not be on our best behavior
with them. Isn’t that messed up? You’re more polite to
someone you don’t like than to someone you truly love. I
think that’s a fundamental mindset that needs shifting.”
– Igor Ledochowski
It’s so easy for us to be cruel to our closest friends, to family members, and – most
relevantly to this blog – to our lovers.
My girlfriend and I don’t fight much these days because we’ve been doing some
constructive growing together, but there have been many times in our relationship
where we fought a lot. And, just as I’ve seen my parents do countless times while I
was growing up under their roof, I lost control of my emotions and ended up yelling
at her many times.
ABOUT MEABOUT ME
Chief started
learning pickup
and seduction in
2003. He has
extensive
experience in
not only dating
plenty of
wonderful
women, but also
in teaching
other men how
to be successful
in their love
lives. His views
on seduction
and dating have
been largely
influenced by
his experience
as a musical
performer,
American
culture, and Zen
Buddhism.
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2. We would feel contempt and disappointment toward each other, feelings that sting
us more the closer we are to the people we feel them toward. It’s funny how we just
let ourselves unravel and become less mature toward someone when we get closer
to them. It’s like we project more and more expectations onto our partners while
putting in less and less effort ourselves.
It’s because we humans naturally started taking things for granted, and we take
things for granted more and more the longer we have them.
Just as Igor Ledochowski said, we’re too rude to the ones we care most about. When
we’re out to meet strangers, on the other hand, we put our best foot forward.
I guess it might be too draining if we’re always putting our best foot forward at all
times with everyone. And, of course, as men we want relationships that make us feel
comfortable. We want to kick back and relax with no stress. We want room to just be
ourselves.
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3. And yes, we really should “be ourselves.”
But what happens when we reveal the worst sides of ourselves by relaxing and
being ourselves?
This is something we should not avoid, and something we should not be afraid of
experiencing.
The longer I’ve been in this relationship, the more I took for granted. I eventually
saw some of the worst sides of myself that I never even knew existed. This has been
very helpful in identifying how exactly I need to mature.
Still, we should always be mindful as to not hurt one another. One day, I thought of
the times that I yelled at my girlfriend and thought of how absolutely ridiculous that
was. Why would I be so angry and yell at my girlfriend? She’s just a cute little girl!
She’s someone I have to protect and take care of!
That’s not necessarily gender-specific. We need to take care of our partners, and to
let them take care of us. That’s why they are our partners.
And, as they take care of us, we always need to remember how precious their care is.
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4. Don’t take shit for granted.
Chief
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