2. Setting Your Intention for the
Day
What I intend to experience or
take away from this day is…
3. Course Objectives
Understand coaching
Understand how context impacts
experience
Understand levels of consciousness
and how it impacts caregivers and
service providers
Develop a coaching model for
coaching caregivers in multi stress
families
4. Multi Stressed Families
Violence or corporal punishment
Substance abuse and other addictions
Poverty
Lack of employment or under employment
Mental health problems
Multi-generational problems
Engaged with various service providers
5. Multi Stressed Families
Lower educational levels
Lacking positive role models
Often lowered self-esteem
Multiple problems over multiple
generations
6. Parents of Multi-Stressed Families
Frazzled
Overwhelmed
Stressed
Often feel defeated
Want to do well in life
Uncertain how to improve
Lack of opportunity
Stigmatized
Low level of consciousness
7. Service Providers of Multi Stressed Families
Often experiencing secondary trauma
Lack of resources
Excessive administrative demands (stats and
numbers)
Interacting with multiple service sectors
Changing service models and regulations
Stigmatized
Overwhelmed with work load and demands
Stressed
10. Survival:
Predominant feeling that life is hard
Often feels victimized by things and people
Apathy and disengagement
Angry that life is so hard
Blames others
11. Stress
Life is difficult but I try to do better
Hard worker
Resigned
Willing to learn more to get ahead
Able to work with others in a
cooperative fashion
Stress
12. Transformation
Living beyond the notion that life is hard
Committed to personal growth and the
growth of all that one is involved with
Recognizes the natural flow of life and is
able to align with it
Takes little personally and maintains
harmonious relations with all people and
circumstances
Transformation
13. Transcendence
Lives in peaceful harmony and joy
Recognizes the ease and sacredness in life
Able to create extraordinary outcomes for
oneself and for large groups of people
Natural motivator
Feels at one with life and humanity
Transcendence
15. Understanding Context
The attitudinal or energetic
environment inside of which
anything lives
Context gives rise to experience
What is the context of multi
stressed families?
What is the context of service
providers of multi stressed families?
16. 10 Ways to Practice Self Care at Work
1. Start your day with an intention.
2. Remove yourself from negative conversations.
3. Never gossip, complain or blame others.
4. Take a breath-break between every activity.
5. Plan your day and what you want to
accomplish. Leave room in your schedule for
unplanned interruptions.
17. 10 Ways to Practice Self Care at Work
6. Express appreciation and gratitude to coworkers.
7. Express appreciation and gratitude to your
supervisors and managers.
8. Eat lunch and healthy snacks throughout the day.
9. Drink plenty of water.
10. Go for a walk, move your body.
23. Engagement
Establish a positive connection between
self and caregiver
Evaluate and intentionally determine
your perception of the client: who do
you say they are?
Handling the business side of the
relationship: paperwork, rules, policies
Affirming the caregivers desire for a
better future
Establishing an empowering perspective:
Focus on what they want and are doing
well.
25. Envision
Help clients think about and create a
vision for what they want for their
children and family.
Ask open-ended, compelling questions
like:
In a perfect world, how would you be
parenting your children.
What is the best possible image of
your family life. What do you wish it
was like?
What are you already doing that is
similar to this vision?
What would you like to be doing more
of?
27. Assess
This phase of coaching helps to identify the gap
between the client’s vision for what they want
and how they are actually living and behaving.
Use self assessment inventories, self-monitoring
tools and checklists to help them identify the
areas for skill development.
29. Design
Create a plan of action to move toward the
vision
What resources are needed?
What behavior changes are needed?
What support does the client need to change
those behaviors?
31. Integrate
The new behavior becomes more ingrained.
A new normal is being established.
Help client identify their progress – however small
that progress may be.
32. 1. Self-Awareness
2. Social Awareness
3. Self-Management
4. Relationship Skills
5. Responsible Decision Making
The 5 EQ Competencies
Coaching Parents to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Children
34. Self-Awareness
Accurately assessing one’s own
thoughts, feelings, interests, values, and
strengths
Recognizing how they influence
choices and actions
Maintaining a well-grounded sense of
self-confidence
Across
Development
Elementary Grades:
Able to recognize
and accurately
label simple
emotions such as
sadness, anger, and
happiness
Middle School:
Should be able to
analyze factors that
trigger their stress
reactions.
