The document discusses the concept of humility in leadership known as the Calcutta Paradox. It notes that humility is magnetic for leaders, as when they understate their value, others are drawn to them, but when they overstate it, others are repelled. It uses the examples of Mother Teresa and John the Baptist to illustrate humble leadership. The document contrasts the results of pride versus humility, and provides signs to distinguish the two. It emphasizes that humility involves having an accurate view of oneself and focusing on others' potential rather than failures.
3. The Calcutta Paradox
Humility is magnetic in a leader. When we
“Under-Speak” with regard to our value, others
are drawn toward us and our influence increases.
When we “Over-Speak,” others are repelled.
When it comes to self-description, leaders know
people will fill what is lacking and empty what it
too full.
5. Mother Teresa
Her order became the largest world wide
Inspired seven other organizations
Won the Nobel Peace Prize 1979
Harvard Graduation
Before Presidents
Most influential women
6. Mother Teresa
“I am just a pencil in the hand of
a writing God who is sending a
love letter to world.”
8. John The Baptist
John 1:23-26
John replied in the words of Isaiah the prophet, "I
am the voice of one calling in the desert, 'Make
straight the way for the Lord.' "Now some Pharisees
who had been sent questioned him, "Why then do
you baptize if you are not the Christ, nor Elijah, nor
the Prophet?" "I baptize with water," John replied,
"but among you stands one you do not know. He is
the one who comes after me, the thongs of whose
sandals I am not worthy to untie."
9. John The Baptist
John 3:26-30
They came to John and said to him, "Rabbi, that man who
was with you on the other side of the Jordan—the one you
testified about—well, he is baptizing, and everyone is going
to him." To this John replied, "A man can receive only what
is given him from heaven. You yourselves can testify that I
said, 'I am not the Christ but am sent ahead of him.' The
bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the
bridegroom waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when
he hears the bridegroom's voice. That joy is mine, and it is
now complete. He must become greater; I must become
less.”
10. George Whitfield
“Let the name of Whitfield perish, but Christ be
glorified. Let my name die everywhere, let even
my friends forget me, if by that means the cause
of the blessed Jesus be promoted. But what is
Calvin, or what is Luther? Let us look above
names and parties; let Jesus be our all in all- So
that He is preached… I care not who is
uppermost.
11. George Whitfield
I know my place… even to be the servant of all.
I am content to wait until the judgment day for
the clearing up of my reputation; and after I am
dead I desire no other epitaph than this, “Here
lies G.W. What sort of man he was the great day
will discover.”
12. The Calcutta Paradox
Proverbs 25:6-7 “Do not exalt yourself in the king's
presence, and do not claim a place among great men; it
is better for him to say to you, "Come up here," than
for him to humiliate you before a nobleman.”
Proverbs 27:2 “Let another praise you, and not your
own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips.”
People will fill what is lacking and empty what it too full…
13. Humility is the keynote:
Humility
Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan
a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the
foundation of humility. --Saint Augustine
14. Humility
Humility is freedom from your own driven ego.
--Martha Kilpatrick
Humility is nothing but truth, and pride is nothing
but lying. -- Vincent de Paul
Humility is nothing else but a right judgment of
ourselves. --William Law
15. Humility
There is no room for God in him who is full
of himself. --Martin Buber
Humility is offering no resistance to the
dealings of the Lord with us. --Chip Brogden
Humility is to make a right estimate of one's
self. – Charles H. Spurgeon
16. Humility
The meek man is not a human mouse afflicted
with a sense of his own inferiority. He has
accepted God's estimate of his own life: In
himself, nothing; In God, everything. He knows
well that the world will never see him as God
sees him and he has stopped caring.-- A.W.
Tozer
17. Results of Pride
God’s opposition - James 4:6, Proverbs 15:25
God will detest you - Proverbs 16:5
Disgrace - Proverbs 11:2
Destruction - Proverbs 16:18
Dissention- Proverbs 13:10
A ruined life -Proverbs 29:1
Poverty and shame- Proverbs 13:18
18. Results of Humility
Grace- James 4:6, 1 Peter 5:5
Exaltation- 1 Peter 5:6, James 4:10, Luke 18:14
Wisdom- Proverbs 11:2
Honor - Proverbs 15:33
Deliverance from wrath- Zephaniah 2:3
Greatness - Matthew 18:4
Wealth and life- Proverbs 22:4
19. Humility
James 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture
says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the
humble."
Luke 18:14
"I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went
home justified before God. For everyone who exalts
himself will be humbled, and he who humbles
himself will be exalted."
20. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people focus on the failures of others and
can readily point out those faults. Humble
people are more conscious of their own spiritual
need than of anyone else's.
Proud people are self-righteous; they think
highly of themselves and look down on others.
Humble people think the best of others; they
esteem others better than themselves.
21. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people have a critical, fault-finding spirit.
They look at everyone else's faults with a
microscope and their own with a telescope.
Humble people are compassionate-they have the
kind of love that overlooks a multitude of sins;
they can forgive much because they know how
much they have been forgiven.
22. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people have an independent, self-sufficient spirit.
Humble people have a dependent spirit; they recognize
their need for God and for others.
Proud people have a feeling-conscious or subconscious
that "this ministry or organization is privileged to have
me and my gifts." They focus on what they can do for
God. Humble people have a heart attitude that says. "I
am blessed to have any part in this ministry" they know
that they have nothing to offer God except the life of
Jesus flowing through them.
23. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people have a drive to be recognized and
appreciated for their efforts. Humble people have a
sense of their own unworthiness; they are thrilled that
God would use them at all.
Proud people feel confident in how much they know.
Humble people are aware of how very much they have
to learn.
Proud people are self-conscious; they worry about what
others think of them. Humble people are not
preoccupied with what others think of them.
24. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people can't bear to fail or for anyone to
think they are less than perfect. This can drive
them to extremes- workaholic tendencies;
perfectionism, the tendency to drive others or to
place unrealistic expectations on themselves or
others. Humble people recognize and live
within God-given limits.
25. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people keep others at arm's length.
Humble people are willing to take the risks of
getting close to others and loving intimately.
Proud people are quick to blame others.
Humble people accept personal responsibility
and can acknowledge where they were wrong in
a situation.
26. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people wait for others to come and ask
forgiveness when there is a misunderstanding or
a breach in a relationship. Humble people take
the initiative to be reconciled, no matter how
wrong the other party may have been.
Proud people are unapproachable or defensive
when corrected. Humble people receive
correction with a humble, open spirit.
27. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people want to be sure that no one finds out
about their sin- their instinct is to cover up. Humble
people aren't overly concerned with who knows or who
finds out about their sin- they are willing to be exposed
if it is for the glory of God.
Proud people have a hard time saying "I was wrong;
will you please forgive me?" Humble people are quick
to admit their failure and to seek forgiveness when
necessary.
28. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people tend to deal in generalities when
confessing their sin to God. ("Dear Lord, please
forgive all of my sins...") Humble people are able
to acknowledge specifics when confessing their
sin; "Lord I agree with you that I have been
ungrateful lately; I confess that I am being
selfish; I have a critical spirit; I have
resentment..."
29. Signs of Pride (VS) Humility
Proud people compare themselves with others
and feel worthy of respect. Humble people
compare themselves with the holiness of God
and feel a desperate need for His mercy.
Proud people find their worth in who they are
better than, rather than in what God thinks of
them.
30. The Calcutta Paradox
Humility is magnetic in a leader. When we
“Under-Speak” with regard to our value, others
are drawn toward us and our influence increases.
When we “Over-Speak,” others are repelled.
When it comes to self-description, leaders know
people will fill what is lacking and empty what it
too full.
31. Questions to ASK?
How do I handle confrontation and criticism?
Do I focus on peoples failures or their potential?
Do I look down on others? And feed my ego on
their failures?
Do I secretly think slanderous thoughts of
others?
Do I criticize people?
32. Questions to ASK?
Am I ready to be judged by God in the same
way I judge others?
Do I want mercy for myself, but justice for
everyone else?
Have I forgotten all that I have been forgiven
for?
Do I like exercising authority over others?
33. Questions to ASK?
Do I feel superior to others?
Do I advertise my successes? Accomplishments?
Do I try to make others walk away feeling like
champions or inflate their opinion of me?
Do I advertise all your knowledge and
experience?
Do I try to win every argument?
Do I always try to get the last word?
34. Humility
Micah 6:8
“He has showed you, O man, what is good. And
what does the LORD require of you? To act
justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly
with your God.”
35. The Calcutta Paradox
Luke 14:11
For everyone who exalts himself will be
humbled, and he who humbles himself will be
exalted."
36. The Calcutta Paradox
We’ve got some deep classes at HA…this one is
real practical.
I encourage you guys to take time and flip back
through the images and think on their meaning
37. The Calcutta Paradox
Are you the Iceberg? What’s under the surface
will sink you?
Starving Baker? Are you really fed or too busy in
life (that’s not just a challenge here!)
Emotional Fuel—where do you get it?
Oversized Gift?
Do you hate the pop quizes in life?
Has reverse mullet passed you by?