Being proactive means taking control of situations and making changes happen, while being reactive means making choices based on impulse. Proactive language focuses on finding solutions, like saying "let's look at all our options", while reactive language uses uncertain terms like "I'll try" or "I can't". To be proactive requires self-awareness, conscience, creative imagination, and independent will. An example of a proactive person is calmly confronting someone who was talking about them, rather than reacting aggressively like a reactive person might. Those feeling impulses to do something bad should pause and press a mental "pause button".

1. ~ Proactive is when you are in control of the situation and changes what happens.<br />~reactive is when you make choices based on impulse.<br />Ex: reactive language ex: proactive language<br />- Ill try things – There’s going to be away<br />-I can’t – let’s look at all our options<br />Being proactive<br />1. self- awareness<br />2. Conscience<br />3. Creative imagination<br />4. .independent will<br />Example of proactive people<br />- Some one’s talking about you<br />So you go and confront the person calmly and nice<br />Ex: of reactive person<br />- You heard someone saying something smart<br />your reaction is that you want fight the person<br />~ If you feel yourself going to do something bad press your pause button on your forehead<br />