2. • Toyin Talks Talent (T3), a Coaching, Mentoring and Capacity Building
virtual platform set up to connect talented individuals with their right
places of expression, whether within an organization or when self-
employed.T3 equips individuals with a sense of their own value and the
skills to effectively demonstrate it at work.
Oluwatoyin Puddicombe
ACIPM, SPHRi, SHRM
3. COURSE OUTLINE
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What is a habit
and why is it
important to
me?
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How Habits are
formed
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Good and Bad
Career Habits
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How to break
bad habits and
form new ones
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7 Habits
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4. WHAT IS A HABIT AND WHY IS IT IMPORTANTTO
ME?
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5. DEFINING A ‘HABIT’
• The choices that all of us
deliberately make at some point,
then stop thinking about it, but
continue doing, often every day.
• A habit is a routine of behavior
that is repeated regularly and tends
to occur subconsciously.
(Wikipedia)
• The American Journal of
Psychology defines a "habit, from
the standpoint of psychology,[as] a
more or less fixed way of thinking,
willing,or feeling acquired through
previous repetition of a mental
experience."
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WHAT ISTHE FIRSTTHINGYOU DO AFTERYOUWAKE UP?
Chances are you do one of these things
Chances are you don’t know exactly
when you started the routine or why it
made sense to do it that way.
Use the rest room?
Pray?
Check messages on your phone?
Bruch your teeth?
Drink some water?
Take a bath?
7. WHY ARE HABITS
IMPORTANT?
▪ Habits are the things we do, but also and
maybe as importantly, the way we think
and what we believe.
▪ They include the self-beliefs that influence
what we do, our behaviour and the actions
we take.
▪ Habits help us manage our minds.
▪ Habits save us brain power – or rather
free up our brains to do exciting creative
thinking.
▪ An automatic response requires less
creativity and complexity of thinking from
us.
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THE HABIT LOOP
The Habit Loop is a representation of how habits work
The loop starts with a CUE or a trigger.
When our brain recognizes the trigger, it switches to
auto-pilot mode and starts performing the ROUTINE
tasks.The same tasks, which we perform every-time we
are in such a scenario.
Performing the routine, gives us some kind of satisfaction
or REWARD,which is the outcome or result of
following the routine.
Note that this happens whether the habit is a GOOD
habit or a BAD habit
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EXAMPLES OF CUES ORTRIGGERS
TIME
LOCATION
EVENTS
EMOTIONAL STATE
OTHER PEOPLE
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From the application process, to the interview process to performance on the job,
your mindset determines your habits, and your habits drive your actions
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13. Notice that he starts with a MINDSET
What you believe eventually plays out in your actions
Every habit STARTS with belief, so it can only be
CHANGED by another belief.
It is BELIEF that keeps you getting up, no matter how
many times you fall.
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THE MINDSET IS THE BEGINNING OF HABITS
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THE APPLICATION STAGE
BAD HABITS
The belief that there are no jobs
Applying for ‘any job’
Not reading the job description
Not proof-reading your CV before you send it
Sending your CV by email without writing
anything in the body of the email
Calling a recruiter by their first name
Lying or “stretching the truth” on your CV
Using inappropriate fonts or loud colours in
your CV
Harassing the Recruiter online
Saying negative things about the company
because you did not hear back from them.
Seeing every rejection as an assessment of
your value.
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THE INTERVIEW STAGE
BAD HABITS
Not checking your email regularly
Being hostile to people on the phone
whose numbers you don’t recognise.
Being unprepared for the interview
Being unwilling or afraid to politely ask to
reschedule if the time is really
inconvenient
Not researching the company before the
interview
Getting to the interview late
Being poorly or inappropriately dressed
Lying or “stretching the truth” in your
interview
Fiddling with your phone during the interview
Not looking at your interviewer, fidgeting,
clearing your throat, cracking your knuckles…
Bad-mouthing your current employer.
Seeing every rejection as an assessment of
your value.