High School:
Are expected to
analyze how various
expressions of
emotion affect
others.
35. Social Awareness
Taking others’ perspective and empathizing with
them
Recognizing and appreciating individual and
group similarities and differences
Recognizing and using family, school, and
community resources
ACROSS
DEVELOPMENT
ELEMENTARY GRADES:
SHOULD BE ABLE TO
IDENTIFY VERBAL,
PHYSICAL, AND
SITUATIONAL CUES
INDICATING HOW
OTHERS FEEL.
MIDDLE SCHOOL:
SHOULD BE ABLE TO
PREDICT OTHERS’
FEELINGS AND
PERSPECTIVES IN
VARIOUS
SITUATIONS.
HIGH SCHOOL:
SHOULD BE ABLE TO
EVALUATE THEIR
ABILITY TO
EMPATHIZE WITH
OTHERS.
36. Self-Management
Regulating one’s emotions to handle
stress, control impulses, and persevere in
overcoming obstacles
Setting and monitoring progress toward
personal, academic and religious goals
Expressing emotions appropriately
Across Development
Elementary Grades:
Children are
expected to describe
the steps of setting
and working toward
goals.
Middle School:
Should be able to set
and make a plan
to achieve a short-
term personal or
academic goal.
High School:
Should be able to
identify strategies
to make use of
available school
and community
resources and
overcome
obstacles in
achieving a long-
37. Relationship Skills
Establishing and maintaining healthy and
rewarding relationships based on
cooperation, respect and mutual support
Resisting inappropriate social pressure
Preventing, managing, and resolving
interpersonal conflict
Seeking help when needed
Across
Development
Elementary Grades:
Should have an
ability to describe
approaches to
making and
keeping friends.
Middle School:
Are expected to
demonstrate co-
operation and
team-work to
promote group
goals.
High School:
Are expected to
evaluate uses of
communication
skills with peers,
teachers and
family members.
38. Responsible Decision-Making
Making decisions based on consideration
of:
Ethical standards
Safety concerns
Appropriate social norms
Respect for others, and
Likely consequences of various actions
Applying decision-making skills to social and
academic situations
Contributing to the
well-being of one’s
family, school and
community
Across
Developme
nt
Elementary
Grades:
Should be able to
identify a range of
decisions they
make at home and
school.
Middle School:
Should be able to
evaluate strategies
for resisting peer
pressure to engage
in unsafe or
unethical activities.
High School:
Should be able to
analyze how their
current decision-
making affects
their yeshiva,
seminary, or
college and career
prospects
40. Family Life
Feel about ourselves and how
others will react to our feelings
Think about these feelings and
what choices we have in reacting
Express hopes and fears
Through family life, we learn how to:
41. Family Life
This learning takes place:
In what parents say and do
In how adults treat each
other
When parents are emotionally competent in
their own relationships, they are more
capable of helping their children work
through their emotional challenges.
43. How do Parent’s See Their
Role?
Gain compliance
Children should do as
they are told.
Eliminate negative
behaviors and
emotions.
Sees negative emotion
and behavior as
manipulation.
Instills fear rather than
gains respect.
Sees self as “The Boss”
Develop the child
Sees negative emotion
and behavior as a
normal part of the
child’s growth.
Helps child label
feelings
Sets clear, consistent
limits and allows
freedom within them.
Shows empathy with
the child’s emotional
upsets.
Sees self a “Teacher or
Guide.”
44. How Beliefs Shape Our World
Common Parental Beliefs:
Life is hard
My children must show love and respect to me
My children should (must) do what I say
I’m the boss
My children’s behavior says something about me
My job is to make my children behave/gain
compliance
Children should have the same expectations as
adults
46. Seeing the Link
How do you want your child to be when
they are grown up?
For example: confident, happy,
independent, kind
What actions/behavior from you will help
them develop those characteristics?
For example: being a role model,
showing unconditional love, helping
them learn social skills
47. Coaching Multi Stressed Families Means
Collaborator
Educator
Mentor
Guide
Cheerleader
Emotionally intelligent role model
Communicator
You are a:
48. Coaching is taking a
people where they
want to go but
cannot take
themselves.
49. Contact me for more
assistance with the
important work you do!
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