2. So what is “Bullying”?
Punching, shoving, and other acts that hurt people physically.
Attempting to physically or mentally intimidate others.
Spreading bad rumors about people.
Keeping certain people out of a group.
Teasing people in a mean way.
Getting certain people to “gang up” on others.
3. What is “Cyber
Definition: “Bullying on-line or electronically, using the Internet, mobile
phones, or other technology. This includes: Sending mean text, e-
mail, or instant messages.”
Posting nasty pictures or messages about others on blog sites; My
Space / Face Book
Using someone else’s user name to spread rumors or lies about
4. Do you bully others?
Shoved, punched, or pushed someone in a mean way just because
you felt like it?
Had someone else hurt someone you don’t like?
Spread a nasty rumor about someone?
You and your friends have kept someone from playing with you?
Teased people in a mean way, calling them names, making fun of
the way they look or dress?
Been part of a group that did these things?
Mentally or physically intimidated others?
5. Effects of bullying
15-25% of students are bullied.
15-20% of students bully others.
Students who bully are more likely to skip school, drop out, abuse
alcohol and drugs, and get into trouble with the law.
Some students who are bullied, skip school and are afraid to
come to school.
6. Do adults engage in bullying
Employers ignore workplace bullying because they can.
37% of the total work force has been bullied at some point in their career.
Workplace bullying includes:
• Persistently criticizing work, mistakes, spreading gossip, exclusion,
insulting habits, attitudes, private life
• Interpersonal conflict
The office bully is often the boss.
7. Myths about bullying!
Bullies have low self esteem.
Bullies are rejected by peers and have no friends.
Being a victim builds character.
Being a victim will yield a violent teen.
Bullying affects only the bully and the victim.
8. Facts about bullying
Bullying is as pervasive among adults as children.
There is a “victim profile”.
Can be predicted.
Increases with age.
Bullies are viewed as “cool” by peers.
Bullies are generally larger, stronger than their victims.
Bullying education program don’t work.
Zero tolerance doesn’t work.
9. What you can do
Always tell an adult.
Stay in a group.
If it feels safe, try to stand up to the person who is bullying you (YELL
“LEAVE ME ALONE”).
If you are being bullied online, DO NOT REPLY.
Join clubs or take part in activities to meet new kids.
10. Fighting Back
Is not politically correct.
Can lead to injury.
Can result in disciplinary action.
Can often be successful.
Can help self esteem.
Is often based on the moral values of the parent.
Explain to the parent/student that sometimes you have to pay a price
for what you personally believe is ethical behavior.
11. What causes bullying
Natural need to establish a “pecking” order.
To control the environment.
To establish group dominance.
To conform to group norms.
It’s fun to be dominant in the group.
13. Why do kids support the
To fit in and conform with group behavior.
Fear of retribution by the bully or group.
It boosts self esteem not to be the lowest in the food chain.
Relief that that they are not the victim.
Ethical/moral behavior such as justice, absolute right/wrong and the
need to defend the weak/innocent is no longer stressed and taught.
Ask kids who their heroes are; You will be surprised.
14. What is the victim profile?
Afraid of confrontation
Socially Isolated / Socially awkward
Shy and Quiet
16. What can parents do?
Model assertive behavior.
Constantly provide verbal and non verbal signals it is OK for
the child to defend themselves and their body space.
Teach kids to be good reporters of what happens to
themselves and others.
Teach appropriate social behavior.
Think it is your fault
Keep it to yourself
Skip school or avoid activities because of fear
Think you are a “nark” or “tattle tale”
Tell an adult
The right thing
18. Are you a bystander?
If you see or hear someone getting bullied:
Report the bullying to an adult.
Support the person who is being bullied.
Stand up to the person who is bullying.
(If you feel safe or just tell an adult)
19. Do you bully others?
Think about how it affects others.
Put yourself in their shoes.
Imagine about how it must make them feel.
It should never make you feel good.