Calling your interviewers by their first name
without being invited to
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ONTHE JOB
BAD HABITS
Spending more time on your phone than you
do working
Getting late to work
Procrastination
Not completing assignments on time
Gossiping
Complaining about your boss, organisation or
your salary.
Showing regard only for those you believe can
help you advance.
Making excuses
Passing the responsibility for your self
development to your company.
Misuse of company assets
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MINDSETS AND HOWTHEY SHOW INYOUR DAILY ROUTINE
GOOD MINDSETS
I can always be better
Whatever I don’t know, I can learn
Time is a commodity that I must not waste
My word is my bond
A fair day’s pay is worth a fair day’s work
HOW IT SHOWS UP DAILY
Reading habits
Taking courses, either online or in class
Waking up early
Setting daily, weekly, monthly or yearly goals
Respecting time by being punctual
Keeping your promises
Finishing assigned tasks
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MINDSETS AND HOWTHEY SHOW INYOUR DAILY ROUTINE
BAD MINDSETS
I am desperate for a job
It’s too hard to get a job
My organisation is bad
No-one appreciates me.
It’s not my fault
Fear of failure
HOW IT SHOWS UP DAILY
Begging recruiters to give you a job on Social Media
Applying for jobs with no expectation of being
called.
Not giving your best on the job. Being late on
assignments, saying negative things about your org
and your boss.
Consistently making negative comments
Not taking responsibility for anything
Lack of punctuality
Resentful of others’ success
Making excuses
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CONSEQUENCES
GOOD MINDSETS AND HABITS
Mastery:You have some expertise in an area.
Reference Point:You are known for that thing.
Consistency:You demonstrate the same high standards every
time.
Creativity:You come up with ways of doing things differently.
Innovation:You develop new ideas of how to do things in that
field.
Continuous Learning:You are inspired to learn more so you can
improve.
Raised Expectations:People begin to expect the same standards
in other areas as well
Multiplier effect:Your standards in one area start affecting other
areas of your life.
BAD MINDSETS AND HABITS
Resentment
Blame game
Resistance to change
Passed over for promotions or salary increases
Blind to your flaws and faults
Undermining authority
Aggressiveness
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21. THINGSTO NOTEWHENYOUWANTTO CHANGE A HABIT
• You can’t extinguish a bad habit; you can only change it.
• To do that, you need to understand what is at the root
of it.TheWHY you express that habit.
• Clearly define the REWARD of the change.What is the
result? It has to be strong enough to MOTIVATE you
and make you BELIEVE.
• You will need a community for ACCOUNTABILITY.
22. Know your triggers and
obstacles
Create a plan. Break it
into steps.Write it
down.
Surround yourself with
the right people and
things
Be Positive.
Be kind to yourself.
Celebrate small wins
Don’t be afraid to Fail
It’s part of the process.
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• Keystone habits are habits that automatically lead to
multiple positive behaviors and positive effects in
your life.
• These habits spark “chain reactions that help other
good habits take hold.”
• In other words, building a keystone habit is like
knocking down the biggest domino — it will
automatically knock down the other dominoes as
well.
• That’s why you don’t have to change dozens of habits
to get to your goals. Instead, you only have to change
a few keystone habits that will have a ripple effect on
your life.
KEYSTONE HABITS
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EXERCISE
According to research, regular exercise (at least 3 times
per week) is a keystone habit that triggers people to
• start eating better
• have more patience
• be less stressed
• consume less alcohol
• smoke less
• be more productive at work
• have a better mood
• have better sleep quality.
By focusing on just this one habit, you automatically
experience positive effects in other areas of your life.
and become more disciplined
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MEDITATION
Studies have linked regular meditation to differences in cortical
thickness or density of gray matter in the brain;your brain
physically changes because of meditation (a process called
‘neuroplasticity’).
A study demonstrated that regular meditation practice is
correlated with increased grey matter in the areas of the brain
responsible for:
• self-discipline,willpower,emotions, behavior,judgment,focus
and our overall ability to make choices
• assisting in learning & memory and regulating emotions
• perspective-taking,empathy, and compassion
Meditation helps your brain perform better, which is why it’s a
powerful keystone habit.
