Resiliency for Rebels (and everyone else)
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The document provides 12 practices for building resilience when creating change. These include hunting the good by writing down positive things each day, setting meaningful goals, remembering how doors have closed but others opened, naming emotions felt, writing self-compassion letters, changing negative self stories, using character strengths, not exaggerating problems, expressing gratitude, experiencing awe, spending time with friends and family, and nourishing one's body through healthy behaviors. The document encourages developing these "change muscles" to sustain oneself through difficult challenges. It promotes Lois Kelly's books and training services on resilience.
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Resiliency for Rebels (and everyone else)
- 1. RESILIENCY FOR REBELS (and everyone else)! Practices to build change muscles! @LoisKelly | @RebelsAtWork!
- 2. โThanks for emphasizing the necessary rebel self-care to keep us engaged as happy warriors.โ! โThe CEO doesnโt want you to talk about self-care because he thinks itโs too soft. But between you and me? Thatโs what we REALLY need here.โ! Boy, were we surprised when Rebels told us they wanted MANY MORE ideas about self care. ! ! Why? Creating change always takes longer and is more dif๏ฌcult than we think. To go the distance we need to take good care of ourselves.!
- 3. All lasting change requires new practices to build our change muscles.! Here are my 12 favorite practices, all grounded in Positive Psychology research.! Lois Kelly!
- 4. HUNT THE GOOD! Every night write down the three things that went well. ! ! This makes you feel good about all that IS going well in your life and work. !
- 5. DARE TO SET ! โWANT TOโ GOALS! ! Set a goal for something you really want to do vs. what you have to do.! ! Achieving meaningful goals boosts our resiliency.! !
- 6. DOOR OPEN,! DOOR CLOSED! Think back on three times in your life where a door โclosed.โ It could have been a job, a missed promotion, a relationship. Then think about what new doors subsequently opened. Write them down.! ! Remembering that good things have come after disappointments before in our life helps us get through tough situations and recover more quickly.!
- 7. NAME THAT EMOTION! ! When youโre emotional, name the feeling. ! ! Naming a feeling helps us calm down and think more rationally and creatively. ! !
- 8. SELF-COMPASSION LETTER! โขโฏ Remember a dif๏ฌcult or stressful situation and how it affected you. ! ! โขโฏ Acknowledge your feelings or thoughts, as well as what you (were or are) hoping for and needing. e.g., โDear Donna, I know that you are feeling [sad/afraid/angry/disappointed in yourself, etc.]. You were really [looking forward toโฆ/trying your best toโฆ, etc.]โ ! ! โขโฏ Write about both the stress/suffering and the core need underneath it: a desire for health, safety, appreciation, connection, achievement, etc.! ! โขโฏ Offer a message of common humanity. e.g., all humans make mistakes, sometimes fail, get angry, experience disappointment, etc. ! โขโฏ Mentor yourself with some compassionate advice or encouragement. What would you say to a good friend or family member in this situation? ! ! โขโฏ After writing the letter, read it out loud to yourself, or put it away and bring it out when you need some self-compassion. This letter writing will help you make sense of dif๏ฌcult situations and make you happier.!
- 9. CHANGE YOUR STORY! Change the story of how you think about yourself and your life to one that is more positive, though still grounded in realities. ! ! You will begin to focus more on the positive aspects of your life, improving your well-being. !
- 10. USE YOUR CHARACTER! STRENGTHS! Know, use and celebrate your intrinsic character strengths.*! ! Living the best version of ourselves gives meaning and ful๏ฌllment to our lives and our work.! * To iden)fy your character strengths: www.viacharacter.org
- 11. DONโT MAKE A HIMALYAN! OUT OF A MOUNTAIN! When the sh*t hits the fan, donโt become a drama king or queen, making the situation bigger than it is. ! ! Remember most bad events arenโt permanent, and are likely to have happened no matter what you could have said or did.! ! Being realistic vs. pessimistic and overly dramatic helps us better deal with dif๏ฌcult situations. !
- 12. LOVE THY! TEAM MEMBERS! Thank and appreciate your team members for speci๏ฌc things they do that make work better.! ! Expressing gratitude improves peopleโs self-worth and likelihood of helping one another. It is also the most sustainable motivator at work.!
- 13. SAVOR THE AWE Savor the sense of wonder and beauty wherever you see it.! ! Experiencing a sense of awe promotes altruism, loving-kindness, and magnanimous behavior. !
- 14. MAKE A FRIENDS! AND FAMILY PLAN! Spend more time with family and friends having fun. Schedule time so it happens.! ! People who spend more time with others are much happier than those who spend a lot of time alone. ! These are my funny and amazing sisters.
- 15. NOURISH! YOUR BODY! Eat well. Sleep soundly. Move joyously. Sing with abandon. Groove to your music. Take a big breath.! ! Dancing, singing, storytelling and silence are the four universal salves for the soul.!
- 16. 16! Create positive change! Use resiliency in dying! Dare to tell your stories! Books on resiliency and bravery by Lois Kelly! Available at Amazon.com!
- 17. For more information on one-day master classes on creating positive for your organization and 6-week team resiliency programs, please get in touch with Lois at lkelly@foghound.com.! www.foghound.com! www.rebelsatwork.com!