1. The good news is that there are a lot of effective ways in which
you can control your stress if you are struggling in coping with
stress
•Stop disapproving and comparing yourself to ultimately every
person around you. You have your positives and in addition
they have their own, you might have your high things and for
that reason so will they, and at the end of the same day
everyone knows what simply being overstressed and not one of
us enjoys it.
•Take a break: When’s the last time which you determined that
you just needed a break? When’s the last time that you cared
for yourself to some on your own time, for which you get
pleasure from ? If you’re dealing with a lot of stress then the
answer to that is probably “not for a long time now”. That is
the reason why we are so stressed in most cases. We all need
an escape now and then, and that is a well known fact. We are
not robots, we can not serve several weeks without a break.
We ought to get our breakss nearly as much as everyone else
does, which explains why it is very important for all our
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2. intellectual states.
•Practice self-maintenance: Make time for things that cause
you to be joyful. Pick-up a manuscript, take your pet out for a
walk, go strolling, go to the nearby park and actually eat an
soft ice cream in the blazing sunshine. You ultimately choose
whichever causes you to be happy, regardless of how costly it
might or might not be.
•Look for more, weep less: It’ll be worth it on the long run,
although this might be hard to do at first. Except if you’re a
psychopath that’s devoid of all inner thoughts you should
certainly maintain a favorable mindset on a regular basis.
Sure, it might sound a bit fake at first, but that doesn’t really
matter when the fact is that you will most likely improve your
mental state this way over a relatively short period of time.
If you do remind yourself to keep a positive mindset at all
times then you should be able to avoid any stress build-up over
the course of the day, although this is a sort of a “fake it until
you make it” type of an ordeal.
De-activate that bad news station and as a substitute why not
consider you go to some childish cartoons? Listen to happy-go-
lucky music and songs for after, check out some swing music
from the 50s and loosen up. Life is very good; there is
absolutely no cause to pollute your thoughts with negativity
and stress.
I think stress management is so important, I hope you agree.
By the way, if you are 'stress free'; congratulations! If not,
please read on, I know these tips will help:
Stress Management
This is a big one. Stress is literally a killer and can make life a
misery. Use these stress management tips to get and stay on
top of stress:
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3. Stress Management Tip No. 1 - Two circles that could change
your life !
These two circles certainly helped me sort my head out - I
hope they work for you too.
Step 1. Firstly, find a quiet corner where you are not likely to
be disturbed for about 30 minutes.
Step 2. Next, draw two circles, one inside the other, the larger
circle should be the width of an A4 piece of paper, the smaller
circle should be about half the size of the larger circle. Good,
so now you should have two circles on your page, one inside
the other which is about half the size of the larger one.
Step 3. Next, with a pencil, write down IN THE OUTER RING all
the things that are causing you stress (THE CAUSES) ie too
much work, not enough time etc., Think long and hard here
and be open and
honest - no one else will see this piece of paper (unless you
want them to).
Step 4. Next, write down, on a separate piece of paper, the
ACTIONS you need to take to reduce or eliminate the stress
caused by each
individual CAUSE. If the ACTION is within reach and you think
that you can and will do it then move the CAUSE to your INNER
CIRCLE,
erasing it from the OUTER RING.
Step 5. You should now be left with three things: A list of
stress CAUSES that you can do something about, they are in
your INNER CIRCLE. A list of stress CAUSES that you CANNOT
do one thing about, they are the ones left in the OUTER
RING.A list of ACTIONS that you are going to take to reduce
your stress levels.
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4. Step 6. One of the most important steps. Complete your list of
ACTIONS. If you cannot complete the ACTION for whatever
reason then the CAUSE should be moved back to the OUTER
RING.
Step 7. LISTEN BIG HERE. Stop worrying about any CAUSES
left in your OUTER RING. You CANNOT do anything about them
- so stop worrying - kick them out of your OUTER RING by
either letting the issue go - or move it inside your INNER
CIRCLE by doing something about it.
Conclusion: To reduce the amount of stress don't let CAUSES
get left in the OUTER RING - this is where stress is
created. Change It ! I appreciate that there may be some big
decisions here....
Stress Management Tip No. 2 - Get Fitter !
Exercise daily. Don't smoke. Don't drink alcohol. Drink lots of
water. Eat vegetarian.
Don't believe me? Try it for 2 weeks (you might be a little
grumpy to start) and let me know how you went.
Stress Management Tip No. 3 - Set Goals
Go and find a quiet spot where you won't be disturbed for 30
minutes, preferably away from any distractions. Take a pen and
paper. Sit for ten minutes and try to clear your head of any
thoughts. Now, draw a line on your piece of paper, at one end
of
the line imagine one dimension of your perfect life. To define
your
"perfect" life may be difficult, so start with something simple -
i.e. what type of car would you like to drive in your perfect life?