Through daily meditation, you’ll experience multiple different
benefits such as better decision-making,better ability to focus,
stronger willpower,better memory, more compassion,and less
stress & anxiety.
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PLANNINGYOUR DAY
Planning your day is another keystone habit that enables
other positive habits, simply because you block time for it.
When you schedule an activity — whether your workout,
reading session, meditation, or work — you’re much more
likely to actually do it.
By pre-determining when you’re going to do what, you
remove the need for decision-making within the moment
as you’ve already created a precise plan in advance.
Psychologists call this an ‘implementation intention’.
A study showed that creating such an implementation
intention increases the success rate of following through
with an activity from 34% to 91%, meaning that by
scheduling your day, you’re much less likely to procrastinate
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SLEEP
Research has shown that those who consistently get high-
quality deep sleep tend to be more focused and productive
during the day.
Furthermore, they tend to eat less junk food and have an
overall improved better mood.
Consequences of not getting enough high-quality sleep are:,
cluttered thinking, a decrease in the ability to focus, weaker
willpower so I procrastinate more, and I don’t always
follow through with exercise, reading, or meditation.
On the contrary, when I get sufficient sleep, I tend to be
more disciplined, motivated, and productive
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FOLLOW A MORNING ROUTINE
The power of a morning routine is that you start
your day proactively instead of reactively. Instead of
serving other people’s agenda, you protect time for
your own priorities and start your day
productively.
A morning routine puts you in ‘state’ for the rest
of the day.
By doing things like journaling, meditating, eating a
healthy breakfast, exercising, setting goals &
priorities, and visualizing, you put your mind and
body in a peak performance state.
From this empowering state, it’s much easier to
work hard, stop procrastinating, and pursue your
goals with discipline.
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Remember, you can never change just one
behavior. Our behaviors are interconnected, so
when you change one behavior, other behaviors
also shift.
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7 HABITSTHAT MAKE YOU APPEAR COMPETENTATWORK
Take Notes
Socialize more
Speak with confidence
Be a problem solver
Know what's going on in the world
Master your emotions
Continuously learn
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• Proactivity has a lot to do with what we can control, what we
can influence and what is out of our reach.
• It is a combination of self-awareness, imagination, conscience
and will.
• It is an acknowledgement that our behaviour is a function of
our decisions, not our conditions.
• It means to begin today with the picture of the end of life as a
frame of reference.
• This determines what steps we should take.
• It prevents busyness without effectiveness and gaining success at
the expense on what we value.
• Everything is created twice: first in the mind, the mental creation
and then externally, the physical creation.
• The clearer the mental picture is, the easier it is for a man to shape
his own life, otherwise, others would shape it for him
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
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• To achieveWin-Win, the focus must be kept on outcomes, not
methods, on problems, not people.
• The end does NOT always justify the means.
• It’s not just about “What is in it for Me”, it’s also about how can we
both get what we want.
• Negotiation
• This talks about Prioritizing.
• Draw the line between the IMPORTANT and the URGENT.
• This means that more time should be allocated to those
things that really matter.
Put First Things First
ThinkWin-Win
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• This is the principle of
Creative Cooperation.
• Understanding that you are
part of a community and
have a role to play, makes
you less focused on Self and
more on a COMMON
PURPOSE.
• Sometimes, we need to get out of our own way and are more interested
in how things affect us than how our actions affect others.
• The act of putting someone else first makes us less focused on ourselves
• Our minds are engaged creatively to resolve the matter at hand
• This makes us feel NEEDED, RELEVANT andVALUED
Seek first to understand
then to be understood
Synergize
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REMEMBER
You have been uniquely equipped and gifted by God to fulfil your purpose.Your responsibility is to turn the raw material into a
marketable skill through knowledge, practice and building good habits.Trust the Holy Spirit for Wisdom and Guidance
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REFERENCES
The Power of habit by Charles Duhigg
7 Habits of Highly Effective people by Steven Covey
Brilliantliving.com
Medium.com
Wikipedia.com