3. Keep your calm
There are small matters and there are big issues. He who
discriminates between the two is a wise person. He who does not,
suffers. How will you face the big challenges, if you lose your
temper over insignificant stuff? Being imperfect is part of being
human. At one time or the other, all the people around us will do
or say things that are not to our liking.
If we lose our temper and pick up quarrels, the small irritations will
gradually snowball into big resentments and darken our lives. Devi
Maa once pointed out to me that we should never lose sight of the
truth that God lives within every person. When we disrespect a
person, we disrespect God.
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4. True Bhakti
Bhakti inspired by love for God is superior to bhakti done for the
fulfillment of worldly desires. It is not that one's prayers for the
comforts of the world are not heard. They are. However, it is a
wise devotee who at some stage evolves enough to serve God
out of pure love or bhakti. Such a pure love for God or Guru
asks for nothing in return. It is Devi Maa's vachan: Give and take
is trade, not bhakti.
Give and take is business. Give and take even when it is fair is a
thing of the world. True bhakti is all 'give' with no expectations
of 'take'.
If we think, we are not evolved enough to love God selflessly, we
should pray to Devi Maa so our bhakti becomes selfless.
5. Karma and grace
You always get what you deserve. Even avatars are subject to the laws
of karma. So, do not for a moment think that because you have a
guru or have developed bhakti for God, your karmas will stop
bearing fruit. Good or bad, all that you have done, thought and
believed will bear fruit. However, the guru's presence can be the
compass that guides your life through the storm of maya. Maya
does her work, guru does his duty.
You should also do what is required of you - be firm in your faith. Act
right, have faith and surrender to the great power that governs the
universe. Remember, whatever god sends on your plate be it sweet,
sour or bitter, it is all prasad because it comes from God who is ever
just. You are merely getting what you have earned. Bhakti can
however give you the strength to bear what life hands to you. A
bhakta does not lose his head when the times are good and does
not break when life hands him a tough one.
6. Be a Devotee
Mamtamai Shri Radhe Maa urges devotees to purify their
mind, speech and action through bhakti. She advocates
service to God through chanting of God's names. She
teaches that the universe is a fair place where the law
of karma holds sway. We get what we deserve. Even
the grace of a guru or God does not absolve the burden
of one's karmas.
The guru can however give one the strength to bear the
fruits of one's karmas. He can also guide one towards
karma that can bear fruits that can overshadow the
pain that comes from past karmas.
7. Bhava and bhog
It is meaningless to offer bhoga to the devata
without bhava. If you believe that it is not merely
a ritual that you are following and that you are in
the presence of divinity, you will not follow rituals
mechanically. If the bhava is present you are sure
to feel the tremendous surge of energy
emanating from the deity.
There is also the big question: What do you give to
God, who owns it all except for the flower of your
bhakti?
8. Hari Bol!
There is reason why saints constantly advise devotees
to chant the Lord’s names. We do not know when
adversity will strike and we will be compelled to
draw on our spiritual strength. Devotees who
constantly remember the Lord also find the
strength to face life’s challenges. A worldly person
remembers the Lord at the eleventh hour when all
other options have been exhausted. This is a good
moment because for many people this is the point
when they turn to God. However, it is even better
to constantly chant God’s names. Why wait for the
eleventh hour.
Shri Radhey Maa says, “Chant the names of Shri
Hari before you begin any work.”
9. Give respect, get respect
We crave for recognition and acknowledgment from our
superiors as well as peers. Who, after all, does not like
appreciation? However, while we love praise when it is
directed towards us, we forget to praise our
subordinates or those younger to us. We forget that it
is those who give respect who get respect in turn.
Respect, in other words, is a two-way lane. It is those
who exude kindness and love for all who are
in turn widely respected.
Shri Radhe Guru Maa says, “If your heart radiates
love and respect for others, your life will acquire the
sweetness of sugar candy.”
10. Who owns what?
We cling to wealth we have accumulated and believe it is ours. Is it? Most of
us are so busy accumulating this money that we do not pause long enough
to even consider why we are doing it? We don't share. We put very little of
the accumulated money in the service of God or in the service of fellow
human beings.
Why?
Because we feel if it is with us we can use it as and when we need it. We
forget that whatever we have – even our bodies made up of five elements
– is borrowed from Mother Earth. When the spirit leaves the body, the
earth claims back its share. We leave all of it behind. The money we have
accumulated with so much pain becomes reason for bitterness between
those we leave behind.
No wonder Sri Maa says: Man is not the master of his wealth, he is merely a
trustee.
11. Single-pointed focus
All names, forms and leelas of God are divine. We do
realise however that we do not resonate with all forms
equally. Some of us for instance naturally feel drawn to
the child Krishna, others to Lord Shiva and yet others to
Devi. It is important for a sadhak or bhakta to choose
one manifestation of divinity and devote all of one's
energies in that direction. Devotion to the form of
one's ishta makes one firm in one's devotion and helps
one achieve the strength to face life's challenges.
Radhey Maa says that all men and women of God
should be honored and one should pay one's respect to
every manifestation of divinity but is it advisable to
direct one's devotional energies at one ‘door’.