Let's call this Goal A. Now draw a circle at one end of your line
and write in the circle whatever you have defined Goal A to
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5. be. Now, decide how close you are to achieving Goal A in your
real
life. If you are close then place an "X" near to the Goal A circle,
if you are a long way away in real terms, then place your "X"
further away on your line. Next, imagine the steps that you
have to
take to move the "X" nearer to your Goal. In fact, don't just
imagine them please write them down ! Each step might
actually be
made up of several sub-steps i.e. STEP = get money, SUB-
STEP = find
job etc. The further you are away probably means that there
are
more steps to take.
Order your steps and sub-steps into a logical sequence.
When you have finished this task you should now have a clear
plan
how to achieve ONE dimension of your "perfect" life. Can you
achieve the steps ? If you can then start - the longest journey
begins with a single step. If the steps are literally IMPOSSIBLE
-
then you probably need to redefine your GOAL.
The outcome of this exercise should be less stress because you
have
lined up your ACTIONS with your GOALS, or at least got them
a lot
closer.
Next, laughter is a good stress remover, hopefully some of
these
(copied from an email circular) will bring a smile to your face:
Stress Management Tip No. 4 - THINGS I WISH I'D
KNOWN......
Any and all compliments can be handled by simply saying
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6. "Thank you."
Some people are working backstage, some are playing in the
orchestra, some are on-stage singing, some are in the
audience as
critics and some are there to applaud. Know who and where
you are.
Never give yourself a haircut after three margaritas.
When baking, follow directions. When cooking, go by your own
taste.
Never continue dating anyone who is rude to the waiter.
Never refuse a breath mint when offered.
You need only two tools. WD-40 and duct tape. If it doesn't
move
and it should, use WD-40. If it moves and shouldn't, use the
tape.
If you tell a lie, don't believe it deceives only the other person.
The five most essential words for a healthy, vital relationship:
"I
apologize" and "You are right".
Everyone seems normal until you get to know them.
When you make a mistake, make amends immediately. It's
easier to
eat crow while it's still warm.
I've learned to pick my battles; I ask myself, Will this matter
one
year from now? How about one month? One week? One day?
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7. Never pass up an opportunity to pee.
If you woke up breathing, congratulations! You have another
chance!
Living as well as you can really is the best revenge. Being
miserable because of a bad or former relationship just proves
that the other person was right about you.
Work is good but it's not that important.
Never underestimate the kindness of your fellow man.
And finally... Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it
just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
Stress Management Tip No. 5 - Be True
If you really want to eradicate stress from your life then you
need to be true to yourself and true to your family. Being true
to yourself means doing a job that you enjoy, can handle
within your capacity and one that satisfies your body, mind,
heart and soul. Try this little test: Mark on the line with a 'X'
where you think your current job is in terms of your own
personal motivation and satisfaction:
BODY MIND HEART SOUL
It also means exercising and playing regularly, eating properly
and not drinking (at all if you can). Smoking is a waste of time,
as is gambling. Being true to your family is fairly simple - it is
about keeping promises and making time.
Stress Management Tip No. 6 - The Last Straw
Think of the saying "It was the straw that broke the camel's
back." It wasn't the weight (or stress) of that final straw that
caused the break, but the accumulation of many separate
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8. straws. It's the same with stress. So, the first thing to do if you
regularly feel stressed is to DO LESS! Simplify. Set priorities.
Prevent getting to the breaking point.
Next, do something to relax every day. Proven techniques
include deep breathing, meditation, tai chi, yoga, journalling,
prayer, guided imagery, and/or vigorous exercise. These all
help reduce stimulation to the body and mind and regain a
deep sense of peace and well-being. Think of them as taking
"straws" off the camel's back so there is more room for more
without breaking.
How to "De-Stress":
Get more rest.
Develop a weekly schedule.
Learn to manage time more effectively.
Exercise regularly.
Do less. Simplify. Set priorities.
Cut down on drinking alcohol (or don't drink at all).
Reduce caffeine consumption.
Practice a relaxation technique at least 15 min./day.
Make an appointment with a health educator or counsellor to
learn
effective stress management skills.
Get information on a yoga, tai chi, or medication class.
Laugh, laugh, laugh, laugh!
So, there you have it. That's the secret. We all need a little
stress, but not too much. If you feel like you've got too much
in your life, then pick and choose the tactics from the above
selection and you'll be soon on your way to a (nearly) stress
free life.
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