Let’s start with a reminder

Daily you come across different people
What have you noticed ?
We all are different
Physically & mentally
Feelings, emotions , hopes , dreams

Is it difficult to get along
with
different people
What problems do you face & why ?

How often do you judge other people
&
How often do you judge your own self ?

What’s usually the reason behind a conflict
Difference in opinion
Someone bullies you
Someone offends you
Someone makes fun of you
You’re jealous of someone
Fighting over a toy or a game

Sometimes you fight with your parents
WHY
curfews
rules
Too much time on phone
Studies

Reason behind all these fights
One word
ANGER

What’s the size of your problem
Is it really a big one
Or
You’re making
something out of nothing
IDENTIFY

Beneath every mountain lies a valley
&
Beyond every problem lies a solution

How to solve this problem then ?
You need to learn social skills

What exactly are social skills
Core skills required for getting along well with others.
For working together & living together .
We use social skills everyday to let people know how we feel
&
To understand how other people feel .

Bad Social Skills
Grab something without asking
Push someone out of the way
To interrupt others' conversations
Throw a tantrum when you don’t get your way
Cutting in line
Telling a lie
Saying mean things to others
Not caring about how your actions impact the other people

Good Social Skills
•Waiting for your turn
•Asking before you take
or
use something that belongs to someone else
•Saying please and thank you
•Waiting in line
•Noticing how someone is feeling
•Not interrupting

•Showing kindness when someone is having a bad day
•Being excited with someone when they are having a
good day(empathy)
•Using words instead of hitting
•Telling the truth
•Respecting people’s differences
•Considering how your actions impact other people

Ok
Someone will stop you from practicing
good social skills
WHO
EGO, TEMPER & ANGER

So it’s ANGER again
What do you usually do
when you’re angry ?

What should you do ?
Deep breathe
Take a break
Write
Talk
Discuss
Make yourself busy

Have you ever noticed that you become
lethargic
after being angry
That’s because you lose
a lot of energy
By getting aggressive

Push out the Hot thoughts,
I NEVER
GET
WHAT I
WANT
THAT’S
STUPID
I
HATE
THIS
NOT
FAIR

Invite COOL Thoughts
Let it go
This isn’t
worth getting
angry about
I didn’t
want this
but still I’ll
survive

Anger is from Satan.
Anger spoils Eemaan.
He is mighty and powerful,
who control himself in anger.
Sayings of Prophet S.A.W.

What Allah Has said about momineen
When they get angry they forgive . Surah Al-Shurah
And restrain rage and pardon men
and Allah loves the good doers.[Surah Al.Imran: 134]

The Holy Messenger (peace be upon him) has said
“Anger comes from the devil,
the devil was created of fire,
and fire is extinguished only by water;
so when one of you becomes angry
, he should perform ablution.”

The Holy Messenger (peace be upon him) has said,
after seeing two people angry at one another:
“I know a word which, if he were to say it,
what he feels would go away;
he needs to say
‘I seek refuge with Allah from the shaytaan,’
and all his anger would go away.”
(Sahih Bukhaari: Volume 6, 337)

A prayer for all of us
May Allah make us all successful in both the worlds
& may we always follow the right path
Aameen

THANKS for being so patient
&
By the way
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